This dress is fine for a wedding...

[TheWhiteOfIt]

My daughter will be 2, just.
It's my brother that's getting married.
I think this dress is absolutely gorgeous for my little girl to wear but DH thinks it's got too much white in it...
aibu?

Let’s just say I understand her frustration.
because she doesn't get a unanimous YANBU? Seriously...

OP: is this dress ok for a wedding?

Some posters: no I don’t think so

OP: omg you’re such bitches I’m off!

Well aren’t you a charmer, OP! Hopefully your 2 year old can teach you some manners for the big day, whatever she’s wearing.

Why will the future SIL feel obliged to say yes, if the OP hasn't already bought the dress for her daughter?

Because if she says no she'll be a bridezilla.
Because if she says no OP will probably say she's a real bitch.

None of this is about a little girl

Yes it is. And if a grown woman is annoyed by what a 2 year old niece is wearing she isn't very grown up and perhaps she should wait a bit longer before she does a grown up thing like getting married.

It might be different if a 20 year old turned up looking like a bridesmaid when she wasn't but even though I am only a mum of a boy, I know that many 2 year old girls like to look like princesses and I couldn't possibly feel threatened or annoyed by it.

@cologne4711 I think other people are making the point that it'll look like OP is forcing the 'bridesmaid/flower girl' look on her DD and the wedding.

It'd be different if her DD was 4/5 and had her heart set on a specific dress IMO, but this looks like a grown woman trying to make decisions about someone else's wedding day.

because she doesn't get a unanimous YANBU?

No.

Because of what I said upthread.

It’s the second guessing, speculating on motives, assumption of passive aggression, lack of directness, endless ‘she’ll think and they’ll think’ crap that is unbelievably tedious.

Yes it is. And if a grown woman is annoyed by what a 2 year old niece is wearing she isn't very grown up and perhaps she should wait a bit longer before she does a grown up thing like getting married.

Did you not read my post? No one is saying the bride will feel upstaged by a two year old. We're saying the OP will look like an idiot trying to make a passive aggressive point. And the bride will look like she's started a family row.

It's not fair to put the bride in that position, and it's not the most dignified position for OP to put herself in either.

The two year old will look like a cute two year old in a cute dress. The adults, however, will look bad.

I am in a similar position. Daughter was not asked to be a bridesmaid. I was VERY worried about ensuring she did not look like I was trying to make her look like a bridesmaid. I went for this, and I am still worried!

Bloody hell, she's the niece of the groom, of course she should wear that dress if you want her to! It's lovely.

That dress is gorgeous @nightsoutasap the pattern doesn’t look bridesmaidy at all. You’ve nothing to worry about.

@nightsoutasap that's lovely! You won't have any trouble with that.

No.

Because of what I said upthread.

these are only the reasons why people are saying no, the dress is not fine...too bad if you don't like them.

The way the OP reacts tells you a lot about why she chose that dress in the first place. No need to speculate, it's clearly written here.

What a pretty dress.

Perfect for a wedding. It doesn't matter that it 'could' be a bridesmaids dress, that could apply to most pretty weddingy dresses for two-year-olds.

Instead of alking to he Bride about the dress, can you not just find out what the wedding party will be wearing, if it does clash then you will have to find out a different outfit.
If not , than I would still ask the bridesmaid as it is a bit bridesmaidy but give her other options of outfit for your DC so she isn't put in a position where she has to say yes or no

nightsout that is a pretty dress but it looks just as bridesmaidy to me. As others have said any pretty party type dress can look like a flower girl bridesmaid dress.

@1forsorrow - I have never seen a bridesmaid wearing a patterned dress, let alone a ditsy print, pleated one like that. I’ve only ever seen plain or two coloured toned dresses. I used to work at weddings for years.

It's too white. Not because she looks like a bridesmaid but because it's a wedding. Which usually means food. And she's two. And its WHITE...

Ask the Bride if she is ok with it

It's lovely. DD2 was 2.5 when DH and I got married. She wore a white dress with tiny flowers all over it. Absolutely fine.

I think that's lovely @nightsoutasap. I know it's a fine balance, little girl occasion dresses can easily look like flower girl/ bridesmaid dresses but I think that's fine.

These were my mums flower girl and young bridesmaid dresses so I’m if that’s opinion.. but it is a lovely dress.

Perhaps ask the bride since she not having bridesmaid if she feels that the dress to too much or if she’ll look like she’s trying to play a part?

Lovely dress, can’t imagine any normal, nice person being annoyed at having a beautiful, cute two year old attending their wedding in a gorgeous dress. I would put her in anything you want. It is a special occasion for her too, seeing her uncle get married. And I hope she gets lots of fuss made of her and has a wonderful time.

My daughter had very similar as a flower girl dress from
Monsoon. Although bottom was roses.
I don’t think not wearing white applies to a 2 year old!

I love this one, they have some gorgeous dresses in monsoon and I'm now sad that I have two boys lol

I don't think it matters tbh, if your daughter likes it, and it wont class with bridesmaids, then get it!