Can not stand DH’s smells any longer

[ncagainforfeb]

Every morning DH makes brown toast with marmite and coffee for breakfast. I’m 28 weeks pregnant and for some reason the smell of it makes me feel sick to my stomach.

I don’t know why but the toast in particular is such a horrible smell and seems to pervade the whole house, even upstairs - even though he makes and eats it all in the kitchen.

We have a small house but it’s hard flooring throughout, so I don’t know how it gets everywhere?! It’s not like there are carpets soaking up the smell or anything.

I don’t know whether to say something to DH or just leave it, as I know it’s probably U to ask him to eat something totally different for breakfast. What do you think?

I had to give up my job early with my first as I had to commute on the bus and couldn’t stomach the smell of the bus fumes (this was in the 90’s when I think they were a lot more toxic!) -
I’m pretty sure my dh would’ve been understanding about this If it’d been his breakfast that turned my stomach. Just explain to him it makes you nauseous and could he eat something else for a few months?!

You are pregnant and suffering, your DH would definitely want to know about anything that makes you feel this bad and would do anything to make it stop. So tell him straight. The smell of toast makes you feel sick. He needs to stop preparing and eating toast in the house whilst your are pregnant. And he will. It’s not controlling, it’s about having as easy a time as possible whilst you are pregnant.

My DH gave up roast potatoes and gravy for my whole pregnancy as the smell made me heave.....

My husband and I adore all types of fish so it was a huge shock from the moment I became pregnant years ago that I could not be around any form of fish smell. Anywhere.

The moment each child was born it was gone.

If that's something he can do to help you. He absolutely should.

I constantly spend time away from all the food smells with my bedroom door shut as downstairs is open plan. I don't let my husband or Dd near me if they've eaten something that I can't currently stand due to being pregnant.

I like the pp who said nausea likes to change and keep you on your toes. Yep. No rhyme nor reason to it.

But yes tell your husband

This is absolutely normal. Toast is very high in acrylamide, which is a carcinogen. It's your body telling you to stay away from it.

I thought you were going to say BO or something! Toast, I think YABU

What has the the type of smell to do whether its unreasonable or not, @Boredbumhead?
Fact is, the smell of toast makes OP sick.
Whatever your opinion on toast, it will still make her feel sick.

Genuinely interested question here - how did you reach the conclusion that OP feeling sick, & wanting her DH to help her not be, is unreasonable?

When I was pregnant the smell of the dogs biscuits absolutely turned my stomach. I had to move them as far away as possible and I could still smell them throughout the house. Have a word with your husband I'm sure he will understand.

Is that you, beans and chips pbp by any chance...?

My DH gave up roast potatoes and gravy for my whole pregnancy as the smell made me heave.....

@hels71 Now THAT's true love!

Totally unreasonable to ask him to cook something else. Get him to make it in a spare bedroom with the door shut. Utterly ridiculous!

* Totally unreasonable to ask him to cook something else. Get him to make it in a spare bedroom with the door shut. Utterly ridiculous!*

But not ridiculous to ask him to take toaster bread, butter, marmite, bread board, coffee and coffee machine in to the... spare bedroom?!

I thought this was a thread about farting!!!!
Toast is a difficult one there are so many things when you are out and about that will make u heave. If you were in an office environment what would you do? I bring in cold toast from home would that make u heave.
You could ask OH if they could get breakfast out of the home if they like toast ?

YABU for saying it's the smell of your DH in your thread title. It's the smell of some of the food he eats. Also having difficulty with the idea of a grown woman unable to broach a simple question.

OP just so you know both my pregnancies the smell of toast made me want to vomit

Can eat it perfectly fine any other time. So you are not alone and YANBU

@ncagainforfeb I think you've had lots of good advice now - so make sure you talk to him because your request isn't unreasonable. Pregnancy heightens your sense of smell.

In my pregnancy it was mostly my DHs aftershave that made me queasy. I had to ban his regular one because it started smelling like mouldy garlic and made me gag (but I loved it before and after pregnancy). The one we replaced it with was nice for a couple of weeks and then that one made me gag too, in that case it was just too strong for my heightened sense of smell. My friend's issue was fish - literally any fish - and she absolutely loved fish prior to being pregnant. She had to ask her husband not to cook it anymore.

It wont be long until you have your normal sense of smell back

And everyone telling the OP that she should put up and shut up because her DH's favourite breakfast is more important that her pregnancy related discomfort...... I have no words. This used to be a supportive site for women!

I know. But after all, what is giving birth compared to the horror of giving up Marmite?

It’s grim. Vosene shampoo was helpful. I just carried a bottle everywhere and smelt it whenever another smell bought on nausea. I had it beside my bed for the mornings. Continuous vomiting is so awful.

Not unreasonable for him to move to Weetabix for a few weeks or even just fruit. Failing that, ask him to forego breakfast until he’s at work.

Pregnancy can mess with your senses so much. My favourite hot drink is coffee, but when I was expecting even the smell of it made me nauseous. And I couldn’t stomach tomato sauces (for pasta) at all even though again, they were a favourite. And everything I could stomach tasted odd.

If it's any consolation OP, when I was pregnant I couldn't stand Marmite 😖either although I'd loved it for ever. But within a few weeks of having ds the love returned
So hold fast and a will be well 😋

You don't want to be a nag? You're pregnant! Put yourself first for goodness sake. When I was pregnant I banned my ex from cooking meat in the house! He had to go out and buy it from the kebab shop and eat it before he got home.

I also found the smell of roasting bread to be vomitous but I wanted to eat toast so I had to stand outside the back door while it was toasting!