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Odd phone call by woman to DH mobile -what could this be?

186 replies

balanceact · 08/02/2020 21:13

Got a call this week on DH mobile. I rang the number back. Woman answered, sounded surprised. Said sorry wrong number.
I asked who she was trying to get in touch with and she started to sound a little nervous and said she was trying to get hold of her partner and had got hold of him now.
I replied that I find it unusual that she would dial an incorrect number for her partner as surely it would be in contacts?
She then hung up.
I copied the phone number down and I rang it back again only to be told I have dialled an incorrect number and to consult my directory.
How can this be??

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ffswhatnext · 09/02/2020 12:11

It could be innocent.
A friend got a new number I rang it. Woman answered, I asked for Dave. She went crazy on the phone, really grilling me about how I knew Simon.
I hung up.

It was a genuine mistake.

If It’s an iPhone she might have her phone on do not disturb apart from a list of numbers. I used it for a few days after that as she called me back.

I’ve also had it happen to me. The person has dialled a number and some how got me.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 09/02/2020 12:32

Can anyone who is suggesting that she’s blocked the OP find a way of blocking that leads to the “check the number and try again” message? However you do it, it either seems to put you to an engaged tone or voicemail.

NameChange215 · 09/02/2020 12:34

It can't just be a blocked number as OP has tried it on several other phones and getting the same message.
I would also be furious if DH took it upon himself to ring back a missed call on my personal phone to find out who it was.

Ariela · 09/02/2020 12:40

I once got a series of calls from a very nice bloke when he rang his sister. Her number is stored in his phone so no reason to be wrong. However there was a period of time where there was a glitch in the matrix for about a week and I got him calling me. He could ring her landline number OK. She could ring his mobile OK. he was very apologetic, but it wasn't his fault. My number was nothing like his sisters either. Mine began 078 hers began 077, but we were both on the same mobile provider.

Rhayader · 09/02/2020 12:43

If she was someone who offers “services” either sex, drugs etc it’s not uncommon to set up your phone so that you have a whitelist rather than a blacklist. So she could have your DH in her books but after that call she removed him. This would explain why no other phones work.

Original poster
balanceact · 09/02/2020 12:43

I think some of you have either missed the point or maybe I have not been clear.
Missed call on DH phone. DH didn’t hear as cooking in the kitchen. I told him. He said to call it back as I have done with him on my phone. I would not have gone ahead and just gone in his phone without consent.
For the record, I don’t look through his phone or invade his privacy or ask who has rang him either

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Original poster
balanceact · 09/02/2020 12:46

Thank you all for your help anyway. It was just confused how a phone number could suddenly become not in use if it was a genuine mistaken call

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NameChange215 · 09/02/2020 12:49

Sorry OP, I missed where you said that he'd asked you to ring back. That makes it a lot less suspicious, but still no idea as to how the number appears to have being disconnected!

RositaEspinosa · 09/02/2020 12:50

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ffswhatnext · 09/02/2020 12:51

Because like I did, I couldn’t be bothered dealing with drama over a mistake.

If he had anything to hide you really think he would ask you to do that? Of course not.

Have you explored why you have little trust for him?

kingkuta · 09/02/2020 12:51

Well if your DH told you to call them back it's highly unlikely to be anything sinister is it. Unless he's a particularly stupid man hes hardly likely to ask you to return a missed call on his phone if his lover may be calling Grin

kingkuta · 09/02/2020 12:53

Given what you've told us why on earth have you caused so much drama with a wrong number. She's obviously blocked you because of your OTT reaction

EmeraldShamrock · 09/02/2020 13:06

Missed call on DH phone. DH didn’t hear as cooking in the kitchen. I told him. He said to call it back as I have done with him on my phone. I would not have gone ahead and just gone in his phone without consent
So why did you go into paranoia mode by integrating the caller, writing down her number to try on your phone, start a thread, let pp's think he is cheating.
It doesn't sound like actions of a man with an OW at all. Very OTT.
You obviously don't trust him at all.

EmeraldShamrock · 09/02/2020 13:07

Wow. Thread of the day. 🤣

puds11 · 09/02/2020 13:35

Surely if he was up to something he wouldn’t tell you to ring it back?

PerceptionIsReality · 09/02/2020 13:37

“maybe I’ve not been clear”

Grin You think? Confused

DrinkSangriaInThePark · 09/02/2020 13:55

Ridiculous thread! 🙄

Dontdisturbmenow · 09/02/2020 13:56

Strange things do happen. Like someone already mentioned, I too had a number stories that rang someone else, even though the number was correct.

I also had some years back voicemail from a debt agency, wanting to speak to a Gary and leaving numerous message, asking that Andy to contact them. I never had a miss call, so it was to do with the set up of the voicemail I am guessing. It went on for a couple of years and then stopped.

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 09/02/2020 14:03

I called the wrong number only the other day.
I was using hands free and asked Siri to ring 'my husband'. Turns out I randomly someone called 'Mya Hammond' even weirder, I don't know anyone with that name so I assume Siri had got it from online. I only knew because I got her answerphone. If she had answered I would have had to apologise and say that I was sorry I had rung the wrong number.

Even in these days of tech and saved numbers it possible to make mistakes. If she had rung me back hassling me and hadn't accepted my wrong number answer I would definitely have been blocking her.

AnnDaloozier · 09/02/2020 14:16

My h once got harangued by text From what sounded like I don’t know, a teenager maybe, about how he’d had some sort of dealings with some woman’s name that sounded most unlikely. #snob

My husband kept saying ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about’, in the end it got quite funny and entertained us all evening. In the end we rang the bloke, he was fuming!

Friendsofmine · 09/02/2020 14:36

OP ignore the people who are totally dismissive. They haven't had the misfortune of all the others who sadly end up posting here about the various ways their husbands affairs came out.

I do hope it turns out to be nothing though

EmeraldShamrock · 09/02/2020 14:39

I do hope it turns out to be nothing though Did you OP's update? It is nothing but paranoia.

SanFranBear · 09/02/2020 14:41

There was a missed call and as I picked up it went off, I returned it in order to pass the phone to him

He said to call it back

Which one is it? Feeling a bit put out that lots of MNers are calling you out for your slightly deranged response to a simple missed call / wrong number?

FizzyIce · 09/02/2020 15:01

Maybe she was shocked because she called what she thought was her partners phone and a woman answered , hence the hesitation from her . Maybe just crosses lines .. maybe

namechange1041 · 09/02/2020 15:37

(rolls eyes) 😴😴

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