This dress is fine for a wedding...

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My daughter will be 2, just.
It's my brother that's getting married.
I think this dress is absolutely gorgeous for my little girl to wear but DH thinks it's got too much white in it...
aibu?

Too flower girly.

I agree it looks like you're trying to make a point about your DD not being bridesmaid  shame though as it is a lovely dress!

@Noconceptofnormal why's it weird that the OP's DH has voiced an opinion? Mine would do the same. I don't think he's came across as too involved at all 🤷‍♀️

It's a flower girl dress, I think the big risk is the fact they have a daughter. What if this dress is more flower girl-y than what she is wearing? Or she feels like she's not getting the most attention because of it?

Check with them, say you wanted to make sure it wasn't too flower girl like and wouldn't clash with what their daughter is wearing.

That's adorable! Not too bridesmaidy at all! I've been to lots of weddings where basically all of the little ones wore pretty dresses like this and no one batted an eyelid (except to say how lovely they looked!). Go for it!

No hard feelings about bridesmaids since they aren't having any.
I know it does look a bit like a bridesmaid dress but I'm hoping at 2 it's not going to be an issue.
Might see if their daughter wants to co-ordinate with mine but she's 13 so not sure she'd want something so flowery, lol!
(Although I wish they did it in my size too! Haha)

Ps Not sure why my dh wouldn't have an opinion on his daughters dress...? I chose lots of my sons clothes... 🤷🏼‍♀️

YABU looks like you're trying to style her as a bridesmaid

It's too bridesmaids. I didn't have bridesmaids but was still pissed off when someone brought their kid to my evening reception in a bridesmaid dress and people were calling her my bridesmaid. The colour didn't match my theme either. If you know the bride well, ask her. If you don't, choose something less wedding party

Of course she won't be mistaken for the bride... but IMHO it's too "bridesmaid-y".

@Noconceptofnormal, you think it's strange that both parents take an equal interest in what their child wears to a formal event?

OP, it's a gorgeous dress, just run it past your DB and future SIL. It saves any upset from their DD (who might have had to be put off wearing white).

Also, do you know what colour your Mum is wearing? I'd go public with this choice.

It’s too bridesmaidy and looks like you’re trying to get your daughter into the bridal party. Do not ask if the 13 year old wants to coordinate with your 2 year old - massive overstep of roles.

Whilst I would not be pissed as a 2 year old, I would be at their parents.

There are hundreds of beautiful dresses out there. Pick one that does not look like you’re trying to make your daughter the Flower Girl.

Please don't do what my sister did. I didn't want bridesmaids but my neice ended up dressed in a purple bridesmaids outfit and shoved into all the photos.
My sister has a habit of never taking no for an answer and funnily enough, my neice is now the same!

I hate purple too but didn't want a row in front of all the guests. For this reason and a million others I am NC with the lot of them now.

No no no to suggesting co ordination!

It's a lovely dress but I think it looks like you want her to be a bridesmaid.

Perhaps the bride would be a better person to ask.

Might see if their daughter wants to co-ordinate with mine

That would make it look even more like you were trying to create bridesmaids!

Another "too bridesmaid" - that is, unless it is a non-traditional wedding and they might be okay with it.

Just ask the couple. Otherwise it will come across as you trying to do what @GrimpenMire 's sister did.

I think it's perfect and not too bridesmaidy especially as they aren't even having bridesmaids. At age 2 my DD's would have adored it and would have worn it to other parties too

I was going to ask for the link but now I've read everyone's comments I don't want it

The idea of asking if their 13yo daughter wants to coordinate is a bit bonkers and you're basically forcing them to have bridesmaids. Don't do that.

I assume you're close enough to your brother to ask his opinion. Just do that - he may be fine, he may think it's too flower girly.

To be honest I think most little girls dresses that are fancy enough to be worn to a wedding look like flower girl outfits - hard to avoid. Just ask your brothers opinion to be on the safe side.

Sorry that is so tacky for two year old. She’s two , not twenty. Just buy a nice dress from seed heritage, country road etc.

I think something like this kind of thing is a better choice.

I'd be a BIT worried people were going to be all "Awww are you a little bridesmaid?"

Why not just double check with the B&G?

I think it's fine but then I am perhaps a little too chill about such things. The best thing to do is ask your brother for an honest opinion while stressing that you won't argue with his and SIL's thoughts on it.

It's really pretty and everyone will just assume she wanted to be a bridesmaid, which is fine, she's 2!

At just 2 I would assume the parents wanted her to be a bridesmaid not the DD