This dress is fine for a wedding...

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My daughter will be 2, just.
It's my brother that's getting married.
I think this dress is absolutely gorgeous for my little girl to wear but DH thinks it's got too much white in it...
aibu?

Who are you people that give a shit what a 2 year old wears to a wedding? I had a 3 year old page boy at my first wedding. He had a mini suit we bought him but almost immediately after the ceremony wanted to change out of it into a tiger outfit he’d been given as a thank you present. So we had a tiny tiger in our wedding photos. He looked ace.

Let your daughter wear the dress, (if you think she won’t wreck it!), it’s beautiful.

Tiny Tiger, oh how lovely.

Why do you want to dress her like a flower girl when she hasn't been asked to be one?

Are you trying to piss off the bride or make a point? Are you miffed she is not in the wedding party?

Don't ask the bride and groom, they'll have to be polite even if they think it's ridiculous, find another dress more suitable. How hard can that be.

A bit overkill for a 2 year old. I would look for something a bit more comfortable for the child. Both my daughters would have that ripped in 5 minutes. Actually at 2 the oldest wouldn't have tolerated it.

Love it

She's 2, she'll look gorgeous, but it

Buy not but

It's absolutely fine. So long as you don't give her a posie and a headdress no-one will think she's trying to muscle in on the bridesmaids.

I think when you're only little you can get away with all kinds of fabulous dresses at weddings. I'd go for it (and I'm really hard nosed with wedding outfits!)

I think when you're only little you can get away with all kinds of fabulous dresses at weddings.

but why dressing a 2 yo like a flower girl? Is that necessary?

Sounds like a very passive aggressive message to the couple who didn't ask their niece to be one.

If she is a bridesmaid it's perfect. If not it's a bit much IMO

What kind of bride would be ‘seething all day’ about a 2 year olds dress?

My sister for one, I was gobsmacked when she kicked off at the flowing/flowery dress I bought for my then 3 year old daughter to wear to her wedding. She made it clear there wasn't to be flower girls/bridesmaids or page boys so I took that as a green light to let my daughter chose her own dress. My sister thought it was too 'bridal' party and asked us to change it. I didn't, cue sister seething and shooting me daggers all day. The dress was less bridesmaid-ey than the one in this post.

My advice comes from experience of thinking a little girl obsessed with pretty dresses could wear one of her choosing to her aunty's wedding. Not because I agree with such batshit thoughts!

Judging by some of the nutters that post on the internet I guess this isn't an uncommon reaction either.

Exactly. No one would be cross with the 2yo. Plenty of people would be annoyed at what looks like a passive-aggressive gesture from her parents.

OP: lots of people are reading passive aggression into your dress choice. Be honest: are you annoyed that your little girl wasn't asked to be in the wedding party?

My neighbours dressed their little girl in something similar. It looks like she’s my bridesmaid in all the pics. Especially as my bridesmaids were wearing colours. I’m quite laid back so it only niggled a bit but I wouldn’t do it to someone else.

My daughter was two and at my cousin's wedding I didnt think twice about the dress she wore...

Cute but agree with others , looks like a bridesmaid/ flower girl dress

I suspect that you wanted your dd to be a bridesmaid, hence your wanting to co-ordinate outfits with the brides daughter.
It is possible that your dh realises you are cross and wanting to avoid upsetting the bride (who doesn't want bridesmaids) reached for a reason to put you off the dress.
Knowing your DIL's wishes, why would you dress your dd as a flower girl?

It’s a flower girl dress. Unless you’ve actually seen it in the flesh you might not realise how flower-girly it is - itchy lace top, layers of satin and chiffon skirt and the big lace bow. As long as you’re ok with people thinking she’s a flower girl, or thinking you wanted her to be a flower girl then buy it and accept some people will think that. I actually still have this same dress as my daughter wore when she was a flower girl and it still fits, we are going to a wedding in March and I’ve bought her a different flowery dress to wear as it never crossed my mind to put her in this as she isn’t a flower girl.

My sister for one, I was gobsmacked when she kicked off at the flowing/flowery dress I bought for my then 3 year old daughter to wear to her wedding. She made it clear there wasn't to be flower girls/bridesmaids or page boys so I took that as a green light to let my daughter chose her own dress. My sister thought it was too 'bridal' party and asked us to change it. I didn't, cue sister seething and shooting me daggers all day

She specifically didn’t want bridesmaids. You dressed your child up to look like a bridesmaid and must have known people would assume she was one, given the close connection to the bride.

I wouldn’t have let it get to me on the day personally - but that was a dick move on your part.

Sorry, but I think it will look as though you are making a point or being a pushy parent, that you wanted your dd to be a flower girl/bridesmaid. Your dd would look cute but you would look silly and precious.

Very beautiful but too itsy bitsy. My daughte is 18 months and would try eat the butterflies or rip them off. It would be wasted on her. love her to bits though...

OP: lots of people are reading passive aggression into your dress choice.

And lots of people aren’t.

Personally I wouldn’t get any further than ‘child/parent thought it was pretty’.

But weird that your dh is so involved in a decision like this though...!

Erm what?! How is that weird

I love the dress and would be happy for my niece to wear a dress like this.

Literally no one in their right mind is going to confuse a 2 year old child sat in the pews / seats for a flowergirl ffs. The pearl clutching of some people.