This dress is fine for a wedding...

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My daughter will be 2, just.
It's my brother that's getting married.
I think this dress is absolutely gorgeous for my little girl to wear but DH thinks it's got too much white in it...
aibu?

It's lovely. I'm sure no one will mistake her for the bride.

People will definitely think you are making a point about her not being on the wedding party

Most certainly this

It will be viewed as sour grapes by you because your DD wasn't asked to be a BMaid

It's lovely. I'm sure no one will mistake her for the bride.

As this thread shows OP many people at the wedding will be cringing at you thinking you are trying to make your daughter a flower girl.

Even if you aren't people will think that you are.

I had something very similar for my flower girls. It's a lovely dress, maybe ask the bride if she's okay with it? Many don't mind at all, but you do get some that wouldnt.

I never knew there was such a thing as a 'flower girl dress'. It just looks like a kid's party dress to me.
I wouldn't give a fuck, personally. Our 2 nieces wanted to wear 'princess dresses' at our wedding, we just gave them little tiny flower arrangements and let them pretend they were bridesmaids/princesses, it didn't spoil anything and made them happy. I can't imagine why people get so worked up about these things.

It’s beautiful but it’s a Flower Girl’s dress.

I went to a wedding a couple of years ago that had no females in the main wedding party (so there were groomsmen and page boys but no bridesmaids or flower girls ). The bride’s goddaughter turned up in a huge meringue of a dress, all sparkly at the top with lots of netting, her hair had been professionally curled and she was wearing not even a tiara but a crown! Her mother, the bride’s best friend, turned up in a satin ball gown in the same (unusual) colour as the groomsmen’s suits and the grooms tie and buttonhole.

They were the talk of the wedding and it was very awkward. I wasn’t involved as didn’t know the ins and outs but I did initially assume they were in the wedding party. So did the photographers. And the band. And the caterers.

The amount of times I heard “someone was clearly desperate for her daughter to be a flower girl” . And unfortunately, I’m forced to admit now that it did look really, really desperate and attention grabbing as well as disrespectful of the bride and grooms wishes. People can be really catty and judgey at weddings and quite often they aren’t afraid to vocalise that.

I would hate for anyone to think that of me. There are lots of lovely little party dresses out there that aren’t as Flower Girlish.

But weird that your dh is so involved in a decision like this though...!

Your username suits you perfectly, noconceptofnormal.

Namechange84, so she was wearing a pretty dress, and had her hair done, and a hair decoration? For a wedding? Unless she was 19, I'd really not find any of that unusual. But then I don't look for bizarre, passive aggressive motives in everything my friends and family do.

What they might think, however, is 'those parents have dressed their daughter as a flower girl/bridesmaid in a passive-aggressive gesture because they're annoyed she isn't a flower girl/bridesmaid'
Why would your automatic thought be “passive aggressive power move”? I wouldn’t think that about any of my friends or family. Because I like them, and their not cunts. Otherwise they wouldn’t be coming to my wedding. Nowhere does OP say there are issues with the brother.

@Jellybeansincognito I wouldn’t look at it and think “that’s a flower girl dress” to be honest it just looks like a twee girly dress. And I really couldn’t get worked up over it even if I did know. My reaction would literally be .. oh ok. And I’d move on with my life like the adult I am.

I honestly don’t know anyone who pays other people’s wedding photos that much attention. Or if they do, only because they feel they have to say something.
This in spades. People put way too much emphasis on their own weddings, literally no one gives a shit about them except the bride and groom.

@Fantababy well, if you think this kind of thing is just a pretty dress and a hair accessory then sure! This is the closest thing I could find but the entire bodice was silver bling and the skirt had more netting and the crown was taller.

And the child in question was 12.

@NameChange84 - I'm sorry, but that's just hilarious! I'd have laughed my head off if anyone had been nuts enough to do that at my wedding! It would only have enhanced our day!

NameChange84 that is in a different league to the dress the OP likes. I don't think many brides would pick that for a bridesmaid. The poor child must have been so uncomfortable.

I had a winter wedding and worse velvet, very 70s. My aunt put my 3 young cousins in very pretty velvet dresses. Everyone just said don't they look lovely. I guess it was simpler times.

I agree that if a 12 year old did rock up dressed as a mini bride, that’s a very different scenario to the OP’s two year old in a monsoon dress.

Sounds like there were serious issues there.

wore velvet, not worse velvet.

It's lovely - just check that it isn't fancier than or identical to what her cousin will be wearing! You could buy a little peachy pink lacy bolero cardigan for the warm layer she'll probably need and most of the white bodice will disappear. A cardi totally stops it saying flowergirl.

Where is it from OP? I'd like it for my girls for my brothers wedding 😊

Why would your automatic thought be “passive aggressive power move”?

because it is exactly what it looks like. A near unlimited choice of outfits, and the mother choses a dress from the flower girl section. Some is clearly miffed the daughter is not an official flower girl, that's all it is.

because it is exactly what it looks like.

Not to me, or I’d guess anyone I know.

Just a kid in a pretty dress, not walking down the aisle, so obviously not a flower girl. End of story.

There are quite a few dresses on that monsoon link that don’t look remotely like flower girl dresses to me. The navy one and the patterned one. Who gives a fuck what Monsoon classify it as, they’re just trying to shift stock.

Not to me, or I’d guess anyone I know.

It is SOLD as a flower girl dress, so it's hardly jumping to conclusions . Not only does it look like a flower girl dress, but it is one.

I do find it hideous personally, but that's neither here or there

It's a bridesmaid dress. It would make you look a bit silly to dress her in it.
There are thousands of other suitable dresses she could wear.

Not only does it look like a flower girl dress, but it is one.

That’s just marketing though. Not gospel. .

Monsoon is not some kind of arbiter of truth.

A flower girl’s dress is just another word for a party dress. There’s huge overlap. No doubt monsoon think they can charge more by calling it that.

Conclusion is that I will ask the bride. Lol.