The Toilet Seat Saga

[Rosebyanothername19]

Basically my husband and I have an ongoing dispute over the downstairs toilet. I have asked him a million times to put the lid down after he uses it - which is about every half hour...

I have sent him links to articles about hygiene and also put a large note on top of the toilet asking nicely to put the lid down in case he just forgets. I have pointed our that our baby is going to be crawling soon and, as the downstairs loo is between the living room and kitchen, she is probably going to end up in there numerous times.

Every request is met with an eye roll and him saying that's it's not a big deal or just ignored.

So tonight I have decided that every time he leaves the lid up I will empty a beer down the sink and leave the bottle upside down. I haven't told him this and I'm just going to start doing it and wait until he asks or realises what is going on.

AIBU?

how should one transport a toothbrush

One must never transport them, what sort of filthy life do you live? One must remove them from their sterile packaging, use them once, incinerate them immediately and fumigate the room in which they were used.

It is unhygienic and we always put the lid down when we flush. But it seems very petty to do that with his beer. Can't he understand about the hygiene element? Put a notice above the loo.

I have little cover thingy for my tootbrush

Can you get an old bank card of his?
Or one that looks very similar?
Or a "dead' version of his phone,
Drop "his" item in the bowl. Stand dd holding the edge, looking in.
Photo.
Send.
Clean dd hands!

Put a lock on it. Make him use upstairs.

🤔 I wonder why toilets have seats then? 🙄

I hope every time you tip a beer, he returns the favour by dumping your make up, trying to control someone with threats is very unhealthy for any relationship, and the more you make threats, the more he will push back.

One must never transport them, what sort of filthy life do you live? One must remove them from their sterile packaging, use them once, incinerate them immediately and fumigate the room in which they were used.
What? You used a toothbrush, as in, put in in your mouth?
The horror. We are all doomed.

I have died four times from toothbrush-in-shower-bag related illnesses but it's less than 3% of the times I've done it so i consider those pretty good odds

I died several times from leaving the seat up and flushing.

LTB

I never used to be bothered whether the seat was up or down until I watched a program on tv (scientific type thing). They flushed a toilet with the lid up and then used an blue light to show how far the droplets of fecal matter had spread around the bathroom. It was everywhere in fairness, on the towels, toiletries, walls, ceilings, sink, bath, tiles. I have now become a little obsessed and can't being myself to flush the toilet with the lid up! I just keep having visions of this 'poo explosion' all over the bathroom . I wouldn't pour beer down the sink for the crime though

Nail the toilet door closed and drink the beer.

I live in a house with DH and 3 DS's that NEVER put the seat/lid down. My 5 year old doesn't put it up either so I frequently sit in one first thing in the morning when I'm still half asleep.
I feel your pain OP 😞

I think flushing with the lid up is disgusting.

My tolerant husband started putting the lid down as soon as I explained how much it bothers me.

Sadly his family haven't yet got the message, so I put the toothbrushes in the cupboard when they come to stay, and wash the towels extra times!

Approx £25 self closing toilet seats, from B and Q /Amazon. buy one problem solved. 2 screws easily fitted.

Yabu to throw the beer away, but not to be annoyed, although you can buy self closing loo seats on Amazon for £26.99 think the make is called Codex? Problem solved, its battery operated and everyone's a winner.

Here's a thought, OP...maybe he isn't putting the seat down because he uses the loo so often that most likely he'll be using it again in 29 minutes and you won't have used it, therefore why should he put the seat down if he's just going to have to raise it up again so soon? I can understand that logic because I am kind of like that with my kitchen cabinets and drawers....let's say I have removed the scissors from the junk drawer...I leave it open if I am going to only use them for a moment and then put them right back, same for if I take something out of a kitchen cabinet and take it over to the counter...I will leave the cabinet open so all I have to do is pop it back up on the shelf and close the cabinet....this drives my DH absolutely mad with frustration and me also because I expect the drawer/cabinet to be open and he's come along and closed it.....remember now, I said I only do this if I absolutely know I'm going to put the item right back, not if I'll have it out for awhile...This has been going on for years and years and years and years...lol, finally 2 days ago I had my back to the open junk drawer. DH walked by it and kind of pushed it back in with a bang.I didn't say anything, but instead of opening the drawer and putting the scissors away I just left them on the counter right above the closed drawer.....magically when I returned to the kitchen later on, the scissors were right back in their proper spot.🤣We haven't discussed this yet, but I'm sure we'll both have a chuckle about it...
Btw, he absolutely puts the seat down on the toilet, but not the lid....
I know your time as a mother is very precious( I mean that in the real sense of the word)..it will take you longer to do the beer bottle thing than to just lower that seat or lid...you know it will be up after he's used it so no falling in the toilet surprises...just take a piece of loo paper and lower it .
My DH is a real gem in areas other than closing cabinets on me! He's actually put toothpaste on my toothbrush for me twice a day for years and years( toilet is in a water closet separate from the sink)...When I see my loaded toothbrush I always yell out, " Thank you, Toothbrush Fairy!"...another funny way he let's me know he's thinking of me is by folding the end of the loo roll into a little triangle / like they do at fancy hotels. Of course, then I yell out, "Thank you, loo roll fairy!" And we both chuckle
So, are there little things that he does do for you that you don't ask him to do.... just because he knows you like them that way? If so, heap praise on him...he'll know you appreciate his extra effort and may even surprise you by putting down that seat....
All bets are off when your DC starts to be mobile though...just asking for trouble...drowning, losing cellphones or keys, expensive plumbing issues, etc. Never just trust a closed door...someone may forget and it's not a risk that can be taken..too much heartache that could have easily been prevented..good luck
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Yes that would annoy the life out of me too, why don't they just listen, he can lift it up to pee he's just being a lazy git

Most of you have children which are essentially walking petri dishes especially when they are at school😂 And you all worry about some toilet flushing. I am more scared to encounter children on public transport because there is actual chance of catching something😂

Sounds like your DH needs a decent woman in his life.

This: Approx £25 self closing toilet seats, from B and Q /Amazon. buy one problem solved. 2 screws easily fitted.
Job done - you will never look back! #stressfree #domesticbliss :)

Or you could get safety clips for the lid so it stays down and your dc will be safe. Once your hubby spends 20 mins trying to figure out how to open the lid he might just go upstairs, problem solved 😂😂

I insist on everyone closing loo seat, guests included. This is from years of cleaning flecks of yellow off wall next to toilet pre my lid down order. Obvs pee. Que’lle gross. Never happens now with my draconian orders. I would get husband to clean loo forever if he is too lazy to flick lid down.

Could someone explain to me why it is so important that the lid is kept down? I have never understood, and never received an explanation

I voted YABU
Then you mentioned it was Budweiser - which actually is piss - and I realised the toilet was the best place for it.