To wonder how some women have it sooo easy...

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Aibu? Or just jealous? I don't know but how did they make it?
Such an easy life! Cleaners, gardeners. Huge countryside houses and sometimes second homes by the sea.
A caring and loving husband, good looking and wealthy. No need to work for the rest of their lives. Kids privately educated. Enjoying wonderful holidays in different places and cultures and so on...
They exist and just hit the jackpot or there is a secret that most of us don't know?! I met a pair of them last year by chance through my son's extra curricular activities.
So many of us don't have it like that and I know life can be challenging and unfair at times but they seem to have it all.
Can I have the recipe please? Thank you.

Huh?

You know you're being unreasonable. You don't know what happens behind closed doors.

I had my boobs done and then landed myself a hunk of burning cash. That might have helped.

What are you banging on about??

If you want it, earn it

@peachxo eh?

@NewYearsRevolution2020 I was giving her the recipe for landing a rich partner!
Of course I’m joking, it was my personality that sparked his interest...

Plenty of money. Lots have it either through inheritance or hard work or both.

Not everyone has to scrimp. Such is life.

Don't judge someone's life from the outside. They might not be happy. Also I imagine maintaining property is really quite tedious and lonely.

Welcome to the real world, where nothing is fair.

^Not saying get the harps out!

I had the chance of this. Very wealthy barrister. Broke up with him for my (then unemployed but now doing well) DH. Never regretted it for a second. We had a few hard years but I would have died of boredom with the barrister.

Never compare the inside of your life with the outside of someone else's.

I know it sounds annoying and perhaps it doesn't make any sense to post something like this but I'm not feeling well lately for different reasons and those ladies and their lives got me thinking. That's all.

It's an individual thing. Always be grateful for what you've got. No matter how much or little you have.
There's always someone different. And don't judge or get the green eyed monster. It's life.

Did you know there are street-children in Mumbai who earn money to buy food by picking body parts up off railway lines?

Just if you wanted some perspective there...

If they're working then they still make/made compromises with their children. If not then they are missing out on career fulfillment. They face the same choices as all parents.

The difference is between the rich and everyone else. Money removes some of the strains in life. But it doesn't guarantee happiness.

Some women have been raised by their mothers (sometimes fathers too) to marry well. They are also often left decent inheritances. It’s the kind of thing rich people do.

It’s very transactional, although you wouldn’t get a sniff of that from everyday conversations. Don’t be fooled by appearances.

I don’t think everyone is being fair to the pp. sometimes it can be frustrating to see someone have it so easy. But also, one might think someone has it easy, but that is not always the case. There is always something lacking or something the person wishes or wants. Nothing is perfect. Life is not fair. There is no recipe. Some women end up completely alone with no partner and kids, and they would gladly trade places with the person who does not have it all (the ease of life you mention).

In my experience, some women are more aware early on that certain types of men are a better bet when it comes to marriage. They pick the possibly dull but sensible and helpful man with a good career to settle down with.
Other women are blessed to be intelligent but also assertive enough to make it in a well paid profession.
Privilege begets privilege. Privately educated women seem more likely to have figured this out from what I have seen.

It’s just life I’m afraid. Life is unfair

I am sorry OP but this sounds a bit sexist to me. I am fulfilled and enjoy working. It would be no ideal life for me to be living off a man.

Those lucky women are the ones that landed financially secure, stable men.
They didn't have successful jobs or family money or anything else apart from their husbands. They are not catwalk models either. They're look plain looking like me tbh...still for some reason seems like they made it.

You’re describing many facts of my life op.
I’ve spent most of my married life deflecting bitchy bullying behaviour targeted at me from women like you.
I’m not going to list my very real and challenging life problems to persuade you to feel I deserve my life in some way or influence you about how wrong you are about me....and you are.
Maybe you should focus on your own life and consider why you’re so bitter towards others?

My friend had that life. Seriously rich husband, dream homes (yes, several), holidays that would be a trip of a lifetime to you and me, but for her were several times a year, she was the lady that lunched.

Except she wasnt. He made it quite clear that if she went above a size 10 he would leave her. When she put on more weight than he deemed acceptable during pregnancy he hit her in the mouth to stop her eating.

Took her 10 years to leave.

Sometimes it is perfect but most of the time it aint, just for different reasons.

‘ They're look plain looking like me tbh...still for some reason seems like they made it.’

Maybe it’s because they are nice people who know how to value themselves- so nice that people with abundance are drawn to them - & they in turn have made the best of themselves & the opportunities presented to them.

C’mon, you’re not well & looking for misery. Comparison is the thief of joy etc.Be kind to yourself, stop peering over the garden fence, their super green grass gets weeds & needs cutting as well.