Can not stand DH’s smells any longer

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Every morning DH makes brown toast with marmite and coffee for breakfast. I’m 28 weeks pregnant and for some reason the smell of it makes me feel sick to my stomach.

I don’t know why but the toast in particular is such a horrible smell and seems to pervade the whole house, even upstairs - even though he makes and eats it all in the kitchen.

We have a small house but it’s hard flooring throughout, so I don’t know how it gets everywhere?! It’s not like there are carpets soaking up the smell or anything.

I don’t know whether to say something to DH or just leave it, as I know it’s probably U to ask him to eat something totally different for breakfast. What do you think?

Ask him to just have untoasted bread and marmite for a while. It won’t be for ever.

Just tell him the truth and ask to make something else to eat.

i thought he was farting rotten eggs or something

It’s a normal enough breakfast to be fair. Hesitate to use the word controlling but it is a bit, isn’t it?

Just explain it to him. Next week it could be something else. He should be considerate enough to stop for the time being.

Get a plug-in or gel air freshener? Open the window? Ask him to make his toast in the garage? It’s a bit U to tell him he can’t have toast. One you have more than one DC you don’t get to choose what smells you are willing to tolerate in pregnancy.

Hesitate to use the word controlling but it is a bit, isn’t it?

I know it could be seen that way, which is why I’m reluctant to say anything. But honestly I find the smell so disgusting and dread him coming down for breakfast every morning. I had no problem with it before - it’s totally a pregnancy thing. Bleeurgh

@tryingtoworkitallout, it isn't at all controlling. Because she is pregnant with his child, she is more sensitive to some smells. Considering what the OP is going through to produce said child, giving up toast is a doddle.

Controlling in any other situation but not when you’re pregnant so I disagree with the pp who said that.

You can’t help how you feel. What did he say when you mentioned it?

"One you have more than one DC you don’t get to choose what smells you are willing to tolerate in pregnancy"

How so? You are in charge of what you feed your children.

But it's irrelevant because this is a first baby, so the OP need not suffer.

Just ask him to have something else! It might pass soon anyway. I couldn't bare (bear?) to have my DH breathe in my direction whilst I was pregnant, used to make him sleep with his back to me and kick him out of bed to clean his teeth first thing. Morning breath made me

I think if the smell of mg breakfast was temporarily making my dh feel like you describe Id eat Weetabix or whatever for a bit - why wouldn't I want him to feel less awful if it was in my power?

I don’t think it’s controlling to ask him to have something else, he probably doesn’t realise and would be willing if it means his partner feels better, I know I would. It’s just consideration isn’t it? And it’s not forever

Scarf n perfume? You look mad but when it’s a really generic smell like toast, you’ll get it in cafes or other peoples houses too. It’ll change into something new soon enough.. pregnancy nausea likes to keep itself interesting lol

It’s a normal enough breakfast to be fair. Hesitate to use the word controlling but it is a bit, isn’t it?

Don't listen to that OP

It is normal to have a heightened sense of smell in pregnancy, and to suddenly dislike smells. It's not controlling.

Just tell your husband ! Honestly, there are dozens of things you can't eat or drink, I'm sure your husband will be ok with accommodating you for a very short time.

Why haven't you said anything?

If I would be your husband I would definitely want to know if I were doing something that would make the pregnancy harder on you.
It really doesn’t seem to be a big deal to solve this problem.
Can’t you just mention it to him? And see how he reacts?

Why haven't you said anything?

I just don’t want to be seen as a nag and know how silly it sounds - it’s only toast after all!

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you asking him, OP.

But the way others are commanding that he eats something else is controlling IMO.

Ponoka7
There are other smells besides food when you have more than one child . Some of those are not going to be easy to tolerate at any time.

I have marmite on toast most mornings, but if I knew it was making someone feel physically sick I would have cereal or something else. He must like other things, just ask him

Of course it's normal.
Heightened reactions to smells are normal too. If you had a craving for something, you would share that with him, no?

I’m pregnant and oversensitive to smells at the moment so you have my sympathy.

When we first moved in together (pre marriage and babies) DH used to love to sit in bed and eat peanut butter on toast on a Saturday morning. I’m the least fussy eater ever but the smell of peanut butter has always made me feel really really sick. When I explained it was making the start to my weekends really grim, DH was happy to compromise and eat it in the living room before I came down so it wasn’t next to me

Not sure what compromise is possible here as it’s getting through the house, but I’m sure there’s a middle ground - as others have said, giving up toast for 12 weeks isn’t much of a sacrifice, it’s temporary and OP is making a fair few of her own! Done nicely I don’t think it counts as controlling at all.

Just tell him. My DP makes it in front of the open window when it bothers me or just has something else instead. He certainly doesn't think I'm nagging at him.

Totally normal reaction on your part, totally normal breakfast for your husband to eat.

Just tell him how you feel, he can eat something else until after the birth - pregnancy can affect you in the oddest ways and when the baby is born he can go back to his toast and marmite

You’re obviously brewing a marmite hater! Honestly don’t worry, when I was about 16 weeks pregnant with ds2 my (now ex) husband used to make himself pasta with tuna and sweetcorn to take to work for his lunch every morning. The smell annoyed me when not pregnant but when pregnant it made me want TO KILL HIM. I told him this, he ignored me. Whilst making us cups of tea one morning he was merrily stirring up this vile concoction at 7am after I had pleaded with him not to do so on several occasions...I puked...in his lunch box. He hadn’t believed that whilst carrying his son I was sickened by particular smells and sounds. He made a point of continuing his routine regardless of how I felt because he was a selfish twat.

Talk to him, tell him you know it’s irrational and you wish it didn’t but you’re having his baby and that is having some adverse effects on your body so could he please for the next 12 weeks refrain from having that for breakfast. You can’t control or help it.