To want a mid year baby?

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I have a September birthday.

I hate it, and I’ve always hated it. I had a cousin born at the end of July, but in the same school year. If I did anything well at school, it was always pointed out that ‘she’s a year older than ‘Emily’, really.’

I hated the way that for the duration of the school holidays my parents would say I was the age I would be in September.

I hated the way that my birthday happened almost as soon as the school year began.

These are all really super petty reasons and I know the real reason is that I hate turning 30, 40, whatever, almost a year before most of my peers.

I know this is ridiculous. I know people have good reasons for avoiding some months, mostly Christmas and July/August because of academic disadvantages, but ideally I’d really want a child born between March and May.

Maybe thinking about it it’s more that I don’t want my child to be like me

This is a totally hypothetical child, by the way.

I have two January born children (they aren't twins either!)... now that is a shit birthday.

I'm June and had GCSE, A Level and Uni exams on or around my birthday. As friends were busy revising / sitting their own exams it really effected my plans. I spent my 21st with my immediate family as literally everyone I knew had their finals coming up.

(I did then go away travelling etc so it wasnt all doom and gloom! And after Uni it's never been an issue)

One other things I will say about my June birthday is to can often be wet. I've had numerous gatherings that were meant to be outside and we've had to move them inside. So summer birthday's don't guarantee good weather!!

Agree about this being more than just your birthday OP.

Seconding the point about being a May baby. All fine and dandy having spring garden parties and picnics until GCSEs, A Levels and uni exams!

I’m with you Op although I agree with people saying that it’s down to how your birthday is treated by intents etc.
March is a good birthday month but there are so many people born then. At primary school it was every weekend for much of March and April.
I do think September birthdays are a bit flat. There’s a couple in my sons year and they always seem a bit distanced being the first teens, first turning 16 etc when everyone else is getting ready for the new term.
December surely is the worse month for a birthday though as a child.

I wouldn't worry at all about the 'academic advantage' - it means nothing in the grand scheme of things. Each child develops at different paces.
I have a DD born in September who did fine academically although was never the brightest. Also have a DS born in June who at DD's age was much more academic and achieved much higher grades.
My DD has a friend born in August and is such a shame that DD has to wait nearly a year to go out together!
But it's the way it goes and it doen't matter when a child is born.
There was someone in my Tutor that was born 31st August and one on 1st September!

Both my children are July birthdays and my next one is due at the end of June. My children absolutely love having their birthdays in the summer but I do wonder if they'll feel a bit resentful that they'll be the last of their friends to be able to do things eg drinking, driving etc.
I have no worries about academic ability though but I think there are probably pros and cons to a birthday at any time of year.

Crunchymum First week of January is probably rubbish.
Mid January onwards us great! Lots of presents be it sale items or regifted stuff.
Always people doing dry January so lots of drivers.I find everyone wants to go out again.
Restaurants, bars hotels always have special offers on, cheaper, quieter.
Weather is a given so no garden party disappointments.and at school you neither the first or last.

Thing is, it's quite tricky to time babies! Other than not trying during months you definitely don't want a baby from in 9 month's time (e.g lots of people I know didn't try during the cycle that would have given them a Christmas baby). My first child was conceived first time trying which was a bit of a surprise, while my second took 8 months. It's hard to know when it will happen!

All my others are Dec/jan babies which I’ve always found great so I’ll just have one in August, glad to read deferring reception isn’t too hard as well

Depends on the LEA, caramellasagne. Ours is very anti deferring reception for some reason. The standard initial response is that they will consider the reasons but strongly advise against it.

I have a September birthday. I've always loved it as I find September a positive lovely month.

I literally never thought about being older than my school friends 🤷‍♀️ I've always had loads of friends from different years who are still my best friends now.

I'm now 46 and my two best friends are 53 and 41 🤷‍♀️ I find it odd to resent your birth date and age. It's not something you can change. Embrace it! There's bigger things in life to worry about,

I'm a December baby (week before Christmas) and I have always loved having my bday in December I don't see why people hate it so much. Everyone is always in good spirits and party mode and it's just magical. I can see however why my Mum might not have enjoyed it so much when I was a child. I was almost right in the middle of my school year as well so not too old and not too young. The majority of my school friends are November babies and I also think this is a good month for a bday as well.