To not like this text message?

[Fidgetwonkam]

How would you feel if you received this message from your boyfriend/partner?

I had mentioned that I wanted to start again with my hobby that I haven’t done for a long time (well before I met him)

I know it was sent with good intentions but I just don’t like it. Aibu?

How would it make you feel to get a text like that?

[POST EDITED BY MNHQ TO REMOVE TEXT]

Oh dear you have the ick, there is no way back now.

Gosh some sops on here! If I received this I would be completely turned off. It is cringe OP. And he "needs MUCH more than a good looking lady" ? ughhhits all a bit 🤮

It’s quite sweet but..when I was dating it’d probably mean he was more into me than I was into him.
Is that the case?

Oh it's a bit patronising !

''you're not like the other girls, you have a hobby''.

Puke

But it's not a row of red flags. It's just a bit........................ irritating/patronising.

Unless there was a history that meant it was a deliberate joke I would find it horribly irritating. It's all about him and what a great guy he is and the last line is patronizing in tone.

I’d actually tell my husband off if he called me a good looking lady. Lady?! What decade is he living in?! 🤮

Correction. All of it is patronizing. The last line is very patronizing.

Been together nearly 18mths.

Probably me misreading it, but for some reason your post gave me the impression you'd only been dating for a few weeks.

I think he was expressing that he likes that there is more to you than the obvious. And that that matters to him :-)

My ex used to do this.... he sent me a rhyming poem about anal sex once (not a hobby I was taking up, just so you know!) He took himself very seriously and thought he was genuinely hilarious in his rhyming prose. I can confirm, he was not, and I should have run a mile a lot sooner!

Oh that would be it for me. As a pp said, once you have the ick, that's it!

He just seems too much, too needy. I bet he never disagrees with you. From that one message I think I'd find him exhausting.

I agree with the others - you don’t like it because it’s patronising and takes something you’re interested in and makes it about him. It seems your interest becomes something that he measures yours (and his value) with and the implication is you’re not already interesting enough for him. Weird! What’s wrong with him just saying that’s great if it’s something you enjoy I’m glad you’re getting back into it?

It's a bit cringe 🤭
He maybe drunk and talking drivel but in his drunken state he thinks it's sexy Byronesque to send it to you.

It's not terrible

However as another PP said
Oh dear you have the ick, there is no way back now.

It's possible that with all his gushing and now this, you've started to get the ick.

Wait til he's sobered up and have a chat that it's a turn off. That you're not gushy and it's a bit much for you,

See if he can reign it in. Maybe a previous gf loved it and he's just using what worked before. And he doesn't know you cringe at it.

However if he calls you an ice maiden or doesn't listen or try to respect your feelings/view, when you have that chat, you have bigger problems than some awful drunken "poetry" flirting attempts from him.

I understand what he was trying to say. That he likes that I’m creative and ‘more than just a pretty face’ (Not a fan of that concept btw) and I know he was trying to be supportive in his own way.

I’m glad others have picked up on some of the things I was thinking and why I was irritated. Maybe it’s just a bit clumsy and I should lighten up.

Oh dear you have the ick, there is no way back now.
Yep, LTB.

I feel like I can’t say I don’t like it though because that’s like me trying to change him? And I can’t mould him into what I want?

Just me who thinks it’s cute then, yeah?

He’s clearly a bit tipsy and wanted to write you a weird little poem about pots

You’d all hate my DP who, when he leaves before me in the morning, thinks up a funny new name for me every morning and texts it to me to wake up to

But yes, it sounds like you do have ‘the ick’ so you’re finding things to justify ‘the ick’. I don’t think this strange poem is the real problem here.

@jarjarjam that’s it exactly!

Sorry, but your use of mould there did make me laugh. But seriously no you can't change him. What about loving him for all the things he does right rather than disliking him for the odd thing he does wrong?

@CaptainCabinets my ex husband would send single word texts so maybe I feel ungrateful for not liking this attentiveness.

Oh Christ - he’s just trying to be ‘nice’. Yes, a bit clumsy and a little cringe, but if you’ve been with him long enough he’s probably always been like this? It sounds like you’re not that into him and are trying to find reasons not to like him. Sorry.

Urgh, he sounds like a pissed blithering cringe.

Well my old hobby was archery so I guess a poem to me would go - ' I need you to shoot things! I love you to shoot things! Shoot for me!'... Which would frankly probably get him arrested 🙄

He just wrote a poem to amuse you. It’s kind of sweet and well Intentioned. Tho I did say to my DH recently “I’m so glad you don’t like writing poems” ! This AIBU reminds me why! Cringe factor for us non poets !

Dump him. But by poem.