This dress is fine for a wedding...

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My daughter will be 2, just.
It's my brother that's getting married.
I think this dress is absolutely gorgeous for my little girl to wear but DH thinks it's got too much white in it...
aibu?

Too bridesmaid-y

Lovely dress, but too bridesmaid-y.

Just check with the bride if she thinks it looks to much like a flower girl or if it would be okay.

The whole not allowed to wear white is bullshit. You're not allowed to upstage the bride but white had only been "the" bridal colour since victoria and it says nothing about the guests. Or does everyone feel that pippa shouldn't have worn white aT Kates wedding? Of course not.

Beautiful dress
I am thinking, if it is too flower girl/bridesmaid - y, it means the OP´s little girl will never have a chance to wear it?
I mean if its not okey for the OP´s own brother´s wedding, then will be not okey for non-related peoples weddings definitely? is there a chance she will be a flowergirl some day?

will the little girl ever have a chance to wear something so beautiful?

My worry would be that she upstages the bride and groom's own DD

I can't see how a 2 year old is going to upstage a 13 year old.

I agree it might not be very practical in terms of mess so the pp's suggestion of taking another outfit too is a good one.

Also, why would you want to coordinate their teen daughter with your daughter? That’s making it even more bridesmaid-y, but in a stealth way.

Something like this is infinitely nicer and you’d get more wear out if it.

lovely

Very cute, but very flower girl/bridesmaid.

If she's not a bridesmaid, she shouldn't wear a bridesmaid's dress. Get something else.

will the little girl ever have a chance to wear something so beautiful?

Oh, FFS. She's 2. Can you remember a single item of clothing you wore when you were 2? Not wearing this dress is not going to ruin the child's life. Stop over-dramatising.

Also, on her OWN wedding day, she can wear a dress as beautiful as she likes.

*OMG the responses on here about being offended about her looking like a flower girl or bridesmaid. She is TWO. Why would it matter? Actually it kind of happened to me because my cousin was 5 and she wore a dress that made her look like a flower girl. So at the last minute I found her a job to do.

Weddings are family occasions. "not fitting in with the colour scheme". Words fail me, other than to say my gaster is well and truly flabbered.*

I agree - for me the day is about gathering together people you love to celebrate the start of your marriage. Not about colour matching everyone's outfits, worrying about how the photos will look or caring one jot about being "up staged".

I guess it depends on what sort of folks your brother and SIL are, though.

Its gorgeous and I think she'll look lovely in it.
Btw I wore a white and silver short dress to my dn wedding 10 years ago. Never gave a thought that a 50 year old may be considered to be upstaging a young , beautiful bride. My own mil wore a lovely cream dress to our wedding, again not a problem. Surely life's too short for all this angst.

Too bridesmaid

It is a bridesmaid's dress. I would get a cotton smocked dress like the one that was posted upthread, you'll get a lot more use out of it.

I'm not fond of the tulle.

I want to wear it for my wedding!

Just ask them! Tell them to be honest.

My cousin's daughter turned up in a similar dress to my brother's wedding (they only had adult bridesmaids and no flower girls)
No one cared, she looked beautiful and it suited her personality. She loved twirling around in it!

It's a sodding party dress for a child. It's cute, she'll like it, no one will think anything about it, or her role. Anyone who kicks off about this sort of nonsense is mental.

Definitely don't contact the bride and groom. They've got bigger things to worry about.

It's a pointless discussion. Men won't notice or care and the women will judge you anyway.

Goodness me, some of these comments

She's two, there are no bridesmaids, and no two year old can ever upstage the bride.

It's a gorgeous dress and will look so cute, and any bride who would be miffed at this, well the bridezilla has obviously taken over. Seriously, when someone has to check with the bride to see if a 2 years olds dress is suitable then it just confirm to me that the world has indeed gone BONKERS

Sorry, it's a stealth bridesmaid dress.
Rather think that if there is any doubt about the dress, just don't, and whatever your little daughter wears, she will look adorable.
Some great suggestions from previous posters about other dresses...SpoketooSoon's suggestion from JoJo Maman Bébé is perfect, and this is sweet. www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/girls-summer-ditsy-smocked-dress-e5571.html Can't go wrong with smocking and ditsy, Liberty style prints! This company has lovely dresses, same sort of price as Monsoon www.tinkerandbelle.co.uk/product/liberty-print-special-occasion-dress-for-baby-to-10-years-dark-blue-betsy

It's beautiful

But it does kind of scream, "I'm annoyed my DD wasn't ask to be a bridesmaid".

It’s a lovely dress for a bridesmaid/flower girl.

If your daughter is neither of these things at the wedding, this is not the dress for her to be wearing.

there are no bridesmaids

Which is completely irrelevant. The point it not that she will upstage anyone but that it will look like her mother is annoyed at her not being asked to be flower girl.

OP just show your brother a picture say "I'm thinking of buying DD this for the wedding but I'm worried it looks like I'm trying to make her a bridesmaid. Can you check with SIL please?"

They are the two people whose opinion matters.