DH grunting with dressing gown of doom

[Littlemissdaredevil]

DH has a ‘bad’ shoulder. The non-stop grunting every time he moves is driving me mad. Even picking up the remote control deserves a little grunt. He’s also wearing the dressing gown of doom. In the meantime he is doing zero in the house due to his injury. I’m heavily pregnant and working FT.
For reference he hasn’t been off work, won’t see the GP, won’t got to the shop 1 minute walk away to get some ibuprofen, and was able to play football a couple of days ago. I wish he would just go and lie in bed then at least I wouldn’t have to put up with the grunting and shuffling.

Another one who thinks he is being a bit selective with the pain. I suffer from shoulder pain and it does get you down but if I could play football with it then I'd be well enough to do everything else.
The advice I was given by HCPs is not to immobilize my arm but to keep moving and do as much normal activity as you can.

It's not just The Dress Gown of Doom is it, it's The Slipper Shuffle of Suffering too.

They should name sections of menswear along those lines.

We must be married to the same man! The sudden rallying in any illness when Tuesday night football comes around is nothing short of a miracle! Love the dressing gown of doom.

Whenever I feel unwell, I would give anything to be able to retire to my bedroom and just rest, so it is really really annoying to witness my husband moping on the sofa, moaning and groaning and not doing anything to help himself ie take paracetamol!

I hope his shoulder is better soon for your sake!

I actually thought the grunting in your title and the dressing gown was going to be rude hahah.

My oh is in the bath soaking his bad back. He's still doing things though thankfully. How do men get in this mess haha x

I hear that a good, hard, swift whack in the testicles is an excellent cure for niggling shoulder pain in men.

Get some deep heat and put it on his shoulder (perhaps not as thinly as suggested) and tell him if it is that bad you will do it 3 times a day until it is better and he can do stuff. Also its a shame he wont be able to play football as well until it is better cos obviously that will hurt it too much

ememem why on earth are you putting up with that. He sounds absolutely awful. Are you scared of his reaction if you actually call him out on it

Update - I have been informed that the injury has been upgraded to a ‘trapped nerve’ despite him making various stretching movements and swinging his arm round.

DH is now in the bath - thank goodness. I’m going to go to Boots and get him some stronger painkillers then throw them in the direction of the bathroom and then go out!

DH does a manual job which he has carried on doing since Tuesday when the soreness started. Therefore, it appears to be an intermittent trapped nerve that only happens on weeknights when he doesn’t play football and at weekends where there is urgent DIY that needs doing

Anyone else find these posts about awful men doing awful things really depressing?

I get so irritated by these inadequate men-children that I want to give each and every one of them a piece of my mind on behalf of the OP. Ugh.

Normally, I find the best type of thing in this situation is to force DH to go to bed and provide him with some lemsip. Then I normally carry on my day as normal once he is shut away and I can’t hear the moaning.

Don’t worry I have a way to call him out on it later

Self-diagnosing, is he?

Test him by saying that next weekend you want to clear out the garage. I bet you anything it will be upgraded to dislocation/fracture by then.

Oh to live on Themyscira...

Ah the magic of man injuries n ailments! Mine is sure his arm might go septic from a spot that won’t go away.., tis surely infected! He keeps picking it and ran when I produced TCP. Clearly I’ll have to raise the children alone when his arm falls off.

He’s also starved this morning as we didn’t have any meat for breakfast.. so he’s paced like a cat with an empty dish for 45 minutes. I’ve had cereal, dc has had toast n porridge. Cause of death lack of sausage... in addition to the sepsis of course.

He also believes paracetamol is a scam by big pharma.. his own words not a fucking joke he thinks they do nothing.

There is good news in your case OP. If you’re heavily pregnant, he’s already provided the essential genetic material, and as he’s clearly doing sweet fuck all even while you’re heavily pregnant, you won’t even notice he’s gone except to breathe a sigh of relief, should he have an.... accident.

Oh no, an intermittent trapped nerve is 10x worse, it occurs at the most inconvenient moments.
People who refuse to take OTC painkillers when they're ill as if you've just offered them crack cocaine and then whinge and moan about how ill they're feeling annoy the fuck out of me.

Buy some deep heat! DD has been moaning about her knee gave her deep heat last night and its better this morning. I think its a mix of actually working and not wanting it again.

Give him that and painkillers and frankly tell him to get his act together

He does not have a trapped nerve. I get this in my shoulder a couple of times a year and the pain is excruciating. When it happens i cannot move my arm more than an inch because of the pain and sleep is impossible. Even ibuprofen and prescription 30mg co-codamol taken every two hours doesn't really touch the pain.

Oh Luna your poor husband
He needs to get some air on his arm, is there not a local sandwich shop you can send him round to to get himself a nice healthful sausage sandwich and some lunch for you and the kids?

Has he been sitting with his eyes closed?

DH does this when not well and feeling he needs more sympathy. Responds to questions with them closed or opens them looking sad. I ignore it.

So he has roused himself from the sofa of anguish and dragged himself to the pool of sorrows.

Buy some extra strong Deep Heat whack it on his shoulder and wait for his reaction.

@timeisnotaline good point. DH has already provided the essential genetic material. Plus I made sure we both took out decent life insurance.

@MrsDoylesTeaBags there is, there’s a van that parks at the end of the street.. which would even cook it for him!

Unfortunately the wind may blow his arm off.. can’t be too careful.

I feel for you op, DH injured his shoulder messing about with 2 year old DC1 at the park, three days after I had a csection for DC2. I ended up doing absolutely everything for all of us for weeks after, splitting the section wound and ending up with an infection, all while DH moped about in track suit of doom doing fuck all, although he could still play guitar for hours on end It's a miracle I didn't divorce him.

men always have to be so brave instead of taking painkillers/going to the drs/just shutting up they have to moan. my dp had an upset stomach in the week didnt want diocalm buscopan or paracetamol just said he would be ok then proceeded to wince/moan/groan every five seconds

Help him tie the belt. Right round his neck...
Hoorah for British sense of humour, Oh I am so enjoying this thread !
Mine is grunting, moaning, dragging his slippers across the tiles, (I have just slung them out of the french doors, there going to be more moaning when he can't find them later) & talking to himself, "Oh God, O O O, fuck", repeat over & over, all day & night... he has a mystery back pain, since November
I said, Stop your constant whinging, I am not a doctor, if it's that bad, go & see a professional that can help. So finally he has had a scanner, blood test, echograph... Nothing, There is nothing wrong with him, except he is a 66 year old attention seeking baby.

Well there is that Luna, probably safer for him to lay on the sofa occasionally reminding you of his ailment.