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Original poster

To expect DH to do this for me

284 replies

TheMustressMhor · 01/02/2020 13:01

Every weekend DH cooks breakfast.

And every weekend my fried egg is too hard.

I only like dippy eggs. If he's going to go to the trouble of cooking bacon, black pudding, square sausage, mushrooms, eggs and toast, he could at least get the eggs right.

AIBU to expect him to take more care?

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Spieluhr · 01/02/2020 14:55

The quality varies. The frozen ones aren't worth eating but those from a butcher are often excellent,but the better supermarket square sausages are good too.

I'm tempted to go out and get some now,

IntermittentParps · 01/02/2020 14:55

Square sausage! That takes me back. I used to live in Glasgow and my Saturday corner-shop hangover run was square sausage, a morning roll and Irn-Bru in a glass bottle. Happy days.

Spieluhr · 01/02/2020 14:56

They're best eaten on a morning roll.

MissGuernsey · 01/02/2020 15:02

Lorne sausage is fab! I don't suppose anybody knows where I can buy it in West London?

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 01/02/2020 15:04

I think square sausage may be the next MN scarf. I think someone in Scotland should invite me for breakfast and I'll cook the eggs if you bring the sausage does that sound rude or am I childish

Gingertam · 01/02/2020 15:06

Mention gently that you would like a soft egg. Show him how to cook it. I love a dippy egg, hate hard ones. Can't believe there are people on here who say they can't cook a soft fried egg. Blimey.

damnthatanxiety · 01/02/2020 15:14

People are missing the point. If I ask my DH to do something particular way and he chooses not to again and again then that suggests a lack of care on his part. It would be the same if he asked something of me. If for example he asked that I serve food so the components are not touching (cos he is a bit weird like that) then I do it. Because I care and his happiness is important to me. Yes, he could serve himself or I could just be nice and whilst I am doing it, I do it the way he likes. It's called caring and being nice to someone you love.

eddielizzard · 01/02/2020 15:21

OMG I need a square sausage. Are there no commercial producers, only butchers?

I have a fool proof method for frying eggs. I just tried to type it out but I realised I can't describe it.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 01/02/2020 15:22

When we were first married, my husband would sulk and generally be very moody if I burst the yolk of his fried eggs. I Had A Word and he stopped. These days he is ashamed of behaving like a petulant twat back then, and he also does all of the cooking.
OP, if you don't like the eggs he cooks, do your own.

diddl · 01/02/2020 15:26

Well you know how it is on here, Op, your husband cooks you one meal a week & for that you should be eternally grateful, even if he cba to fry an egg how you'd like it.

I mean it's hardly a complicated meal to bring together, is it & yes I think he should do better!

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 01/02/2020 15:27

Well I don't think you're being unreasonable at all.

I realise this is a first world example but my DH does very little next to none of the cooking, although he occasionally does the bbq. We have salmon most weeks and I absolutely hate my salmon raw in the middle-it makes me gag. Despite me saying so every time he still does it that way and then gets very annoyed at me for not wanting it.
I feel like it is starting to get passive aggressive now.
Surely he could just check and see if it is cooked through?

So I have every sympathy for you and your yolk. It's actually not a nice favour if you don't like it.

Original poster
TheMustressMhor · 01/02/2020 15:35

@LaMarschallin

His hobby is not online chess.

I don't want to say what it is as it might be too outing.

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Nanna50 · 01/02/2020 15:36

Oh the art of cooking a perfect fried egg, I’ve never quite cracked it.

Tartyflette · 01/02/2020 15:38

It’s really not difficult to cook fried eggs - i can do several at a time and to varying degrees of ‘doneness’ depending how people like them - which i ascertain beforehand.
(I would think ‘how do fancy your egg today?’ is a standard question to ask when you’re the breakfast cook. )
Does he flip it over? If so tell him not to do that, please, and serve it to you unflipped. Otherwise he should just take it out of the pan earlier.
If he knows you like the yolk soft but persists in cooking it hard then that’s another issue.....

curiousierandcouriser · 01/02/2020 15:39

I love runny eggs, but my DW cannot stand them. So generally there are two sets that get made.

Gift him an egg timer? :)

DandyAF · 01/02/2020 15:39

@TheMustressMhor

Is his hobby oology?

longtimelurkerhelen · 01/02/2020 15:40

@MissGuernsey Aldi do them apparently. metro.co.uk/2019/05/13/aldi-has-started-selling-square-sausages-perfect-for-sausage-butties-9511499/

Tartyflette · 01/02/2020 15:42

mumsiedarling if the salmon is too underdone for you (i like it that way but each to their own) stick it in the microwave for about 30 seconds.
If he objects to that he’s an arse.

megletthesecond · 01/02/2020 15:42

Isn't the whole point of fried eggs that the middle just be dippy runny?

megletthesecond · 01/02/2020 15:42

must be.

Original poster
TheMustressMhor · 01/02/2020 15:44

@DandyAF

No. His hobby is definitely not oology.

I really don't want to say what it is.

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Ponoka7 · 01/02/2020 15:50

Normally you'd like to do something nice for your partner and make food how they like it, so he should try to get the eggs right.

For those asking, Asda and Sainsbury's also do square sausages.

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 01/02/2020 15:51

@Tartyflette I do often pop it in microwave but do feel a bit aggrieved as I bend over backwards when I am cooking to make it how ppl like it- and it is starting to get on my nerves as he doesn't check and seems astonished every time.
I wouldn't give him something he had to then microwave.

I know it's an odd foible and even odder as I love sushi Grin no accounting for taste!

KittenVsBox · 01/02/2020 15:54

Do you have kids? If so, make sure they also taste the delights of runny yolks, because they can be much more vocal about DHs overcooking of yolks. And you may even get to the point the kids cook the eggs for breakfast - with runny yolks......

DH cooks breakfast maybe once a month. I dislike cinnamon. I may have stropped excessively last weekend, when, yet again, my waffles were ruined with cinnamon.

Nanna50 · 01/02/2020 15:56

@Tartyflette My egg has to be flipped and the yolk runny, just to make sure there’s no snotty bits as mentioned above.