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Ghosted... slightly petty revenge

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 14:28

I've been ghosted by someone I had quite a long relationship with, long story short he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting.

I'm pretty pissed off (and heartbroken) as I have been essentially used for the last 12 months in a number of ways so... I have bought the www. domain names and set up social media accounts in the names that he was planning to use for his exciting business.

I probably ABU but I have long evenings alone now when I used to have someone in my life, I'm being highly self disciplined in not contacting him... I'm enjoying seeing him look at the banal stuff I'm posting on insta, trying to work out who's stolen his names.

If he tries to buy the domain names I will absolutely sell them and not at a profit, same as if he asks for the social media names. I just vainly hope that he will realise life won't always go his way because he's so fucking handsome and charming.

I'm getting over it btw, I don't want relationship advice!

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CatonNZ · 04/02/2020 17:41

Charge him top top dollar. As much as you can (get away with) research the net people do this as a business.

With the proceeds... new wardrobe, hairstyle, nice designer handbag, shoes, sheets towels, lingerie...a fab holiday in the sun...and lastly...

Make a donation to the charity of your choice.

xx

DaveTheDesigner · 04/02/2020 17:41

@ AmIAWeed You could be right but as there are lawyers actively promoting the fact they cover this problem I'd be wary of getting too deeply into it as it easily appears to be malicious, which of course it plainly is Grin.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 04/02/2020 17:45

It’s good but have you also considered the trick posted last week where you bang frozen sausages in his front lawn to encourage cats, dogs, rats, foxes etc.? That was a nice one.

UYScuti · 04/02/2020 17:51

he's met someone super cool and fucked off with her, quite literally overnight. She's very well connected and is helping him with his future business plans which are admittedly very exciting
she'll do the same to him as he did to you, he's flattered because she's got all the kudos, to her he's just a stepping stone to the next stage in her plan for world domination.
I would be keeping a close eye on those chickens of his as they head in for roosting:)

CinderEmma · 04/02/2020 17:51

@YetAnotherSpartacus

That is an awesome idea

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 17:55

If I could get to the country in which she lives & he's now hanging out in whilst waiting for work permits... I suspect she doesn't have a garden.

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blowmebaloney · 04/02/2020 17:55

What does ghosting mean exactly here, just out of interest - one minute you were dating and he was declaring love and a future and the next minute there was no contact with no warning and you contacted him and he ignored you later found out about no woman? Or there was a bit of cooling off, you knew things were not going well or there was something wrong and it fizzled out?

NoProblem123 · 04/02/2020 17:57

Hero !

Don’t sell him the sites. The dimwits should have secured them ages ago.

You could have so much fun with this.

Malbecqueen · 04/02/2020 17:58

Genius. I bow before you.

Definitely make a profit...

Herringbone31 · 04/02/2020 17:59

I think this is genius!!!!!!

Please please update if he finds out!

Silenceisnotgolden · 04/02/2020 18:00

Absolutely laughing out loud! You wicked, wicked, wicked woman. And here’s a bloke thinking he can outsmart you... Grin

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 18:00

One day... messages. I love you. Hearts and kisses. Then nothing for days (he works overseas). Then a picture on Instagram of him and new bird kissing and declaring love for each other. I contacted & he said he was starting something new. I know when he met her as he told me about the meeting he was having at the place where she works.
That is it. Fin. About a month ago. I'm trying to unweave him from my life and my flat and not just bin all of his stuff. I've dropped a load off with his family and now I'm just surrounded by memories. And trying very hard not to beg him to talk to me.

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MarshaBradyo · 04/02/2020 18:01

That is so hard op. Breaking up is bad enough without that kind of thing on top.

Jessi1972 · 04/02/2020 18:04

Most domains are paid yearly so you could just let them expire or there are probably sites out there that will by from you and then advertise them (they make the profit not you - but love the idea and don't forget to cover the names with 1 or a1 as well. 👹👹👹👹👹

MimiLaRue · 04/02/2020 18:05

Sod the criticisms- you are my hero OP!

Good for you! you are your very own karma in action.

I hope you move on, leave this twat in the dust and find an awesome guy instead Flowers

ajandjjmum · 04/02/2020 18:07

He told OP he loved her the day before he disappeared. Doesn't sound cool to me!

Aprilsinparis · 04/02/2020 18:08

Bloody good idea👍

UYScuti · 04/02/2020 18:14

he's kept you on the back burner until she did something to indicate that his luck was in and then he binned you
she may well be stringing him along until she finds something better...

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 18:16

I genuinely think he only just met her but clearly she had a lot more to offer than me. Feel very used and foolish. But hey ho. Still haven't messaged him but fuck me it's hard.

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MummytoCSJH · 04/02/2020 18:16

I think that's great - pretty, nobody will get hurt, but he'll be mightily pissed off!

If it makes you feel better OP, I've been seeing someone since November and with absolutely no warning I found out that this morning he's literally just gone and moved to Australia! Grin

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Nickynackynoodle · 04/02/2020 18:18

@MummytoCSJH wtf. Why are people. Seriously. Hope you're ok.

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OxfordCat · 04/02/2020 18:19

If he hasn't already set up the company you could register the name with Companies House in about 10 minutes too...! Grin

fromdownwest · 04/02/2020 18:19

@DaveTheDesigner - I agree

This was my point earlier on, it appears to be a very clever way to have 'one up'.

However, if they ex can prove, that the only reason you know of these names, was down to IP that he owned (or created) prior to leaving you, then you have technically stolen his IP. I do not know what stage of business set up he was at.

I would tread carefully, all good and well having a forum patting you on the back for a job well done. Not sure, they will be about when you receive a sols letter.

I do not want to be the one to bring the party to the end, just think you you should have both side of the action presented.

MummytoCSJH · 04/02/2020 18:21

@NickyNackyNoodle I haven't even had time to be upset yet, I'm still incredulous that it's happened. He wont even be there yet he'll still be on the plane! Hope you're okay too x

UYScuti · 04/02/2020 18:23

I would also tread very carefully, I probably wouldnt do anything just in case, you've got no idea what kind of cray-cray this woman could be
as hard as it is I would probably just stalk them on social media hoping to witness his downfall until I got it out of my system (been there and it took a looong time:( )