DH work colleague weird message

[cantwell]

I work with DH,

This evening a young female who works with us (but closer with him) sent him a heart as a message. Nothing else, just that.

AIBU to message her about this?

If I received a random heart emoji from a male colleague and there was no funny business going on, I would have 0 problem texting them like “?” Or “what’s with the heart?” Or similar to reassure my husband. Of course it looks a bit bizarre.

If he won’t do that I would wonder why not - what sort of reply would he expect she would send to that?

Definitely one for your husband to tackle. If he isn't willing to put a boundary in place then this would set off alarm bells ringing for me but I do know that having been cheated on, I am in the overly suspicious camp about stuff like this.

I once saw emails and texts between my ex and his very good work friend and he strongly fought off any attempt by me to persuade him that hearts and kisses all over the place might be inappropriate and that they upset me.

He lives with her now...…

Has your dh addressed this yet op?

He needs to tell her that he does not appreciate such unprofessional communication.

It may be an accident.... Or she may have set it up that way so he replies and it engages a non work related chat

@cantwell any update?

I’m surprised at the amount of people saying the op shouldn’t do anything! Talk about burying your head in the sand...colleagues have told her this woman fancies her dh...
Very suspicious if you ask me.

Just say there was something going on, he’s hardly going to say “oh yes, darling - we’ve been flirting/meeting up/shagging” is he? Of course he’s going to say it’s nothing!
I would at the very least ask her why she sent it in a light-hearted manner and gauge her reaction. And I’d be keeping a very close eye out in future.

I wouldn't be happy about this and I'd expect my partner to address it and shut it down if it is all innocent...

@cantwell did DH respond?

I'd want my DH to reply saying that it's abit random? Sent by mistake?
Do they have messages from before this?

I'd want to know why, that's play on my mind so I'd ask him. If it happens again and again, I'd maybe ask her

I got a heart from my teenage dd a few days ago via Whatsapp. I presumed it was intended for a friend lol. She's not exactly lovey dovey with me these days.

I guess by the absence of OP it turned out to be a chain thing / mistake and she's too embarrassed to return. I hope.

If your husband knows nothing about it I would ignore. Maybe tease him if he has an admirer. It really doesn't matter too much what her intentions were if he is a loyal partner but it's probably a mistake.

Last week I text a shopping list to someone I bought a house off a decade ago.

Did this happen after the news about Caroline Flack? Because someone on my Facebook feed is sending all her FB friends and phone contacts flower emojis ... there will no doubt be a few in her contact list. It could be as innocent as that.

So the emoji was sent on Friday? Valentine's Day? I wouldn't be too happy about that and agree DH needs to query.

It’s pointless him querying now as he will have seen her at work! So if it is something untoward they will have agreed a plan for if he messages her now

Looks to me like the op isnt going to update anyone at any point, anyway. 🤷‍♀️

Have people honestly never accidentally text the wrong person or received a text meant for someone else? Never text Dave instead of David or Mary instead or Margaret?

SpanishFly her life might cery well be crashing down around her atm

@CalleighDoodle there have been no updates since the very start. I didn't mean it as a dig, though x