It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

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I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

I think it's a good thing because it means you can stop cooking for him, just buy tins of something in a white sauce the same thing every meal and he can use his condiments to make it into whatever he wants😊
Meanwhile you can cook interesting food for yourself 😊

He likes the taste of his favourite condiments, why is that such a crime? I don't understand why it even matters, you cook a family meal because you don't want your family to die of starvation, you love them and want to feed them and you want them to enjoy it, he's enjoying it in his own way and you're upset because...... he doesn't taste it and tell you it's amazing and eat it as is? Why would him tasting it and then covering it in sauce be any different.

I like salty food. If it suits the chef and everyone else, it won't have enough salt for me.

My DD is a Chef and she wants people to enjoy their food. She's encountered enough megalomaniac chefs to recognise when people use food as a power trip.

She likes extra garlic, so knows straight away to ask for extra to be put in/on. It's stupid to say that you need to taste food first. You know your own tastes.

there is a whole shelf in the fridge devoted to his condiments.

Is that all? DH has an entire kitchen cupboard stacked to the rafters with condiments. BBQ sauces and hot sauces from around the world, wanky mayonnaises, etc.

I don't care what he adds to his dinner. It's him eating it.

I am with you op, it would annoy me and I would stop bothering to make him nice food. Just grill some fish and hand it over.

Presumably he isn't insisting she cook fish roulade and may be perfectly happy with grilled fish. I assume the OP is cooking what she wants to cook and enjoys making fancier dishes.

Bleugh, there are not enough condiments in the world that could help me eat fish roulade with cheese sauce so maybe he needs help masking the flavour. As i have cooked for my kids for so long i dont add any salt to my cooking so I am more than happy for someone to add salt or anything else to my cooking. I know my food tastes good but their meal their choice

Im sure they can but you would definitely expect it of a professional as its part of the job requirement.

Agreed. But I definitely wouldn’t describe a home cook as “arrogant” just because, like a professional chef, they believe they know how to season a dish correctly.

It's not rude, you're controlling. My OH is as likely to sprout an extra leg as he'd be to tell me to stop putting balsamic vinegar on my dinner whenever I get chance.. because you know, I'm the one eating it? It doesn't affect you in any way..?

I agree OP, I would also like to control how and what my DH eats.

My DH is a fucking freak does things like add HP sauce to lovingly prepared salmon. Internally I do judge him but his tastebuds, his mouth, his stomach, his choice what to put in it. I couldn't find it in me to be annoyed over stuff like this, he is a lovely kind person who cooks for me all the time and makes me a good cup of tea in bed every morning. This outweighs his own terrible taste in food

Also, I add about eight pounds of black pepper to everything, especially cheese. I love pepper. DH thinks this is bizarre but puts extra pepper in all my food.

If it was a new dish, a bit rude, if it's a repeat dish, not that rude because he already knows what he's getting and he wants a bit more oomph. If it's an absolute drowning of the meal though, I do think he needs to start again on trying to flavour as tastebuds sound out of whack.

I've also been offered condiments in naice restaurants; too. Usually mustard for steak though. My bird-like-appetited dad has learnt the hard way to take a v small portion of fish & chips- my mum likes a spot of ketchup but won't eat his left overs because he's quite liberal with the vinegar - which she hates, I love vinegar but won't touch his left overs due to ketchup - only acceptable to me on hotdogs. He then gets told off for waste!

I have this problem too. Your husband has a poor palate and you possibly have over inflated ideas of your own cooking....well thats the feedback I get!.

I can't bear people adding salt and pepper to their food before tasting it.
Morons.

YAsoooNBU

How do they know what it needs before they try it? They are letting you know that even before fork reaches mouth that your food is a bit crap and needs adjusting. Rude.

I'm sure DP's taste buds are desensitized to years of hot sauce being liberally thrown over everything.

I don't mind people adding things after they have tasted but have the same issue as you when people don't even try it first. I have finally managed to convince my mum that she can taste the food first 'before' adding more salt. I know she likes salt in her food, as do I, so it rarely needs more. Used to drive me mad that she would just salt things first. Now we laugh about it as I just raise an eyebrow if she reaches for the salt before picking up her fork :)

OP, somebody has to tell you this...

YOU ARE A BAD COOK

and no, fish roulade and cheese sauce does not sound very nice.

It's going in his mouth not yours. Why shouldn't he have flavours he likes?

Why not mayo &tomato ketchup for chips?

I often add a lot of black pepper to my own portion of food I’ve cooked, simply because I like it, and I know other people probably won’t, but can add it if they want to.

The only thing that bothers me re eating, is extreme fussiness in the sort of adults who won’t eat masses of ordinary foods. I don’t mean intolerances, just fussiness.
Naturally I make an exception for anyone who hates the same things I do! Namely meat fat, cream, goat’s cheese and fennel.

Can't believe there are people that thinks this is rude, didnt realise there were so many control freaks that think they can control what another grown adult has to eat! That's completely outrageous.

I add mustard and pepper to everything before tasting as there can never be too much of either

My DH always adds salt to his food, usually before tasting. Because of that I now just cook without salt and now I don't mind when he adds it because I agree it needs it ;) This doesn't solve OP's problem of her food tastes getting totally smothered in the same condiment taste not matter what the dinner is though. Can't believe there are people who think this is totally fine to do without even tasting first.

DH puts a ton of salt on every meal which annoys me but I never use it in cooking and use low salt stock cubes etc as I'm T2 diabetic.

He really likes salty and sugary foods though, and after 20 + years of smoking (he gave up 10 years ago) I just think his tastebuds aren't very effective.

OP Dont ever visit Edinburgh, they put brown sauce on the fish and chips

My DH does this as well, which can be really annoying when I've spent time getting the blend of flavours just right. He likes 'sloppy' food, so when it's eg. paella or lasagne that just aren't sloppy enough for him, he will add to them. He doesn't use wanky condiments though, usually just mayo (or salad cream aaagh!!) So I don't think you are unreasonable at all, it's annoying, but I don't say anything and we have been married for several thousand years. Pick your battles, that's my best advice to anyone.

It's completely uncouth to smother food before tasting.

It's very, very basic manners to taste food before you season it.

People may not like this, but it's the truth.

I have absolutely no problem adding a condiment to food I cook.

To smother it before tasting is just rude.

I accept that some people honestly don't know any better.

But it's very poor table etiquette.

It's rude to season your food to how you like it before you eat it? Ohhhhhh kaaaaaaay...