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Ghosted... slightly petty revenge

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 14:28

I've been ghosted by someone I had quite a long relationship with, long story short he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting.

I'm pretty pissed off (and heartbroken) as I have been essentially used for the last 12 months in a number of ways so... I have bought the www. domain names and set up social media accounts in the names that he was planning to use for his exciting business.

I probably ABU but I have long evenings alone now when I used to have someone in my life, I'm being highly self disciplined in not contacting him... I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta, trying to work out who's stolen his names.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names. I just vainly hope that he will realise life won't always go his way because he's so fucking handsome and charming.

I'm getting over it btw, I don't want relationship advice!

OP posts:
TwentyViginti · 04/02/2020 18:23

@YetAnotherSpartacus ooh! do you have a link to the sausage thread?

OP you're honestly well rid of this user. He'll no doubt go through life dissing people until it bites him on the arse one day.

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 18:25

@fromdownwest what's the worst that's going to happen though? I say "oh well Here you can have them"?

Not, "your chance to have children petty much ended when I set eyes on this attractive well connected woman."

I'm kinda ok with that. Not like I'm going to get sent to jail is it.

OP posts:
Beautiful3 · 04/02/2020 18:33

I love it! Flowers

Bunnyfuller · 04/02/2020 18:36

Teehee love it. He sounds a v shallow twat if he’s dropped you for someone who can help his business plan.

Email him ‘selfish user twat.com is still available

Dozer · 04/02/2020 18:39

I wouldn’t do what you’ve done, but unless his new GF knew of your relationship with him and is the OW would seek to contact her to state that you were in a relationship with you for a year until X date and then ghosted you. For her sake!

bornonasunday · 04/02/2020 18:39

It’s a “well done” from me!!👍 Bit of originality there!
But then I can be vindictive and vengeful (only in my head tho)
Got to admire someone who actually does it!! 💯

RightRoundLikeARecord · 04/02/2020 18:40

I really don't get all this turn the other cheek crap. Well done OP.
In my book I really do believe that if you behave in a sh!t way, there should be consequences. It is the adult version of being put on the naughty step. If this happened more often then more sh!tty people would think before they hurt someone.

You have shown him that not everyone just rolls over and quietly steps away when sh!t on from a height. You have shown him that one day his behaviour will bite him on the arse. Keep the domains etc. don't sell them. Just sit on them and don't let him have them. Sell them to a competitor, at a profit, at a later date.

mnthrowaway202020 · 04/02/2020 18:40

You won’t get sent to jail but you’ll get written off as mentally unstable/ill

RightRoundLikeARecord · 04/02/2020 18:41

No, she will get written off as the person who outsmarted him.

eddielizzard · 04/02/2020 18:41

Petty, but well done Grin

DoIStayOrDoIGoNow · 04/02/2020 18:43

Bloody brilliant! He screwed you over, you’re not killing his family members, you’re having a bit of fun at his expense. It’s the least he deserves!

blowmebaloney · 04/02/2020 18:45

So he didn't ghost, he met someone else and then finished with you. Which is hard, but not ghosting.

I wouldn't have done it. Not good for your karma or your reputation. I can't believe all these people are egging you on.

RightRoundLikeARecord · 04/02/2020 18:46

The Queen works with a minor piece to corner the King and.....Checkmate!

aroundtheworldyet · 04/02/2020 18:47

There’s no such thing as karma.

billy1966 · 04/02/2020 18:52

Well done OP.

That's a very tasty cold dish you've served.

I hope it gives him no end of indigestion.
,💐

DelphiniumBlue · 04/02/2020 18:53

It's a pretty shit business plan if he hadn't already bought up the names. What was he doing, just hanging around chatting about him and his fab ideas?

Poppi89 · 04/02/2020 18:53

You've been used for the past 12 months so why are you wasting any more time on him!
You say you haven't contacted him but you are still indirectly involved with him - looking at his instagram, hoping he'll buy back the domain name, setting up social media accounts. How much more of your energy are you going to give him!

Leave him to his new gf and be thankful you dodged a bullet because obsessing over him like this is going to hurt you more than it will him.

SevenStones · 04/02/2020 18:54

I discovered I was one of many OW once. I can't be too specific with my revenge but it eventually led to him missing a really important event for him because I was going to be there and I would have done the whole "oh hello, didn't recognise you with your clothes on" speil in front of his dad (not his wife, but she would have got wind of it). It was something I really enjoyed so the revenge was coupled with something I had fun at anyway.

Still makes me smile that he missed this event because it really was a once in a lifetime thing and he would have been absolutely gutted about it. I had an amazing time!

neverornow · 04/02/2020 18:58

Epic revenge! Love it

Tink88 · 04/02/2020 18:58

Oh I love this. Any more ideas of legal revenge ?

fromdownwest · 04/02/2020 18:58

OP - that’s not how the world works, you can’t just hold yourself hands up if he does proceed with legal action.

I’m just giving another view based on RL experiences. What you choose to to with it is up to you. Just saying it may be worth thinking about it

SleepingIsOverrated · 04/02/2020 18:59

High five, OP Grin

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ColumbaPalumbus · 04/02/2020 19:10

I think IG account should be all ghosts....just sayin

WellHolyGodMiley · 04/02/2020 19:10

GOOd for you!
this doesn't mean you can't move on!
It's early days!