Re dropping BIL off at work

[twelveminutespast]

Not sure if I'm being U here so I'm hoping for some opinions here.

Me and DH work on the same road. However it's a very long road and goes on for a few miles iyswim.

Before Christmas, BIL got a job on the same road, it's in the middle of mine and DH work place. DH one morning suddenly said to me BIL is going to get in with us, can you drop him off at work on the way.

I was miffed about this, as there are two ways to get to DH work. 1st way is very busy and have to go past numerous schools. I actively avoided going that way in the morning because it's an absolutely nightmare. However this is the only way we can go to get to BILs workplace. The other way we used to go took much less time, I could drop DH off and go back down the same route and still get to work on time.

I'm getting stressed every morning because the traffic is so horrendous going the first way in order to drop BIL off. He contributes nothing to petrol costs either. And I'm often late dropping my DS off at childcare before I start work.

I don't know how to approach this situation. aibu here?

Situation has escalated and I am fucking furious!

Rooting for you twelve. You’ve done well at standing up to them over work lifts. Stay strong!

Wtf! Your husband is a dick of the highest order. My DH would never allow his sibling to be so bloody rude to me IN MY OWN HOME. Cheeky fucking fucker.

Take back control or tell them they can move back in together and you keep your place.

Uh oh. What's happened? Aside from furious, are you Ok?

Your marriage won’t last if your H takes his brothers side in everything.

I actually would go and tell BIL to get out of your house.

When you’re feeling better, you should tell him to get out of your house and not bother opening the door to him. And if your H sides with him, maybe time to just have a screaming argument with him and make it very uncomfortable for BIL. And or hide the tv cable.

This won’t end well if your H thinks you exist to serve his brother!

I can not believe how this has escalated. Please do not bow.

Your DH is a dick to let his brother do this.

I'm so upset and angry. I'll write back here when I've calmed down. There's no 'D' before the H and I was stupid to even call him that.

(((((((@twelveminutespast Big Hugs)))))))))🍷🌺

Hope you're ok. Your DH needs to get his priorities straight!

Hope you’re ok OP. You’ve done so well so far.

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Oh god OP.

Oh op. While it’s both your houses no one who can’t be polite to you comes through the door. If he wants to move out and have his own place he can have whoever he likes around (but probably can’t afford full cable tv services!) He is of course welcome to go out and see his brother, you aren’t trying to split them up.

All of this over lifts to work. I presume there is more to this. I hope you are ok

Oh dear, Valentines ruined because your dh can’t stand up to his effing brother??

So I presume you'll be sat watching Friends back to back episodes on YOUR tv ALL weekend... good luck OP

Oh no, what happened? Hope you're okay op? I'd hate having my bil come around numerous times over the weekend to use my tv. Especially if he's being rude to me. Think I'd cancel the channels he likes and have a break from him e.g. tell him not to come over for a while.

I hope you are ok. Your bil is taking the piss completely. That is your home and he only deserved to come when invited. You pay the bills. Your not so D H of course can discuss with you that he wants his family to feel welcome - but bil doesn't live with you so has no right to turn up and put the TV on without so much as a ' Was anyone planning on watching TV - do you mind if I put the match on?' You DH needs to remember his relationship is with you not his B.

He has chosen his loser brother over you? In a dickhead manner perhaps?

Hope you’re ok OP. I felt really proud reading this that you were standing up for yourself even though you’re young - don’t see it enough here.

I hope you’re ok op x