It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

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I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

@Hadtoask I tend not to worry too much about appearing sophisticated inside my own home

Stop cooking for him with his over seasoning needy arse.

'he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection'

Wanker.

My DP without even tasting, shovels handfuls of salt on his food.

Maybe he will die.

YANBU.

Just stop cooking.

YABU just because it's tasty to you it doesn't mean someone else will share the same view. We all have different tastes. I make my meals tasty too - but I always add extra pepper to mine, DD likes ketchup and DH throws everything at it. You are getting offended over nothing.

He mashes horseraddish onto fish
is he German? My mum does this, it's a thing in Germany, especially if the fish is smoked

I have curry sauce, mayo and ketchup on my chips (and salt and vinegar of course!)

This bugs me too op. DH does it to everything, which is fine, if only he would taste it first to be sure it needed it. I sometimes think I could serve him brown dishwater with porridge oats mixed in, how would he tell the difference when there is so much mustard, ketchup and whatnot on it?

Perhaps your DH is simply going on experience.

He mashes horseraddish onto fish

I have been known to dip fish pieces into a jar of horseradish as a snack.

Sushi/wasabi? Same thing.

When I serve some dishes at home, I put up to six different 'condiments' in dishes as we all prefer different things.

YABU OP. Let your husband decide for himself how he wants his food to taste. I'd be SO pissed off if someone told me which 'condiments' were acceptable.

XH always put loads of salt & pepper on every meal I made before even trying it.
Just rude IMO

If it bugs you that much, don't cook for him.

Oh god. I actually can't believe there are people who find it rude when others use condiments for their dinner!

Read the fucking original post. He "smothers" the food without even tasting it. That is incredible rude. Would you dump a crap ton of seasoning all over it before you'd even TASTED it?

Ever been to a restaurant op? When they serve your meal they say 'would you like any sauces?'

Only, in my experience, in the ones where they wipe the tables down as you're sitting there.

OP, Put the condiments on his plate and put his meal in the fridge.

I am half-Asian and grew up on the Asian continent and N. America/Canada. I came to the north of here 20 years ago. I married a man who considers pepper spicy. God, I can't deal! I used to carry hot sauce in my bag and sneak it on. YABU. I hold off whilst cooking for him and our kids, but I layer it on thick on my own dish. It's mine to eat, and I want it seasoned. In the same way, my husband likes his meat what I consider cremated. If I am cooking it for him, I do it that way for him. I make my own how I like it (wipe its horns, wipe its arse, great, it's good to eat). I don't spend my time taking it as an affront. His tastes are different from mine. I hate bland food.

It doesn't bother me at all. People season their food according to their personal preference.
Your eyebrows would mate with your hairline if you cooked my mother a meal OP. She goes mental with the salt.
Put meal in front of her, she has a little taste. Hmm, a bit of salt I think.
Shake, shake, shake, shake.
Another taste. Hmm, a bit more.
Shake, shake, shake, shake.
Don't even get me started on my father with the pepper!!!!

YABVU. It’s not rude and I can’t see why it would bother you at all; it doesn’t affect you.

So what if he likes condiments? If he prefers his food that way it’s up to him; he’s not forcing condiments onto your food so you shouldn’t try to force him to have his without.

Don't worry about cooking him anything decent. Just give him tofu every night. Once he's covered it with all his condiments it will taste the same as everything you take the time to prepare.

I was with you until you said fish roulade with cheese sauce. It does sound very white and bland. I think I’d get some chilli sauce too before settling down.

Sorry!

My OH covers everything in brown sauce....... including salad.

Leave him alone!

My mum is like this with my dad and it's just miserable to watch.

He has different taste to you, leave him to it
Not a thing to get annoyed about

He put horse radish, chilli sauce and truffle mayo on it All three?

I'd just make him a plain baked potato, it will end up tasting the same

Don’t be so controlling! If he likes condiments he likes condiments! Do you seriously dictate that he’s only allowed ketchup OR mayo on his fish and chips?!

Yanbu and in a smart restaurant this would indeed be frowned upon as completely insulting to the chef.

Maybe he’s raising an eyebrow as you’re allowed to alter the meal and he isn’t?

I put home made chilli sauce on most things, or home made smoked garlic sauce, I’m not a fan of bland food. To me the meal you cooked would be fairly bland so I would need to alter it to my tastes to see it as anything other than basic fuel.

He mashes horseraddish onto fish

Love horseradish with fish pie well with most things really

OP what you describe sounds vaguely irritating no more or less. I think you need to unclench personally.

I would also be baffled if someone served me fish roulade (I had to google it clearly I'm not posh enough for mumsnet) as a weekday tea 😆