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Original poster

DH work colleague weird message

120 replies

cantwell · 15/02/2020 22:21

I work with DH,

This evening a young female who works with us (but closer with him) sent him a heart as a message. Nothing else, just that.

AIBU to message her about this?

OP posts:
Sparklesocks · 15/02/2020 22:22

Have you asked him about it?

FakeFraudSquad · 15/02/2020 22:23

I’d assume it was sent by mistake. I certainly wouldn’t message her.

CoffeeCoinneseur · 15/02/2020 22:23

What has your DH said about it? What was his explanation?

Janedoe82 · 15/02/2020 22:23

Probably some chain thing to do with Caroline Flack or breast cancer

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/02/2020 22:23

Why would you ask her? That would be embarrassing. Ask him.

WorraLiberty · 15/02/2020 22:23

Shouldn't he be the one messaging her about it?

BemidjiMinnesota · 15/02/2020 22:24

Dont message her, just let your DH ignore it. If she starts sending him filth then he can tell her it's inappropriate and block her.

covetingthepreciousthings · 15/02/2020 22:24

How did you see the message?

Boom45 · 15/02/2020 22:24

What has your husband said?

Original poster
cantwell · 15/02/2020 22:24

He says he has no idea and it's totally random!
I just want to call her out on it?

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RogueV · 15/02/2020 22:24

Suspicious

Ask him

FrivolousPancake · 15/02/2020 22:26

What’s the rest of their thread of text like?

Boom45 · 15/02/2020 22:28

If it's totally random I'd probably assume it's a mistake or a stupid forward. As you all work together I'd probably say something on Monday (or when you're back), lighthearted and ask her what the heart message was about. Same way you might if you'd got an out if the blue message like that from her.

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 15/02/2020 22:28

Surely it's for him to call out, especially if you work together? Yours making a lord

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 15/02/2020 22:28

You're making a lot of assumptions that could make work awkward

Sweetandawfulsour · 15/02/2020 22:28

A simple “?” sent by husband.

FakeFraudSquad · 15/02/2020 22:29

Call her out on it?!

It’s most likely been sent in error.

I sent a colleague 370 monkey emojis via WhatsApp once because I accidentally sat on my phone and it was the last emoji I’d used.

It’s a heart emoji. Please try and get this in perspective.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 15/02/2020 22:29

You do nothing. You won’t be calling her out on it, that’s not how it works.

He can message her about it or ignore her or whatever he feels the right action is here, with your input; but it comes from him. Not you.

Sparklesocks · 15/02/2020 22:30

I think it would be a bit odd for you to ask her about it. Would make more so for your husband to reply and ask what it was for.

YouJustDoYou · 15/02/2020 22:30

It's not up to you to deal with. It's up to him.

Pardonwhat · 15/02/2020 22:31

Don’t ask her. As said above, could be a mistake or a chain message thing and could make things very awkward at work.
What has your partner had to say about it?

FluffyLamkins · 15/02/2020 22:31

Yes, if I got that I’d reply with - you must have sent this to the wrong person.
It may be a mistake but it might also be someone fishing to see if they get a positive response back.

WorraLiberty · 15/02/2020 22:35

He says he has no idea and it's totally random!
I just want to call her out on it?

Why isn't your husband 'calling her out on it'?

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/02/2020 22:40

I just want to call her out on it?

So you keep saying. Why?

Original poster
cantwell · 15/02/2020 22:42

The rest of their text thread is not incriminating. Mainly her texting but all about work. He replies briefly usually.
Other colleagues have said before that she fancies him. Just wondering why she thinks its appropriate to send him a heart! He said he will just ignore it.

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