Boyfriend got a Valentine’s card that wasn’t from me

[Aibuto]

Just as the title says.
My boyfriend got a card in the post this morning that wasn’t from me!
He thinks he knows who it’s from as he recognises the handwriting. He reckons an ex girlfriend of his who he split up with last January.
AIBU to message her to ask her what she’s playing at? She knows he’s with me now so why is she still bothering?

Just ask her when you see her at school on Monday.

Don’t give her the attention. That’s what she wants.

I personally wouldn't message her have you asked your boyfriend what he plans to do and if he is going to message her and ask her what she is playing at?

Why did they split?

I was going to ask who over the age of 12 sends anonymous valentines.

who he split up with last January.

Do you mean January 2019? Or last month ?

Who cares? You'll look demented if you message her.
Do you live together? If not, Why did your bf even tell you about it?

You don't own him! But you can scrap with her in the playground on Monday.

Ignore it. Don't message her, acknowledging it and it causing issues is what she wants.

Well if you message her she’ll know it caused problems, so it’s mission accomplished for her...

She is no threat to you is she? If not then I don't see what really matters.

You will look silly messaging her.

Thanks for the responses so far.
He wants to forget about it and doesn’t want to message her.
It’s just really gotten to me that she thinks that’s ok
They split up last January because they had been ‘drifting apart’ for some time and not putting in the effort with each other. That’s what makes it bizarre to me..why is she making the effort now?

@LovingLola 2019

It's probably from his mum.

My dad used to send me one when I was at primary school.

Week on Monday - next week's half term

(Or is it variable by region thus year?)

Also if she really did send it then it's likely he's still in contact with her.
Either way he's told you to make you jealous.

He has a admirer, it valentines.. he's not your property but your partner end of.
Headlicehelos advice is leaning on daily soap opera get a life.

its only a card, shes's not after a shag from him

Not a problem. Valentine’s Day is a bit of fun.
If she still has feelings then that’s her problem. He chose you over her. Unless he sent one back then you’re overreacting.

If anyone is going to ask what she’s playing at, it should be him.

There’s no law in admiring someone, and he isn’t your property. You should be able to trust him.

You sure he didn't send it?🙄

@GreyishDays giant LOL!

It’s just really gotten to me that she thinks that’s ok

She can send a card to anyone she likes really. Why does it bother you? I would just laugh.

He wants to forget about it and doesn’t want to message her

He’s right. If she thinks it’s affected either of you it would probably please her. He’s with you not her. Forget it.

You sound incredibly jealous and controlling.

Your poor BF.

Like he’s the one who’s “done something wrong”

If you wish to look like an unhinged, utter fool, by all means, contact her.

@BlokeTarget where have I blamed my boyfriend? I don’t think I’m being unreasonable that I’m annoyed that his ex girlfriend sent a Valentine’s Day card to the house I’ve moved into with him