Boyfriend got a Valentine’s card that wasn’t from me

[Aibuto]

Just as the title says.
My boyfriend got a card in the post this morning that wasn’t from me!
He thinks he knows who it’s from as he recognises the handwriting. He reckons an ex girlfriend of his who he split up with last January.
AIBU to message her to ask her what she’s playing at? She knows he’s with me now so why is she still bothering?

Firstly it might not be from her at all. Even if it is, you’d look like an idiot. It’s up to him to tell her he’s out of order or not.

DH and I both received declarations of love (in my case valentines gift, in his a letter from a woman who stalked him through work(!) ) in the first 2 years of being together. We both handled it ourselves. I wouldn’t dream of telling a stranger to “back off”...I’m not living in Eastenders!

If he’s no longer interested then recycle the card and move on.

OP I think it's much more relevant what he did with said card. Did it go pride of place next to yours? Is it up on display by his bed?
Or did he just put it recycle bin?
Or bemusedly tuck it up behind the pot plant?
Anyway unless he was pawing the card and seems taken by it , it would just make me laugh, reminding me that other people fancy my bf too!

Unless you're uncertain of his loyalty and heart....

Just ignore and move on...

I get why you're annoyed. She is trying to see if he will come back to her, as she's probably lonely and hasn't found a new guy yet.

But really you should just laugh at how pathetic she looks. She's trying to weasel her way back in to her exs life when he lives with another woman. He doesn't want her. You should pity her that she is that desperate to try anything to not be lonely.

People will try and say she's just being friendly. She isn't, and they aren't either if they've done a similar thing. If it was really just a friendly thing, why wait until the one day of the year known as a day to celebrate LOVE? Come on people.

Just ignore her, it's sad. She will eventually get over her feelings and will move on. She's just currently struggling to do so. Valentines day can bring out the worst in single people.

If someone sent my partner a card, given that he’s obviously taken, I’d be very put out too

I’d laugh. I know mine’s going nowhere.

She only sent it to wind you up. She goes t want him back. She figured you'd feel threatened and go nuts and she was right. You should display it in pride of place and treat it like a bit of fun. It's no threat.

Argh my autocorrect hates me! She doesn't want him back that should say.