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Odd phone call by woman to DH mobile -what could this be?

186 replies

balanceact · 08/02/2020 21:13

Got a call this week on DH mobile. I rang the number back. Woman answered, sounded surprised. Said sorry wrong number.
I asked who she was trying to get in touch with and she started to sound a little nervous and said she was trying to get hold of her partner and had got hold of him now.
I replied that I find it unusual that she would dial an incorrect number for her partner as surely it would be in contacts?
She then hung up.
I copied the phone number down and I rang it back again only to be told I have dialled an incorrect number and to consult my directory.
How can this be??

OP posts:
MintyMabel · 08/02/2020 22:30

Option 2 - some weird glitch in the matrix / telephone system that meant her calling her partner strangely went through to your husbands phone instead

DD FT her granny using the number stored in contacts and got a completely random guy. We dialled the number for a voice call a second time and got the same guy. Left it 15 minutes, did the same again and got through to granny.

Branster · 08/02/2020 22:32

So you called her back from DH’s phone the second time? Which means she potentially blocked DH’s number.
Or did you call her back the second time from your own phone? In which case, how would she know to block your number?

Branster · 08/02/2020 22:36

I have two separate contacts in my phone who come up with exactly the same number. Very weird and I never got to the bottom of it. The two people do not know each other at all, one is a man, one is a woman and I am not friendly enough with either of them to start investigating this weirdness, each part of separate completely unrelated groups I volunteer for. I speak to one of them and text the other, on very rare occasions, but still this keeps coming up, it’s weird but true.

G5000 · 08/02/2020 22:38

A friend borrowed my phone once to call his (male) boss. He didn't pick up. Some time later, his wife called me, demanding to know who exactly I was and why I was calling her husband. I explained, she clearly didn't believe me. Then the boss himself called, saying that he has a massive drama now at home. Then the wife again, screaming and ranting that what kind of a slut am I, calling married men..
You bet I blocked the number.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 08/02/2020 22:40

I thought if you block someone on an iPhone it went straight to voicemail?

They do, so being blocked isn’t the answer here... it wouldn’t lead to the “check the number and try again” message.

Itsjustmee · 08/02/2020 22:43

On my phone if I block someone they get an engaged tone

Sleepycat91 · 08/02/2020 22:48

Cross reference his phone bill against the number to see if he's contacted it before

NarwhalsNarwhals · 08/02/2020 22:51

If a wrong number I had dialled spoke to me like that I'd block them to avoid future drama.

Why are you questioning who is calling your DHs phone anyway? If DH had a random missed call he might ask me to type it into my phone to see if I know the number but I wouldn't then call it and I never ask who is calling him/check his phone, same as he never checks mine.

WisteriaPurple · 08/02/2020 22:52

If you put 141 then the number you're ringing, it shows your number up as withheld. Might this let you through if she's blocked you? Just guessing!

TiptopJ · 08/02/2020 22:54

I think a lot depends on how long of a gap there was between the first calls. Did you first call her back immediately after her missed call? If there was a bit of a gap It could genuinely be that her partner has a new number, she called the one she had put in her phone, no answer and in the mean time met up with him and got the correct number. You've called her back later on and shes tried to explain what's happened. You've questioned her which if everything is genuine she wouldnt be expecting and then deleted the number after your first call as she knows she doesnt need it. Obviously I dont know but it could be plausible.

SW16 · 08/02/2020 23:02

Why were you answering your DH’s phone? And calling numbers back on his phone?

Ferrochrome · 08/02/2020 23:04

Withhold your number and call back

RogueV · 08/02/2020 23:06

She’s blocked you

Keep quiet
Ring from another number
Add on what’s app to see if you look at a profile pic
Search on google and FB

Good luck!

HollowTalk · 08/02/2020 23:12

@swi16, why shouldn't she answer his phone? She's sharing his life - answering a phone is something most people would do.

Original poster
balanceact · 08/02/2020 23:13

Our daughter heard his phone ringing. It went off so I returned the call. She answered and sounded very surprised and cagey stating she was trying to call her partner. I rang her back on DH phone but I copied the phone number into my phone.
I’ve called from 2 other phones and it says the number is not recognised and I’ve copied number to number. It’s very odd

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SallySun123 · 08/02/2020 23:17

Spooky!

SanFranBear · 08/02/2020 23:18

I rang her back on DH phone but I copied the phone number into my phone.
I’ve called from 2 other phones

You must have some reason to think your DH is cheating as that's some next level shit for just a wrong number. Either confront your DH or let it go... you are driving yourself mad here!

HeadachesByTheDozen · 08/02/2020 23:23

You should have checked his texts in his phone after that strange call, it may have given you proof of something.

MrsEricBana · 08/02/2020 23:24

Agree with SanFranBear
There are no circs under which DH's phone would ring and I'd do any of that.

Original poster
balanceact · 08/02/2020 23:27

For those asking and just to clarify. I wasn’t questioning initially? There was a missed call and as I picked up it went off, I returned it in order to pass the phone to him as he was cooking in another room and woman answered and unable to give a plausible reason for the call. Sounded surprised and then said it was her partners number when I asked who she was trying to contact. Replied that she had just spoke to him. Therefore why surprised as surely a) u would know if u dialled a wrong number if spoke with him as you would say oh sorry I didn’t mean to dial you and wouldn’t be surprised and b) most people have name of partner in mobile so likely of getting the wrong number is very slim.
The number is now ‘not in use’ despite being called from my number. That is what I find strange and I’ve re checked to make sure I’m not mad or copied it wrong and I’m not which is the weirdest thing.
Just to also mention that until last week DH was using a flip phone case with a cover until a week ago yet only used whilst inside the house and took it off when out. I asked him why as thought it was odd and now doesn’t use it

OP posts:
PattiPrice · 08/02/2020 23:33

until last week DH was using a flip phone case with a cover until a week ago yet only used whilst inside the house and took it off when out. I asked him why as thought it was odd and now doesn’t use it

Of course you are suspicious given the above. I can't help you regarding the tel no. not being recognised but I understand why you want to know. I hope you find out. Have you tried putting the number into google?

incognitomum · 08/02/2020 23:38

That must be awful for you. It would drive me mad not knowing who she was.

minipie · 08/02/2020 23:40

I dial my DH’s number sometimes rather than using contacts. I am old (40) and sometimes I just dial instead of going through contacts.

I can see myself misdialling his number, getting a random woman (ie, you OP), checking my screen and realising I misdialled. Then calling his proper number. So that part all adds up, possibly.

The bit that’s very hard to explain in any nice way is the number going out of use. Sorry.

puds11 · 08/02/2020 23:44

@minipie I’d suggest you’re in the minority though. Most people go through contacts. I couldn’t tell you my husbands number to save my life!

Call from a different phone and see if the phone is still off.

Tara336 · 08/02/2020 23:45

Years ago when I was on EE I had all sorts of odd things happen, random texts from people thanking me for photos I’d never sent but was very clear they were different people receiving different photos etc and occasionally I’d get texts from people thinking they were texting a completely different number (they would check them with me) it was a definite glitch in the matrix and stopped when I changed networks but kept my number. Not everything is sinister

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