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Odd phone call by woman to DH mobile -what could this be?

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balanceact · 08/02/2020 21:13

Got a call this week on DH mobile. I rang the number back. Woman answered, sounded surprised. Said sorry wrong number.
I asked who she was trying to get in touch with and she started to sound a little nervous and said she was trying to get hold of her partner and had got hold of him now.
I replied that I find it unusual that she would dial an incorrect number for her partner as surely it would be in contacts?
She then hung up.
I copied the phone number down and I rang it back again only to be told I have dialled an incorrect number and to consult my directory.
How can this be??

OP posts:
JuanSheetIsPlenty · 09/02/2020 05:00

Google the number, enter it in the search bar on Facebook and add it to WhatsApp to see what comes up.

JanuaryJones20 · 09/02/2020 07:15

I only ever get that when it’s on of those PPI or have you been involved in an accident lately numbers. It comes up as a mobile but they’re actually ambulance chasers and when you ring it back - I have done to ask to be removed from your records the number doesn’t exist apparently - not sure how they do it!

Hopoindown31 · 09/02/2020 07:26

Thing is though even if you misdialled and the “wife” rang you and asked surely you would say (at least I would) sorry I must have dialled the number wrong

It was the first thing the woman said according to the OP.

If I misdialled and then got 20 questions in a call back I'd block too.

Leflic · 09/02/2020 07:29

Maybe the woman was trying to speak to partner. Calls him, gets you. Now thinks he’s having an affair using that phone. Disables phone...

Mooserp · 09/02/2020 07:52

If it was innocent surely she should have answered the phone expecting it to be her partner and greeted them accordingly. Would make no sense to immediately say she called the wrong number - she'd literally just hung up, hadn't had time to check it was the wrong number

AJPTaylor · 09/02/2020 08:08

There must be a reason for your suspicious mind. Listen to that.
I once sent a series of texts to a friend on what I thought was her new number that I had put in my phone. We were meeting for a day out with the kids
Can't wait to see you. Really missed you the last week.
Hope I've got the right number
I'm here. Hope you are ok
Etc etc
I got a suspicious wife on the phone a few days later! I did explain but I am not sure she believed me.

TheMotherofAllDilemmas · 09/02/2020 08:23

@VenusTiger I would hang up and block if i had called a wrong number had called me by accident and then the wife called back accusing me of some sort of affair!

Same here, sorry op but I would think you were deranged calling back several times especially after I had told you it was a wrong number and blocked you.

Check your paranoia levels, what you are doing is not normal.

Ouchaheadinmybehind · 09/02/2020 08:24

I rang her back on DH phone but I copied the phone number into my phone.

Did she come up named in his contacts when you rang back on his phone? If not then surely it’s just a misdialled call from her?

Ouchaheadinmybehind · 09/02/2020 08:25

And blocking you after getting a random call back demanding to know who she was is exactly what I would do in her shoes tbh.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 09/02/2020 08:33

Q

HulksPurplePanties · 09/02/2020 08:38

My 65 year old mother refuses to use the contact list and calls my dad by remembering his number. She always misdials.

A few years ago she kept misdialing and kept getting the same guy. She'd apologize and hang up, and do the exact same thing a day or so later.

Well, one day she hands me her phone (actually an old iPhone of mine that I passed on) and I see she's got loads of texts she never read (which does not surprise me as my mother does not do texts), well, this guy was sending her reams of messages asking why she keeps hanging up, does she wants to get to know him, he bets she's attractive, blah blah blah.

It was hilarious.

Op, maybe it was my mom?

keeponandonandon · 09/02/2020 08:47

Withhold your number on your phone and call it again, then you will know if shes blocked you or not. Save her number into your phone and check whatapp, it may give you info about who she is and her picture. I would then search google for the image to see if I could get more details about her. I would check everything if I had a bit of a hunch that something isnt quite right. Yes I am a complete nutter but I wouldnt be able to rest until I had done some digging.

