... to try and stop my DD from turning vegan?

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My DD recently turned 14 and has decided she wants to become vegan. I want to be supportive of her as she wants to do it for ethical reasons however I don't think I can do it. Both me and DH are meat eaters and terrible cooks so I don't think it would be possible to buy and prepare completely separate food for my DD, I also don't think we would be able to afford 2 separate weekly shops. I have told her we could support being a vegatarian but she doesn't think thats good enough. AIBU?

On of my DDs did this too. Although she was 16 at the time.
We supported her and I made vegan versions of things. There is a lot out there now. For example, instead of spagetti bolognaise I would made spaghetti marinara with meatballs and she would just skip the meatballs. The garlic bread I got for all of us was vegan garlic bread. Tasted the same as garlic bread made with butter. With discussion it is easy to cook meat/animal products on the side for many dishes.

Now we had requirements for her to go vegan

1. She downloaded a nutrition tracking app as we asked to make sure she was getting enough protein and food accessible Nutrients.
2. She was to go to GP to get advice on supplements because a vegan diet is tricky when you are still growing and developing.
3. warned her that not everyone can go vegan and stay healthy (GP confirmed this) because some people cannot absorb necessary nutrient from supplements but need them from the source.

She went vegan for around 6mos. She followed it exactly had the proper nutritional supplements, tracked her intake....and her health deteriorated as did her mood. She went back to the GP and they decided that she should stop being vegan and try being vegetarian instead.
So she did and is much healthier and happier and she has the medical backup from the GP that she had tried veganism properly but simply her body cannot absorb what it needs from supplements so she ended up deficient in those key nutrients and vitamins.
So she’s a happy and healthy vegetarian now.

When my daughter wanted to go vegan I said if so it with her for a month to fully support her and learn together and also to monitor her eating.

My only rule was this:

You can't be fussy and vegan.

So it actually made her eat much healthier and a more varied and less processed diet.