Guest left clothing - wash or not?

[MsWasher]

Posting for traffic... and will garner whether I was being unreasonable or not by the replies.

Name changed as I'd prefer this wasn't linked to my other threads.

Had a friend stay over at the weekend. They informed me hours after they left they'd left an item of clothing behind. Didn't realise they'd left it but after looking for it I found it so told them I had done so.

They asked if I could post it, I said sure... so put it in the post the next day.

The day after I got a text thanking me for the 'worn' item.

My question is... should I have laundered it before returning? This item was bright red btw, and first wear so I'm damned to risk dying my own washing pink! And I'm not doing 'dark' washing again until the weekend.

I've not replied to the text - they've got their clothing but how the fuck should I reply?!

Look you say he’s fucking hot. It sounds like he knows it, and behaves accordingly. Watch out.

He could have left them on purpose like a dog pissing on territory. Particularly since he realised quickly. Perhaps it’s his test: whether a woman will do his laundry.

Or perhaps he is so arrogant that he thought you’d enjoy doing his laundry.

I would also have assumed he was attempting to banter (and failing) and I would have quick fired with your second option of response "some people pay a fortune for that!"

if i'd left dirty pants at someones house I'd be mortified. I'd not ask for them back, i'd pretend it hadn't happened and hope they disposed of them discreetly. I certainly wouldn't expect my host to wash them.
Do not have this person stay again!
What sort of idiot doesn't pick up their own dirty pants!

'red' flag...your bed buddy expecting you to do his laundry it isn't the 1950's.

Tell him your servants are on holiday this week.

I really read this like a joke now i have the context. 'worn' is in quotes because it is barely 'worn' wink wink etc. etc. not a dig at your washing skills lool

You had a guest in your home. He left something behind. Good hosting would involve returning the item to them. Theres absolutely no need to be overthinking this or getting a bee in your bonnet about it. And it would only have taken a few minutes to rinse the pants out by hand before drying them and returning them by post.

How well do you know them? If it was my sister for example I might say that tongue in cheek, a bit of a joke. 'Thanks for posting my dirty knicks back lovely xx' kind of thing. If was my Step mother, maybe not....

What exactly did his text say?

And it would only have taken a few minutes to rinse the pants out by hand before drying them and returning them by post.

Weirdest. Post. Yet.

No one should be hand washing someone else’s pants before posting them!!! So gross!

This has just reminded me of something we did back in our student days. We had a very good friend (miraculously, she still is!) who, although very slim, wore enormous pants, as we discovered shortly after we first met, when she did her first load of washing and hung it out to dry.

We'd started a silly hobby of sending random things to each other in the post - no envelopes, wrapping or packaging at all - just wrote the address directly on to the item and stuck a stamp on it or, if that proved impossible, used a small piece of paper for the address and stamp and then affixed it. Our finest hour ever was a piece of toast (not buttered, we weren't that mad), which arrived intact!

We bought a pair of the most voluminous cheap pants we could possibly find - Woolworth's turned out to be the best place for these - wrote her name and home (parents') address on a piece of paper, stuck a stamp on it, stapled the paper to the pants and put them loose into the post on the last day of term. Her Mum answered the door to a very perplexed postman and hilarity did indeed ensue - she (Mum) found it even funnier than we did

You should have done this, OP - much better for the environment than wasting unnecessary packaging. For shame that you didn't

It did actually cross my mind to hand wash them as I wouldn't be putting a load of similar colours on until the end of the week.

What stopped me was that I use the capsule things you bung in the machine drum, so couldn't hand wash with that and pointless just running under water or using only fabric softener.

His exact text was "thanks for the worn pants 😂"

Haven't known him for that long really, and we have what can only be described as a friends with benefit set up.

He did expect me to wash them after his "haha maybe" message last night. Bloody cheek!

Imo you're reading WAY too much into this - both his texts read to me as light-hearted comments about a silly situation - you posting him his dirty pants! I don't think either come across as entitled.

The good thing is I don't think you did get your message across though - your message in that context also seems like a joke to me, so maybe he won't have cottoned on to how much you've secretly worked yourself up over nothing