Or - it could be totally innocent.

cheeseomelette · 09/02/2020 08:48

Even as someone who has been cheated on in the past (by a previous partner) , I would not be behaving this way with dp's phone. You need to work out what's at the root of this.

I get a few calls intended for others on my mobile. It happens. I've also made them. I'd have blocked you too for this kind of reaction.

Myohmy111 · 09/02/2020 08:48

I know this isn’t the main point, but I think it’s strange that , knowing that your DH was busy cooking in the kitchen, you not only picked up his phone to answer it but you ‘rang back so you could pass the phone to him’. Why not just tell him he had a missed call? Especially if he was cooking. Or give him the phone to call them back?

alltakingandnogiving · 09/02/2020 09:03

Yes, DH would be really angry if I answered his phone then called back a missed number. Why not just take the phone to the kitchen and let him do it?

dottiedodah · 09/02/2020 09:03

Im sorry to say this really doesnt sound good does it! Being "all over you" for a start and she has obviously panicked and blocked the number .I think you sense something is wrong here .Sorry

ThunderboltandLightning · 09/02/2020 09:06

If you are this suspicious over one random call to the point where you are saving numbers, calling from multiple other phones, asking on the internet, your marriage is as good as dead regardless of any explanation. You clearly don't trust him.

I would block anyone who rang me back like that and then started demanding to know who I was and why was I calling. And be telling my partner about the fruit loop who had rung me implying I was having an affair with their husband.

Friendsofmine · 09/02/2020 09:06

He will not tell you the truth. People having affairs lie, people who are not don't. So if he is having an affair he is very likely to deny!

You need to do some digging now OP.

Friendsofmine · 09/02/2020 09:09

To the people asking if he had stored her number, only idiots would do this. He would never store her number, if clever not even under "Steve Football". He would usually email under an account the OP doesn't know about or kik and delete as you go.

JonnyPocketRocket · 09/02/2020 09:14

Even if you call your DP via Contacts you can still get the wrong number. E.g. your DP is filed under Dave, you get to D and accidentally hit Damien, the friend of an ex-colleague you met once on a night out 10 years ago, never contacted, and now neither of you remembers the other.
I have all sorts of random people in my contacts who I couldn't tell you who they were. Partly as a result of copying my whole contact list over each time I get a new phone, meaning I still have e.g. "Ryan" - think he's the chimney sweep I rang for a quote 4 years ago and saved his number so I'd recognise it when he called me back, but I can't be sure and in a year or two I won't have a clue. And partly because I use some of DH's Google services so some apps on my phone sync/merge my info with his, including our contacts lists.
All that to say: maybe she has his number for totally innocent reasons and accidentally clicked his name instead of her partner's in her contacts list.

JaneJeffer · 09/02/2020 09:17

It was you calling from a parallel universe.

Powerbunting · 09/02/2020 09:18

Number3or4 I had similar a few months back. I was returning a call and misdialed, a Male voice answered I asked to speak to (say) Anne and he initially asked "who...and who is calling?" I answered and he went absolutely mad at me ranting and raving about where did I get his number, he doesn't give it out to anyone. Once I'd worked out I'd made a mistake (and he didn't know the Anne I was trying to contact) and apologised it still wasn't enough - he kept demanding my full name and organisation and not accepting my apology for dialing the wrong number. Told me he'd never heard of something so unprofessional.

Complete over reaction for a simple mistake on my part

Myohmy111 · 09/02/2020 09:18

AltakingAnd if my husband had done that to me I’d consider it to be pretty intrusive and controlling behaviour.

lowlandLucky · 09/02/2020 09:18

My dads home number is in my contact list and every now and then when i dial i end up getting some poor bloke in a town 200 miles away with a area code and number that is nothing like my Dads, its just one of those things, tech is not perfect

PixieDustt · 09/02/2020 09:21

Put the number in to WhatsApp

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