It’s rude to take one look at the dinner I have cooked then get lots of condiments for it.

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I spend time preparing a meal that is tasty and balanced, H takes one look at it, doesn’t taste it or anything, just gets his collection of condiments from the fridge and smothers his dinner.
We are talking things like truffle mayo ( he is a bit wanky with his condiment collection) so things that will fundamentally change the flavour of the meal. And no, I didn’t make fish and chips. ketchup or mayo, not both, would be acceptable in that case.
I think it’s unbelievably rude of him, he thinks it’s perfectly fine.

My DH smothers everything in tabasco. My DD3 won't even tolerate mustard in my cooking. If we didn't make liberal use of condiments in our house every meal time would be a battle zone.

I 100% cover any pasta dish including spag Bol in kitchen and it breaks my husband (and mum when I lived at home!) a little bit each time I did it. It’s not personal, I love both their spag bols I just love life more with ketchup in it 😂

KETCHUP not kitchen

And to those saying he could have at least tasted it first, surely that’s worse? One taste and “blergh this needs hiding under condiments” or “this looks great let me add some condiments so I can enjoy it to my taste”

I was always taught it was rude to season your food before tasting it, so yes I would find smothering it in condiments before even trying something with a sauce very odd. DP still does it though

@Alsoco yep I'm the same with salt

I I don't think it's rude. My DH loves condiments he will put them with anything whoever makes it!

I will always taste but there's a couple of things I tend to add
I drown my salads in balsamic, add extra black pepper to everything and eat pizza with mayo

Hmm. Not really bothered by things like that but then again I always add loads of salt and pepper to everything because I like it

I add ketchup or mayo to lost things.

I think the key here would be whether your dh has any say in what food is being prepared. Dp has some level of likes and dislikes (not many to be fair he grew up poor so he figures if someone gives him food of any description it's made his day - his words not mine). However I know his tastes but if I'm cooking something I'm unsure if he likes I'll ask him, just as I'll ask anyone else kn the house.

My dm used to unilaterally decide what everyone is eating, serve it up and then promptly pull a face if anyone even added salt.

She was one for " appropriate " sauces. I did actually as an adult get quite cross about this. She challenged my nephew who quite rightly said that he had different tastes to her (she hadn't made this meal) and if he wanted to put salad cream on chips why shouldn't he?

She got quite uppity and bosom hoiky with ridiculously embarrassing phrases like "it's just not right or appropriate " , which is where I got annoyed and told her to stop being controlling about food.

Frankly op , it sounds like you have this perfect little picture if the meal and noone is allowed to mess with it but have you considered whether you took anyone eating its views into account?

I think it would be more polite and respectful of the effort you put in if he tasted it then adjusted the seasoning/condiments to his taste.

However, if it's something you've made before and he knows that's how he prefers it, that's no problem. You have differrent palates.

(horseradish sounds a good addition to me - love a bit of heat in a meal)

I don’t think it’s rude.

If that’s how the person wants to eat it 🤷🏻‍♀️ That’s the beauty of being an adult you can put whatever you like on your meal you don’t need your wife or husband permission

Given the weird sauces selection added to the meal in the OP's case, he was clearly going to add these regardless... how would tasting the food have indicated whether it needed horseradish, chilli sauce and truffle mayo?

Who tastes something and thinks "this needs horse radish, chilli sauce and truffle mayo"...? The bloke was going to add these anyway, so to be annoyed is just petty. If you're that pissed off then stop making food for him...

Or at least tell him how you feel... Tell him that you want him to eat his food in a manner that pleases YOU.... see how that goes down.

The upside of this is that it doesn’t sound as if it’s necessary to go to much trouble when cooking for this person. If food for him is just a conduit for condiments, just do some frozen fish and chips or similar. Do yourself a nice little meal and leave him to it.

I would be wondering if there is any other reason why he is adding all of these extra flavours? It is insulting, but there may be more behind it.
A good friend of mine complained about the same thing, and it turned out that he had been cheating on her (cliché, but with a younger, slimmer woman). When they were having it out, she raised this (amongst a lot of other things), and it turned out that he had been having a lot of meals out when "working late", and the new woman had opened his eyes to lots of different exciting flavours, and he was bringing this back into the home. It was almost a metaphor of my friend being bland and boring and the new woman being more interesting.
If your husband is working late a lot recently, I would maybe be a bit careful. Do you know his phone password? This is coming from somewhere.…..

I love a condiment or three, but I think coating any old dinner with it without tasting the meal first is boorish behaviour.

May as well just open a packet and shove things in the oven, or let him do his own.

YANBU. Condiments/seasonings are find to add after you've tasted the food I've cooked, in my book. It's only polite.

It is a tricky one but I absolutely refuse to let anyone put tomato sauce on a roast I have cooked ... and am happy they go without eating it if they cant do without tomato sauce. Everything else though ... though I find mayonnaise plastered over things repulsive to observe the person slathering it down.

Angus Yes I am but not because of auto-condominium.

This thread has really made me laugh, thanks.

Oh i love ketchup on a roast. It's habit.

I'm afraid I am a chronic hot sauce addict! But then I am the main cook in my house and the only reason I don't make food spicy enough for my taste is because DH can't handle much spice at all, so copious amounts of hot sauce are the result.

I do understand though OP, my FIL will cover his food in salt before he's even tasted a bite. But that's not just my food, he does it with everything he eats, no wonder he has heart problems!

OMFG @Mitel1 that has got to be the biggest stretch I have ever read on here. “Check your husband’s condiment usage to see if he’s shagging” Are you for real??

I think Mitel1 has it....if he's using a lot of condiments there's probably an OW

it's the same as if you went to an art gallery, and suggested after you bought a fine piece of art, that the artist splash some more blue paint over it, and draw a smiley face on the sun, or whatever.

"This absolute pleb wanted to season food I had cooked for them, don't they know that's the same as wanting to deface a painting? How can they not realise the point of food is not that it is enjoyed by the one eating it, but that they way they eat it is dictated to by the one who cooked it?"