The Toilet Seat Saga

[Rosebyanothername19]

Basically my husband and I have an ongoing dispute over the downstairs toilet. I have asked him a million times to put the lid down after he uses it - which is about every half hour...

I have sent him links to articles about hygiene and also put a large note on top of the toilet asking nicely to put the lid down in case he just forgets. I have pointed our that our baby is going to be crawling soon and, as the downstairs loo is between the living room and kitchen, she is probably going to end up in there numerous times.

Every request is met with an eye roll and him saying that's it's not a big deal or just ignored.

So tonight I have decided that every time he leaves the lid up I will empty a beer down the sink and leave the bottle upside down. I haven't told him this and I'm just going to start doing it and wait until he asks or realises what is going on.

AIBU?

so stuff doesn't fall in - eg mobile phone.

But that would only work if you put the lid down!

I have the opposite problem. My OH is fanatical about putting the loo seat down when he finishes. But my back is so bad in the morning, I cannot reach down to pull it up - and he ignores my requests to leave it up!

why do you think they have a lid? I thought it was the British were historically a bit prudish about things connected to bodily functions.
But nowadays it is closed to prevent small items from falling in, to reduce odours, for aesthetic purposes or to provide a chair in the toilet room.

A lot of public toilets dont even have lids. And in other countries some toilets have neither a seat nor a lid.

It's at time like this that I'm glad I live on my own

A lot of public toilets dont even have lids. And in other countries some toilets have neither a seat nor a lid.

but other countries don't put toilets near their toothbrush or showers....

Plenty of public toilets don't even have lids to shut. People don't just walk out of then and snuff it.

I'm in a quiet waiting room and I just snorted at this.

other countries don't put toilets near their toothbrush
I agree why does anyone do this? I have a bathroom cabinet for all my bits and pieces.

My MIL has her faults, but she did teach my DH to use the toilet whilst sitting down and I bless her for it!

I just can't believe that people don't mind cleaning their teeth with a toothbrush covered in bits of their husband's last poo, or indeed their own poo..
maybe it doesn't make us ill but the very thought of putting that in my mouth makes me feel ill.
the deodorant lids help keep them clean!

Our toilet is not near the sink

Special offer!
Toilet hazmat suit.

Perfect for that time when you want to visit you friend, but they don't flush with lid down!

I just can't believe that people don't mind cleaning their teeth with a toothbrush covered in bits of their husband's last poo, or indeed their own poo..

It is not something I have ever considered. And to be honest I'm happy to continue not considering it. If there really are particles of poo in the air they are minuscule. I cannot bring myself to give a shit (pun obviously intended).

If you are that concerned then surely you would want your toothbrushes to be airtight. A deodorant can lid in top of it isn't airtight. Bet there's poo ALL OVER those toothbrushes. And on the inside of the deodorant caps so you're putting old poo back on too.

I know put cling film on the toilet seat so he gets sprayed with pee and then he can experience the germs first hand!

What is it you get from the toilet "flush spray" anyway🤷

The lid should always be down

This thread reminded me of the one where Op had IBS I think and she farted in a bed and woke her DH up😂 Even made a diagram.
People were popping in with "But what about poo particles"😂

do what you want in your own home, but what is incredibly rude is leaving the lid up when you use someone's toilets... who does that.

do what you want in your own home, but what is incredibly rude is leaving the lid up when you use someone's toilets... who does that.

I do that. And the 1000s of other people who have never considered closing the lid any kind of requirement and/or social nicety.

If someone asked me specifically to do so in their home I would, of course, but it wouldn't occur to me to do so as standard.

If someone asked me specifically to do so in their home I would, of course, but it wouldn't occur to me to do so as standard.

can't you take a hint?
It's the same with shoes, if your host is wearing sleeper or shoes, you know what to do about shoes.

if the toilet lid is down when you walk in the loo, how rude to leave it up when you use it. Some people love having a loo in their bathroom in this country, it's even worst.

I never understand the toilet seat up /down issue, close the lid and everybody is equal. I don't touch the lid with my bare hands, I use tissue... and wash my hands after anyway. Problem solved.

As this is the downstairs loo that the OP is talking about it's highly unlikely that there are toothbrushes and such like in there.

I'm in my 70s and brought up 3 children, I don't know anyone who has been made ill by being exposed to an unseated lavatory.

All these ideas to 'punish' men who don't put the lavatory lid down or commit other small misdemeanors, makes me glad I live on my own and my life isn't a mini war day in and day out; it all sounds so miserable and such hard work.

No YANBU!
Lid is always down in my house. Although when people come over it's sometimes left up.
My friend had a rat in their toilet. No thanks.

And not flushing with the lid down is gross.

What is it you get from the toilet "flush spray" anyway🤷

Apparently you get 'Cooties'.

What would you do with turkish style toilets😳