Guest left clothing - wash or not?

[MsWasher]

Posting for traffic... and will garner whether I was being unreasonable or not by the replies.

Name changed as I'd prefer this wasn't linked to my other threads.

Had a friend stay over at the weekend. They informed me hours after they left they'd left an item of clothing behind. Didn't realise they'd left it but after looking for it I found it so told them I had done so.

They asked if I could post it, I said sure... so put it in the post the next day.

The day after I got a text thanking me for the 'worn' item.

My question is... should I have laundered it before returning? This item was bright red btw, and first wear so I'm damned to risk dying my own washing pink! And I'm not doing 'dark' washing again until the weekend.

I've not replied to the text - they've got their clothing but how the fuck should I reply?!

I can't see why your overnight guest would be making a dig.
He arrived wearing underwear, and left without them. Obviously they had been worn, and even if you had wwashed them, that doesn't make them unworn merely clean.

OP, when you don't call out rude pithy PA shit like this they'll do it again.

FFS, smash, I wasn't even talking to YOU! I was talking about the text he sent her, hence, addressing her, the OP, not you. Wind your neck in.

Bloody hell absolutely not. What a cheeky fkr friend. I'd bin that friend.

What did his text say exactly, op?

Just tell him then, OP. Don't let your fancying him cloud your judgement. It was kind of an off thing to say.

@EuroMillionsWinner Tbf, @smashstore has already said she misunderstood and apologized. Now, kiss and make up, you guys.

His text read exactly "I've left my pants at yours"

I was like... where the fuck?! My parents are coming round for dinner so I need to find them before they do 😂

Which I did 👍🏼. And I told him so... and he asked me to post them which I did the next day 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh dear. Who left it behind? You? Them? It was sent back by ... you, or them?

FFS, smash, I wasn't even talking to YOU! I was talking about the text he sent her, hence, addressing her, the OP, not you. Wind your neck in.

right.

He wears red Armani under crackers!
🚩🚩 🚩

Who wears red pants blimey he’s forward.

Seriously? It’s presumably either the first time you’ve had sex, or at least pretty early on (or you’d know what was going on)and he thinks you should be scrubbing his underpants?

Classy.

I hope the sex was good. Though I don’t think I could fancy a man who wore red Armani pants, and wanted them posted to him after a dirty weekend. Do you think they’re his Lucky Pulling Pants?

I’d make a comment back like “you didn’t have them on for long!”

You are overthinking this. He was probably joking.

Sam raises a good point. Anyone who expected me to wash his kecks 5 minutes in, well, that would dampen my libido entirely.

Maybe he was trying to be sexy (although talking about dirty underwear isn't really the right way to go) and evoke memories of that night?! And it's just fallen a bit flat...

He was probably joking... you know him intimately 👀 so I’d imagine you’d be able to gauge that better than us.

What was the exact exchange OP? I think without that you’re basically getting people to guess without knowing the full story

@MsWasher No, i meant where he mentions the item being worn.

Had you arranged to see him again?

In that context I suspect he meant ‘worn’ as in sexy-used-pants.

He probably left them on purpose to see what you’d do!

In your position, I’d likely have washed them and told him they were available to collect on such a such a date at x time...

Hahaha yeah I can see how it would be off putting to some... but I called him my horny devil for wearing them 🙈 this guy is fucking hot in my opinion.

I just wanted to gauge whether I was right or wrong for sending them so quick.

We made loose arrangements to meet again on 22/02, and if it was me I'd wait to get my knickers back until then

But he seemed so keen to get them back... I dunno.... I just sent them straight back and it feels like he's holding it against me for not washing or laundering his pants before I returned them... like, WTF?!?!

Just say "soz, they're expensive and didn't want to ruin them or have the dye ruin my wash. Hope you wear them again for me soon, you hot thing."

Leave it at that.

I don't wash other peoples clothes anymore after I found out people can be allergic to certain washing powders.

Oooooh @houselikeashed why is what I'm saying disappearing to you? 🤔

He's expecting you to wash his kecks, OP. Five minutes in and he expects you to wash his kecks and post them back to you.