The Toilet Seat Saga

[Rosebyanothername19]

Basically my husband and I have an ongoing dispute over the downstairs toilet. I have asked him a million times to put the lid down after he uses it - which is about every half hour...

I have sent him links to articles about hygiene and also put a large note on top of the toilet asking nicely to put the lid down in case he just forgets. I have pointed our that our baby is going to be crawling soon and, as the downstairs loo is between the living room and kitchen, she is probably going to end up in there numerous times.

Every request is met with an eye roll and him saying that's it's not a big deal or just ignored.

So tonight I have decided that every time he leaves the lid up I will empty a beer down the sink and leave the bottle upside down. I haven't told him this and I'm just going to start doing it and wait until he asks or realises what is going on.

AIBU?

I was somewhere recently - a restaurant I think - where the loos had automatic doors, a sensor lock and auto lid. Then lots of buttons on each side for tilt and heat settings. After all of the hands free stuff it seemed madness to be fiddling around right by the loo rim !!
While table checked out loos after my report.

Grow up.
And stop being so controlling.
If It was a man writing your post saying he was going to throw something of the womans out all hell would break out.

Toilet brush

runs and hides

Let's not forget the thread in which people had special bathroom slippers which were left at the bathroom door and boil-washed weekly to avoid "cross contamination". Are you lid-closers doing that? Or do you actually want to die of acute shit-poisoning syndrome? Because that's what will happen.

At least he flushes....

Does he wash his hands too?

Those fecal transplants are quite the medical thing you know. Does wonders for something...allergies?

I’m just shocked at the amount of people here who claim it’s all about the floaty germs and leave their toothbrushes uncovered. Now that’s disgusting... i’m Guessing you’re the same people that just toss your toothbrush into a makeup bag or shower bag when you travel. Blechhh...

Irrespective of what people do with their toilets, this...

So tonight I have decided that every time he leaves the lid up I will empty a beer down the sink and leave the bottle upside down.

...is fucking bizarre, wasteful and childish.

Grow up
And stop being so controlling

This exactly.

Why do people get so excited about complete non events??

Both of you learn to just close the door to the toilet and bathroom and indeed all other rooms if you're worried about the crawler. No need for such drama.

OP - Do you drink beer? Drink his beer.

I hate it when people leave loo seats/lids up! But if you share household/shopping expenditure this is not going to work.

You encounter more germs just walking round the shops and using public transport.

I am pretty confident average tv remote is more dangerous than flush without closed lid👀

Let's not forget the thread in which people had special bathroom slippers which were left at the bathroom door and boil-washed weekly to avoid "cross contamination".
No way. Did the person have like a genuine phobia? Otherwise it's bonkers

I'd worry more about anything else left in the tolet - cloths, bleach, cleaner of any kind, with your crawler/toddler, than the toilet itself.

Cupboard high up (and unreachable from standing on the toilet seat and yes, they will try that) and keep the door shut.

Nobody I know has ever died from the effects of a toilet flush. But i do know people who've had children drink bleach/cleaner.

I will assume that this is genuine and not a windup. What a ridiculous thing you are doing. He doesn't do something totally innocuous, and so you write post-it notes and are going to throw away / pour away things until he gets on board?? It is his house too (who pays more of the mortgage.....?)

You are controlling I am afraid (but then you probably know that), and to be honest it is borderline abusive behaviour.

If it were the other way around, and he liked (for example) the remote control to be placed on a side table rather than left on the sofa and you didn't do that, what is he allowed to do? Throw your makeup away, not give you any shopping money? It would be totally disproportionate as is your reaction.

Just forget about it and worry about more important things you can be doing around the house, or even just close the door. I'm afraid I really feel sorry for your husband coming home from a long day at work to face things like that.

A word of advice - Let him relax when he gets in, and you will be both be happier for it.

I sympathise, do you know how your husband will react? You could say toilet cleaners/bleach are used to clean and you don’t want your child to have easy access so could he please get into the habit of closing the lid. I do understand, my husband leaves the loo seat up, if I need to pay a visit in the night and forget I get a nasty shock! He insists on the downstairs loo lid being shut because he doesn’t want the dog drinking from it! Very contrary. Pick your battles wisely, my husband can keep an argument going far longer than I can! Hmmm. Good luck!

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Life is short. Is it really worth falling out with your husband over this? He wants the lid open? you want it closed. You have reasons why it should be closed, I’m sure he has reasons why it should be open. Perhaps if you want it closed just close it?

My new loo sadly throws (dirty) water splashes out / up when you flush it. Really bloody annoying. I now always close the lid before I flush, DH always forgets - and the wee/poop water splashes are therefore evident on the floor round the loo.

I'm with you on this one it also annoys the hell out of me as does not opening window after someone has taken a hot shower and dropping towels on the floor!
The list goes on and on.

STEAM FROM THE HOT SHOWER MAKES MOULD IN MY BATHROOM IF THE WINDOW ISN'T LEFT OPEN FOR MINUTE TO LET STEAM OUT!

sorry, can't read over 250 messages about loo seats, so apologies if this has been mentioned
I put a soft close loo seat on our loo, which helped. Dead easy to do

i’m Guessing you’re the same people that just toss your toothbrush into a makeup bag or shower bag when you travel. Blechhh..

I have died four times from toothbrush-in-shower-bag related illnesses but it's less than 3% of the times I've done it so i consider those pretty good odds

Who cares about the lid being left up? Seems a bit 'extra' to get worked up about it to be honest.

What happens when you put a tooth brush in a shower bag and how should one transport a toothbrush