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Original poster

Boyfriend got a Valentine’s card that wasn’t from me

107 replies

Aibuto · 14/02/2020 17:58

Just as the title says.
My boyfriend got a card in the post this morning that wasn’t from me!
He thinks he knows who it’s from as he recognises the handwriting. He reckons an ex girlfriend of his who he split up with last January.
AIBU to message her to ask her what she’s playing at? She knows he’s with me now so why is she still bothering?

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rwalker · 14/02/2020 20:34

Stop showing yourself up get a grip . If you would of laughed about it it would often over and done with by now.

Original poster
Aibuto · 14/02/2020 20:35

I won’t message her about it. Thanks for the responses, you’re right

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Bikerider2020 · 14/02/2020 20:40

Honestly so many threads with angst about what's meant to be a lovely day!

DogInATent · 14/02/2020 20:42

Honestly so many threads with angst about what's meant to be a lovely day!
I can't think this is all the result of the school going over-board with the 8 year olds. But who'd have thought so many 8yos have MN accounts?

Bikerider2020 · 14/02/2020 20:44

@DogInATent maybe they've all borrowed mums phone? Grin

ABlackRussian · 14/02/2020 20:49

he thinks he recognises the handwriting

Yeah, because the sneaky snake wrote it to himself!Grin

DogInATent · 14/02/2020 20:50

@Bikerider2020 that might explain it. It must be the psychology of having to share a speshial day with everyone else, it's not just you getting a card and a present so you need to create a small explosion to try and focus things back onto yourself.

Chloemol · 14/02/2020 20:53

I think you need to grow up. He’s already said he’s going to ignore it. So should you

Original poster
Aibuto · 14/02/2020 20:55

I’ve already said I’m not going to message her!

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Pardonwhat · 14/02/2020 20:57

Sometimes on mumsnet I feel like I’m in a parallel universe.
If someone sent my partner a card, given that he’s obviously taken, I’d be very put out too.

ddl1 · 14/02/2020 21:01

Don't contact her, especially as it seems that you don't know each other at all. If anyone does the contacting her, it should be him; but frankly by far th the best response to this sort of thing is no response at all.

BercowsFlyingFlamingo · 14/02/2020 21:10

I'm amazed he's living with a new gf only a year after splitting with his ex tbh. She's obviously not over him or just wants to cause ructions. I'd be pissed off too but it would be due to insecurity that he's so fickle.

Bikerider2020 · 14/02/2020 21:17

@Aibuto why the hell are you mumsnetting on the special "valentines" day and not spending time with your DH?

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Aibuto · 14/02/2020 21:47

@Bikerider2020 oops oh yes my mistake for coming on here on this sacred day! I shouldn’t have gone to work today either or gone food shopping after! Should have been with my boyfriend! Naughty me

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Bikerider2020 · 14/02/2020 21:53

@Aibuto so if it's not important why all the angst about his ex send a card? This is presumably your first Valentine's Day and it seems important to you, so presumed you'd have better things to do tonight ..... obviously not!

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 14/02/2020 21:53

Just ask her when you see her at school on Monday.

😂 Brilliant.

He definitely wrote it to himself!

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Aibuto · 14/02/2020 22:26

so if it's not important why all the angst about his ex send a card? This is presumably your first Valentine's Day and it seems important to you, so presumed you'd have better things to do tonight
I can be annoyed about his ex sending him a card while also not having big Valentine’s plans...😂😂 i can still use my phone today, no?

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Bikerider2020 · 14/02/2020 22:34

@Aibuto as a previous PP said, sort it out at school on Monday but actually as it's half term, sort it out after that.

I think the general feeling is that you're about 15 years old?

Roozy123 · 14/02/2020 22:41

Just ignore it.
She clearly wants a rise out of you... to even think of messaging her is wasting too much of your time already, let alone doing it.
He should Bin the card and both of you move on with life.
He's with you.. he didn't send her the card so get over it.

Original poster
Aibuto · 14/02/2020 22:52

@Bikerider2020 not sure why you’ve taken such an exception to me and this thread. Fair enough you think I’m being daft but I did come back to update you saying I wouldn’t message her and that other posters were right on that score.

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Laylor · 14/02/2020 22:53

My dad has been sending my sister a card signed 'all my love, Jason donovan' for many many many years. She is 35. No relevance to your post though, soz

Roozy123 · 14/02/2020 22:58

@Laylor 😂😂😂😂🤣

Mrsmadevans · 14/02/2020 23:36

@Laylor my family have cried laughing Grin

Laylor · 15/02/2020 07:10

@Roozy123 @Mrsmadevans 😂😂😂 this had been going on for years when he first came about. 20 old years ago or something. Personally I find it fascinating that Jason has the time to travel to the north west of the UK to hand post a card each year!!! On her wedding day he actually sent her a card signed by the main guy himself.

Mummadeeze · 15/02/2020 07:25

I would be suspicious and annoyed if someone sent my partner a valentine card. I would imagine he had been giving someone else enough encouragement for them to do that. I totally get how you feel.