DH work colleague weird message

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I work with DH,

This evening a young female who works with us (but closer with him) sent him a heart as a message. Nothing else, just that.

AIBU to message her about this?

Even if she does fancy him I think it would be inappropriate for you to ask her about it, as you work together.

I’d imagine it’s a mistake. Don’t blow it out of proportion. As a pp says, if you’re desperate to know, just a ‘?’ from your husband (not you, you’ll look mad) would suffice.

Oh Christ please don’t ‘call her out’ on it. Let your husband deal with the message - it wasn't for you. If you’re (not him I guess) that desperate to know or to text her, send a ‘?’.

How did you see the message?

^yes how?
But yes, YWBU to message her about it. DH should ask why she’s sent it not you.

You will look mental if you message her.

I just saw it because we were sat together on the sofa when he got it. He says he will just ignore it! I guess I am just curious!

There could be a perfectly innocent reason for this:

1. Sent to wrong person
2. Stupid "forward heart to 20 people" chain message rubbish
3. Child got hold of phone
4. Sat on phone
5. Instant reply, can't tell you have many times that plus my fat fingers have got me in trouble.

Agree that the easiest way to clarify is have husband send a simple "?" if you really must. Even if she does fancy him (and I wouldn't be listening to what gossips in work are saying ) you will look insecure, unprofessional and a bit nuts if you start "calling her out".

Reply as your dh with “...”
See what comes back

What do you think you'd achieve by "calling her out" on it?

I sent a colleague 370 monkey emojis via WhatsApp once because I accidentally sat on my phone and it was the last emoji I’d used.

Haha!

It's sounds like you are a bit jealous. I wouldn't call her out on it, it will make you look controlling and silly.

Had one of those recently - the follow up was yet another fucking chain letter.

Get him to send a '?' or a 'Did you mean to send that to me?'

So you think something's going on and your DH is lying?

If there is nothing else upsetting on their WhatsApp messages then you are being way over the top. It was probably sent in error. Leave well enough alone. Don't go causing hassle when there is no reason to.

I work with dh sometimes in our office. And no way would I let him ‘ignore it’ - and neither would I if I got that message of a co- worker.

It might be a mistake but I’m sure by now she would have realised.

This girl knows you. It’s a bit much. I wonder if she’s done it before

Well even if she does fancy him doesn’t mean she will ‘get’ him does it? If he’s trustworthy let him deal with it. If he’s not than probably not much of a relationship is it?
Don’t be a Ross.

It would piss me off tbh if dh said I’ll just ignore it.

I’d want my partner to reply with a ‘?’ As many posters suggested above.

Seems odd he just wants to ignore it. If I were him I’d send a ?

Given the hour, could she be drunk?

Obviously YOU shouldn't be doing anything you'd make yourself look ridiculous. If DH is uncomfortable he should ask her what the message means. Like a PP said it's probably a chain message to do with mental health or something or sent by mistake.

I would be annoyed if my DH 'just ignored' it. I would want him to reply with a ? or similar.

Another one who doesn't think your DH should ignore it. More than likely an accident but most people would respond with a ?

Ffs don't embarrass yourself by contacting her. Either your husband does or you both ignore it. You're going to look ridiculous if you contact her