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To ask for cf pregnancy comments

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3teens · 05/02/2020 23:10

Out for lunch with my 30w pregnant niece (20) Random woman comes up to commiserate me on my teenage sister being 'in trouble' and asking how my parents feel.
I was livid. Told her I was actually her aunt, have 5dc myself and my neice is married, has her own home and chose to be pregnant.
Reminded me of being in SCBU with my twins 14 years ago and a HCA asking me what she should buy her DD for her 18th bday.
I replied, 'when I turned 18 my parents bought me xyz but that was 5 years back'
HCA was stunned. Thought I was 16.

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SVRT19674 · 06/02/2020 14:42

I get this comments like: what? you are going to let your daughter be an only child? You will be so cruel as to not give her a sibling?...yep, watch me, Cruella de Ville is no match for me...

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3teens · 06/02/2020 19:08

I was pregnant with my youngest. DH (now ex) is Sri Lankan. Told a friend of my parents who responded 'ooh a little brown baby! How cute!'....

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Whnthebearcomesmarchingin · 06/02/2020 19:32

Not so much CF but still really fucking annoying: the “you’re fat” jokes. So unoriginal and unfunny

DrManhattan · 06/02/2020 19:44

You have twins, was it IVF?
Personal much????

Highonpotandused · 06/02/2020 19:48

These people are just rude, not CFs. Disappointed!

NearlyGranny · 06/02/2020 20:50

Every question a prime candidate for the long stare, raised eyebrow and "Why would you ask that?" treatment!

I went to 38+3 with 3kg+ twins and got cheery "Not long to go!" comments from strangers from around 24weeks. That gets old really quickly.

OlivejuiceU2 · 06/02/2020 21:12

My boss told me today that I just look fat and not pregnant.... erm thanks

Same boss said ‘was it planned?’ When I told her about my MC, like it mattered?! She had also had a MC so thought she’d understand - nope!

Also, getting a lot of baby names suggested like other people have a say in it.

Yellowmellowgem · 06/02/2020 22:05

Finding out babies sex seemed to offend more people than I care to remember.
Was once even reduced to tears by a work colleague who went on a 10 minute rant insisting I’d ruined my whole pregnancy by not leaving the surprise for the delivery room.

Honeybee85 · 06/02/2020 22:10

From collegue:
Was it planned?

Former best friend:
You don’t need an epidural. It’s really bad for your baby (I wasn’t asking for her opinion, simply told her I was getting one).

MIL: how much weight did you gain yet?
How many stitches did she get (10 minutes after giving birth she asked this to my husband after the called her to announce DS’s arrival)

ginandgingers92 · 06/02/2020 22:14

Old man at a car boot sale told me, whilst I was standing next to my husband "you look like you've been out dancing one too many times and got yourself into trouble"... as he handed over £2 for a coffee machine.
I wanted to throw it at his head. 😂

ginandgingers92 · 06/02/2020 22:15

@Yellowmellowgem yes!! Why is this!? The fucking cleaner got the needle with me and acted all disappointed when I said I was finding out! 😂😂

Fuckyoumenopause · 06/02/2020 22:24

My bump was huge with my second. An old acquaintance accosted me in a shopping centre when I was about 8 months pregnant and said "Oh my god how many have you got in there? Or did you have sex with an elephant? Hahaha!!"

Yeah hilarious Hmm

Mind you he was born almost a month early weighing exactly 10lb, thankfully without the trunk and huge ears.

moolady1977 · 06/02/2020 22:28

I had the was it planned from everybody with all 3 of mine but the worst comment I had was when I told my stbxh DM we were having our third baby she turned round to me with a look of disgust on her face and said I'd only got pregnant this time to trap her son ,I'd already got two with him so how she thought a third would trap him I don't know ,also my third child we had a boy and a girl and got asked why you having another it's not like you can get owt different

Numptywallice · 06/02/2020 22:34

On the bus with two kids and old ladies asked
Are their dads involved?
Do they have the same dad?
Bet you claim benefits?
Am I embarrassed being a teen mum?

Had been married to both kids dad for 2 years and husband working ever hour he could and only got some housing benefit rent where we live is high due to being close to London 🤦🏻‍♀️

Bipbopbee · 06/02/2020 22:41

Pushing newborn DS in a pram around the shops I had a woman come up to me to tell me how disgusting I was, a teenage unmarried mother. I was 26 and had been married for two years. Horrible nasty woman. She just walked off when I told her I was actually 26 and married!
SIL saying that we couldn’t name DS the name we had chosen, as it was a “dog’s name!”
Er, no SIL I think you’ll find it’s a human name that people also happen to give to dogs Hmm

twinmum2007 · 06/02/2020 22:43

Former colleague on being told I was having twins: twins? Two babies at once. Wow, you poor thing.

GGx7 · 06/02/2020 22:45

When I first announced my pregnancy, someone I know only from work asked me if I had thought about 'getting rid of it'

Had another say 'well you must want the baby because in this day and age you don't have to'

All because I fell pregnant quickly after meeting the father

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goose1964 · 06/02/2020 23:00

No comments but DD was pregnant 18 but looked about 14,she had an awful lot of filthy looks though.

Icecreamsoda99 · 07/02/2020 03:15

My husband was asked if he was disappointed that we were having a girl. This was at a party by a guy we had just been introduced to. I told his after that he should have said yes and then I could have made a fake big scene and embarrassed the fuck out of the idiot.

crispysausagerolls · 07/02/2020 03:38

Does anyone have a clever or rude response to give out to the “was it planned?” Arseholes?! Second pregnancy, married for a few years and finding it rage inducing. Will be a 2 year gap too so hardly unusual!

A friend of mine when told about this baby was like “omg
What will you do?!”... 🤬 she got a piece of my mind.

Too shocked to tell the midwife taking my blood who said “wait until
The labour of you think this is bad”
How utterly unhelpful and inappropriate that was. Told
Her it was my second and i already knew - but would have been very upsetting if my first! She didn’t even have children either.

Sleepycat91 · 07/02/2020 04:39

Im 28 and dont think i look my age too much. Been with DP 13 years and have 10 week old DD and 6 old DS, had him 5 days agter my 22nd birthday. Pushing 4 week old DD around the shop and a lady a fair bit older than me with a 3 year old, stuck her head in my buggy (of course) and said 'oh you wait until they're this age'.....yeah i know love, my 1st is 6. I found ALOT of hospital staff presumed she was our 1st aswell.

Minesril · 07/02/2020 06:43

I had the 'wow you're huge - twins!' one from my friend's mum when I was 16 weeks and had a tiny bump. Even now at 32 weeks I've put on around 3kg and measure exactly as I should. Friend recently told me that she's been body conscious since she was about 3...not that I'm drawing conclusions or anything.

Was helping unload the car after being away. FIL hands me a laptop and says 'that's probably enough for you.'
'Hmm,' i said picking up my 8kg kettlebell in the other hand.

More lighthearted: i was doing 30 day shred with some modifications. DS said 'you're supposed to be doing that!'
'Crunches might hurt the baby.' Carefully watches me move on to chest flies: 'Will those hurt the baby??'
This sort of thing is only acceptable in a 5 year old!

ims0rrydarlin · 07/02/2020 07:07

One of my friends got pregnant literally a week after she got married. When she told her MIL a week or so later, she was asked how many months along she was. It was a strange thing to ask because they’re a strict Muslim family and she was a virgin until she got married.

Smorgasbored0000 · 07/02/2020 07:13

I noticed there was a variation on “was it planned?” and everyone asking me “were you trying for long?” It was their way of asking if the pregnancy was planned but trying to look a bit more sympathetic.

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