This dress is fine for a wedding...

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My daughter will be 2, just.
It's my brother that's getting married.
I think this dress is absolutely gorgeous for my little girl to wear but DH thinks it's got too much white in it...
aibu?

@LaurieMarlow I've been pretty clear that I think it's dumb to worry about this. But on the off chance that these people are right, it would be relevant to the question. If OP secretly is annoyed, the bridal couple will probably sense that and it will be more likely to be interpreted as a pushy or aggressive act

too bridesmaidy.

If OP secretly is annoyed, the bridal couple will probably sense that and it will be more likely to be interpreted as a pushy or aggressive act

I just would not have the time or energy for all this second guessing.

Child wears pretty dress. No one with two brain cells to rub together will mistake her for a flower girl because she’s not walking down the aisle. And that’s it.

Literally no one in their right mind is going to confuse a 2 year old child sat in the pews / seats for a flowergirl ffs. The pearl clutching of some people.

No one is suggesting that they would. What they might think, however, is 'those parents have dressed their daughter as a flower girl/bridesmaid in a passive-aggressive gesture because they're annoyed she isn't a flower girl/bridesmaid'. That's why I don't think the OP or anyone else should dress their daughter in this dress unless they actually are the bridesmaid/flower girl.

Far too bridesmaidy I think.

Another one here that thinks it's very bridesmaidy. Sorry OP.

As you’ll know OP, it’s specifically in Monsoon’s ‘Bridal Party’ section and marketed as a flower girl dress.

Is part of the reason your DH warned against the dress because he thinks you were miffed your DB decided not to have bridesmaids, whereas you felt they should have made their daughter bridesmaid and yours the flower girl? (You mentioned seeing if you could get them to co-ordinate.)

If so, then this choice of dress is a passive aggressive statement, as it wasn’t chosen just because it’s a pretty dress.

dress

It looks like a bridesmaid dress. It's so beautiful though that I would be tempted to buy it and coax DD to follow the bride and groom up the aisle singing 'It should have been me!'

When you see a child in a flower girl dress, of course you assume the child is a flower girl. No?

It is a flower girl dress and even marketed as one @DevilsAdv0caat

People will think shes a bridesmaid

Its beautiful

Where is it from?

DecemberSnow Monsoon (bridal party section). I linked to it a few posts above yours.

Better choices, also from Monsoon, but not on their Flower Girl page:
pink daisy dress
floral print with scalloped hem
striped rose dress

I don't think it is too Bridesmaidy, it is a little girls party dress, anyone that would fall out over bridesmaid accusations is possibly prone to being a bit bridezilla drama queen imo

Also:

tutu dress - this would be my pick
floral tiered dress
pleated dress

It would not occur to me to care about what a 2 year old was wearing at a wedding.

The bride might. Who knows.

From the OP's point of view, I would prefer to spend the money on something that could be worn again, i.e. a cotton smocked dress with a round collar.

Very flower girly

I do think it looks bridesmaidey. I actually have a friend who's brother got married, had a big proper wedding, but didn't have any bridesmaids, ushers or even a best man. Their wedding, their choice. For some reason this pissed my friend off and she purposely dressed her daughters in matching dresses that were clearly bridesmaid dresses. Weird!

Is it monsoon op? Personally for a 2 year old it's absolutely fine. SIL had no bridesmaids but all the children of the family, including DD1, wore dresses of similar style and colour. DD1 has never worn the dress since but I'v kept it and I'm sure it will be lovely to look back on.

No one with two brain cells to rub together will mistake her for a flower girl because she’s not walking down the aisle. And that’s it.

But it's not just on the day. The bride may get fed up of other people seeing the wedding photos and cooing over her lovely bridesmaid/flower girl - then having to explain that she wasn't.

Where has anyone suggested that all clothing choices should be checked by the bride? SoupDragon people say it all the time, someone says is this dress OK, lots of people oh it's a bit white/short/low cut/young for you and the suggestion is always check with the bride. Can't adults just decide what to wear without hassling the bride?

The bride may get fed up of other people seeing the wedding photos and cooing over her lovely bridesmaid/flower girl - then having to explain that she wasn't.

I honestly don’t know anyone who pays other people’s wedding photos that much attention. Or if they do, only because they feel they have to say something.

Worst case scenario, bride says ‘she wasn’t a flower girl’, everyone moves on with their lives.

She will look like a bridesmaid. Choose something else.

My cousin had no flower girls, a relative sent their daughter in a flower girl dress and it still gets talked about as weird.

It's a flower girl dress.

Wouldn't have bothered me at my wedding (and indeed it didn't when someone put their daughter in similar). But I wouldn't put DD in it because I know someone would interpret it as me making a point about her not being asked, and I wouldn't want people to be talking about me like that, regardless of what the bride or groom thought.

I agree with MollyButton, send the pic to your future SIL and ask her if she likes it. My DSis is getting married this autumn and we are all choosing outfits in autumnal colours and sending each other pics of our outfits in our family Whats App group. Maybe you could send a couple for her opinion.