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3 youths. Felt intimidated.

128 replies

DNR · 14/02/2020 21:34

Hanging around outside local restaurant and off licence. Opposite a couple of pubs. They look intimidating. Hoodies up. Drinking cans. They look about 15 so could be younger or older. Smoking. We were worried walking past them to get to our restaurant booking. Thought they might just be waiting for a taxi or friend though so ignored it. Even more worried walking back past them as they were still there when we came out. They didn't approach us or do anything to us. This was a dispersal zone and may well still be. I'm worried they might be waiting for somebody specific. AIBU to ignore it. They're more likely harmless and trying to look tough.

OP posts:
Aus84 · 14/02/2020 22:02

I'm glad your ok. That sounds scary. We have lots of youths around here to. They don't all have hoodies like you describe, but they do hang around in groups of 3 or 4. Talking, looking around...

Pardonwhat · 14/02/2020 22:02

Have you been drinking wine per chance?

richele4 · 14/02/2020 22:05

Have you considered counselling?

MethodToThisMadness · 14/02/2020 22:05

I would have been slightly intimidated myself, but they were harmless and didn't bother you in any way.
As an older teenager, we use to roam the streets in a gang of around 10-15. We would never have dreamed of causing any trouble, we were just going from A-B, but we were loud and probably intimidating to some.

RhitaGawr · 14/02/2020 22:05

@Pardonwhat... Not enough evidently

MethodToThisMadness · 14/02/2020 22:06

Didn't finish- so YWNBU to feel uncomfortable but YAB slightly U to still be dwelling on it!

LonginesPrime · 14/02/2020 22:06

Report them for what? They didn't do anything!

ilovesooty · 14/02/2020 22:08

Talking, looking around Grin

I feel sorry for young people sometimes.

Justcallmebebes · 14/02/2020 22:08

You should have hugged a hoodie!

Pardonwhat · 14/02/2020 22:10

But seriously, log it with 101. Just in case*.

*I don’t have a fucking clue what the ‘case’ is either OP.

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 14/02/2020 22:10

Drinking cans of what?

teens wear hoodies... especially in this weather Confused

In what way was the behaviour they were showing making them appear “tough”

SallyWD · 14/02/2020 22:13

Oh dear OP, you must live a VERY sheltered life!

TabbyStar · 14/02/2020 22:13

I'd definitely report it to the Trying to Look Tough Hotline OP

Grin
LoveNote · 14/02/2020 22:14

yes, young lads with hoods up....its cold, they prob have acne (ds keeps hood up for this reason)

is that ok with you?

Plantainchips · 14/02/2020 22:15
Grin
FrancisCrawford · 14/02/2020 22:18

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MsJaneAusten · 14/02/2020 22:19

Report to who? for what? Being teenagers with nowhere to go?

By all means write to the local council suggesting they improve youth services, but otherwise, I have zero idea who you thought you’d report this to, or for what.

TrixieTheWhore · 14/02/2020 22:21

Hands up if you sometimes wore a hoodie and loitered drinking tins in public as a teenager. 🖐

(Am now a boring 35 year old data analyst that is already in bed under an electric blanket)

dippyeggsandham · 14/02/2020 22:22

Have you ever seen a teenager before OP?

Amanduh · 14/02/2020 22:25

Glad you didnt say anything...? Like what? Stop.. existing in public? Confused

MethodToThisMadness · 14/02/2020 22:25

Hands up if you sometimes wore a hoodie and loitered drinking tins in public as a teenager. 🖐

We once got stopped by the police for the crime of walking home from the pub. I wonder now if someone called them because a bunch of 17-20 year olds were noisy walking through their nice area at 10:30ish....

YasssKween · 14/02/2020 22:26

Wait but what on earth would you have reported? Am I being thick or just misunderstanding how naive people can be?

dayswithaY · 14/02/2020 22:31

Just go to bed and forget about it. Nothing happened, everything is fine.

Schuyler · 14/02/2020 22:31

“Hi, police please. I’d like to report 3 teenagers. They stood around, drinking, wore hoodies but didn’t do or say anything.”

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 14/02/2020 22:32

Your voting is stupidly confusing. I initially voted YABU because...well you're being dramatic and ridiculous but then you said to vote YABU if you should have reported them.

Are teenagers not allowed to stand in groups any more? Are pairs ok or do they need to always be alone?