To have blocked the CF?

[Sparklfairy]

I've been seeing a guy for about 4 months. He works a 'normal' job and I work from home, freelance, long and anti social hours. It's not uncommon for me to work overnight, sleep pattern all over the place etc. I've had to put my foot down before with regards to him assuming that because I work for myself that I can have time off whenever I he want(s).

He was supposed to come over last night, but I cancelled due to running late on a work deadline. Said we could do something today in the day. It was left that he would call me in the morning and jokes were made about me likely being dead asleep if it was early and not hearing it etc.

At 6.30 this morning I woke to my phone buzzing. I saw it was him and ignored it, as had only got to bed a couple of hours before.

Then my doorbell buzzed.

I was annoyed that he just rocked up at my house (15 miles from his) at 6.30am with no prior warning. My phone kept ringing so I decided to ignore it. He continued to ring the doorbell, long sustained buzzing 10-12 seconds.

I keep my window which faces the road open most of the time (first floor flat). He shouted through the window "ALEXA! TURN BEDROOM LIGHT ON!" which of course she did. Okay, annoying but maybe, just maybe he was kidding around and didn't think it would work.

Then he shouts, "ALEXA! SET ALARM FOR FIVE MINUTES"

I lost it then. I went to the window, said, 'Well you can fuck off', slammed it shut and locked it.

He then continued to ring me and buzz my doorbell until I threatened to call the police. He then resorted to just yelling up at me from the street

I'm so utterly bewildered that he thinks any of this is normal!? I've blocked him and very firmly told him to fuck off. He's texted saying that I said he could come round (not at 6.30 unannounced I fucking didn't) and if I was clearly asleep why did he think it was okay to force me to wake up? What the fuck.

I've blocked him and never want to speak to him again (but of course am still furious so don't know if it's that). Starting to think maybe I was too harsh...?

I don't read this as him checking up on OP, I read it as him being pushy and wanting to have his own way. Also him being a twat.

Either way, you're well rid, OP.

Who actually thinks that is a good idea? Your well rid block delete and move on. In a few weeks it will be a funny story you tell.
Ide also reconsider Alexa what a bitch

WillLokireturn I am laughing about her now actually. Cheeky cow doesn't even respond to me sometimes when I'm right next to her, but him bellowing from the street and she answers him straight away. BOTH TIMES.

Your ex sounds like mine though everything done his way but dressed up as if he's doing something nice "for me"

An apology to the neighbours might be in order later

Think I might have got up... to get a bucket of water!

Who voted YABU?

I don’t think you’ve heard the last of him. I think he thinks he’s giving you a day or two to calm down and then he can explain to you how you’ve overreacted, how he was only doing what you’d told him to do and how much you’ve hurt his feelings, but that he’s such a nice man he’s going to give you the opportunity to make it up to him.

Once he realises that you’ve twigged what an absolute bloody lunatic he is, I think he’ll be in touch again. Telling you that he won’t contact you until you contact him first isn’t displaying much awareness that you might not want to ever see him again.

Who the hell thinks op is being U?

Actually I am sure there are people on here who vote that way just for kicks to screw up the vote. But dont actually believe it. nobody in thier right mind would vote YABU in this case

What's unreasonable is you think for a second that you were too harsh. Fuck him the fuck off. NEVER contact this fucking nutjob control freak cunt again. If he tries to contact you again, call the police.

My immediate assumption? Because you keep cancelling he thinks you're seeing someone else. Turning up at 6.30am meant, if you were, he'd have caught the pair of you in bed still.

No trust, you're well rid.

Agee with everyone else’s comments

However I can’t help wondering if he triggered anyone else’s Alexa as well. A street load of baffled people wonder why the hell the lights came on

I suppose it's possible longwhiskers but he's not displayed any jealous behaviour before. But I think you can be possessive of someone without thinking they're shagging around iyswim. He just wants ALL my spare time (and even time I don't have spare!) and just says 'i like being with you as much as possible'.

Read: clingy.

lyralalala that did make me laugh

Honestly don't give this twat another fucking thought. He's a loose cannon. I'd honestly close my window and buy a fan today because weirdos like this can't take NO for an answer sometimes and if he comes over again call the police.

Ugh, that is such a turn-off. I think I'd rather someone be jealous of other men than want to cling to me like a barnacle 24/7.

I therefore don't expect he'll keep to his word and leave you alone. Might be worth keeping a note of any messages he sends, uninvited visits, etc. Not saying it'll escalate, but it pays to be careful. Clearly he has little sense of what is normal behaviour in a relationship!

if he could come over every night after work he absolutely would (I live alone, he's with his parents)

He likes your house, I think!

Your Alexa sounds incredibly sensitive that it can be controlled by somebody shouting from outside you property, 10 feet below.

Yeah I'm disappointed I didn't think of chucking water. He'd only have used that as an excuse to think I was batshit anyway

Surely that wouldn't matter if you're dumping him anyway?

Am I right in thinking you can change Alexa's name so she won't respond to "Alexa"? Time to sort that out, if so.

Fred if you're suggesting I'm making it up, I'm absolutely not. The road was dead quiet and she picked it up both times as she sits near the open window.

ffs why am I saying she

My immediate assumption? Because you keep cancelling he thinks you're seeing someone else. Turning up at 6.30am meant, if you were, he'd have caught the pair of you in bed still.

Op.has cancelled twice in 4 months!! That doesn't = seeing someone else. Cancelling 12 times maybe would ring bells but twice no.
Going by his previous behaviour he just thought op should be available whenever he wants and to hell with her own life. He was basically telling her he didnt get his own way previous night so he was going to prove he was getting it next morning no matter what effect it had on her.

Reading the OP, I assumed he turned up at that time to try to catch you out, either not there, with another man or hungover because you'd been out with someone else.

Or just wanted to teach you a lesson for daring to put your work first. Make it so you need to get a "proper" job that better suits him.

I agree with everything EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard said. Even if you were willing to forgive this he's already shown lots of warning signs.

As a pp said it sounds like he wanted to star in his own romcom or sitcom, but you didn't play along.

Sounds like you both have weirdlifestyles.

And ALEXA is known to be a sly one. I can be next to her, talking clearly, asking her to put the light on and I get ignored or at best "shuffling songs by oasis". But if anyone on the TV says 'exception' she springs into life with a long and random waffle about some word they used.

What a freak!

I think I would've had to have it out with him though and find out what on earth he was thinking...

I'd be fuming if I was your neighbour as well!