Guest left clothing - wash or not?

[MsWasher]

Posting for traffic... and will garner whether I was being unreasonable or not by the replies.

Name changed as I'd prefer this wasn't linked to my other threads.

Had a friend stay over at the weekend. They informed me hours after they left they'd left an item of clothing behind. Didn't realise they'd left it but after looking for it I found it so told them I had done so.

They asked if I could post it, I said sure... so put it in the post the next day.

The day after I got a text thanking me for the 'worn' item.

My question is... should I have laundered it before returning? This item was bright red btw, and first wear so I'm damned to risk dying my own washing pink! And I'm not doing 'dark' washing again until the weekend.

I've not replied to the text - they've got their clothing but how the fuck should I reply?!

Did he not notice when he left that he was pantless? If he regularly goes commando, why would he have arrived bepanted anyway? Or had he brought spares in anticipation of staying overnight and donning the fresh ones didn't jog his memory of what happened to the previous day's equivalent and cause him to check as to their whereabouts?

I CAN believe that some men wouldn't have enough pants to last them for two weeks until they next saw you (although they'd probably be of the 'wear them the next day inside out' school and therefore only need seven pairs anyway); but NOT somebody who wears Armani pants -red ones too, mark ye. Surely nobody would spurn three multipacks of sensible cheap M&S/Asda/Primark standard pants in favour of just one single pair of Armani's finest 'Midnight Scarlet' edition, would they? Or does he think that pants are like trench coats - invest in a quality, well-made one and it will see you all the way through a harsh winter?

I’d have replied “Worn? Of course it was worn, you didn’t leave your brand new (item) behind”
What a CF!

Well I hope you had a nice time. For what it's worth I think the joke was lost in the text...as in 'worn' but not for long .....

What did he actually say when he 'asked' you to send them back. Are you sure he wasn't joking about sending them back.

If he was actually serious I'd have washed them. The idea of sending dirty underwear through the post is pretty minging.

Your overthinking it. He’s after a flirty or jokey reply.

You know if someone else washes your lucky pants, all the luck gets washed away.

What? Mix my pants and your pants in the same wash. You are very forward.

Ah, I’ve just RTFT.
I’d have replied “well, worn for about 30 mins before I ripped the fuckers off you so yeah, I didn’t bother washing them, next time you leave them behind I’ll wash them for you!”

She may not have meant what she said re 'worn item', the way you have taken it. It does seem an odd phrase but take no notice. You said the item of clothing looked clean enough and it wasn't up to you to launder it anyway.

Stop trying to second guess what his text and just reply with "Worn? Was I supposed to wash them for you?" Sit back and see what he replies with.

Oh goodness me... I didn't expect such a wide range of replies to be honest.,.

So thank you 😙

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It was probably just a bit of banter OP

I would think it weird if you HAD washed it. It was kind to post it. Either they are being a pain or they didn't intend to sound so ungrateful. Either way, ignore.

I would have washed it. If they expressed a need for it to be returned quickly, I would have said "I won't be running a coloureds wash until Friday, is that okay or shall I bung it in the post as it is?"

But then my in-laws keep some clothes at our house (as they fly hand-baggage only when visiting), so I regularly wash their nightwear, and I also often wash puked-on clothes/bibs left behind at our baby/toddler group rather than leave them unwashed until the next week, so maybe I'm just more used to washing other people's things.

Samhradh - Do you think they’re his Lucky Pulling Pants?

I'm also not sure he was getting at you for not washing them.

Fiwiw I have been in his position before but a scarf at a friends house, not underwear. For some weird reason he did wash it, incorrectly nd it ruined it, it was never the same again. For that reason I would never wash anyone else's stuff.

I think it was a joke, the ‘worn’ pants. I really don’t think he meant you should have washed them,

Or an acknowledgement that he had left his used pants at yours - an almost apology.

Maybe you could make a flag from them.

It might be a test he does. You get points for prompt return of the pants, extra points for washing them, and bonus points if you iron them too.

I think you failed! 😂

See as it’s a man I would be tempted to respond with “if I’d have washed them I would have kept them, I do love a pair of boxers to sleep in” 🤣

Can't believe I'm giving a pair of pants so much thought hahaha

Some of these posts have proper cracked me up

Part of me thought the reason why he wanted them back was because there might not be a next time for us meeting up.
If it were the other way round I'd be like "look after them until I see you next"

I dunno, that might just be my insecurity talking. It's early days and all that.

I did actually message him late last night to ask whether he expected a laundry service as well as a postal one and he said hahaha maybe

See I would have responded to that with something like “that would require you to have been upgraded to boyfriend level”

There's so many good replies on here I could've sent! Mine seems a bit lame in comparison

I think I got my message across though

Ugh so he was serious then that he expected them washed. Don’t see him again. Rude prick.