Working with a woman who weirdly lies ALL the time

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I’ve worked with her for about two years and started noticing it more and more.

For example: she’ll have a call at work. I will obviously hear one side of it as we sit next to each other.

She will then repeat the contents of the call if she is asked (if it’s relevant etc) but completely makes up her side of the conversation. And as it’s none of my business I’ll sit there and think ‘erm that didn’t actually happen’.

But she has now started doing it with me. So for example recently I’ve been at home as I put my back out and she said to my colleague in front of me ‘oh poor balls was so bored she kept phoning me to keep her company’

No I didn’t!

She has met my children and made up conversations to others that she has supposedly had with them.

If I say ‘well no you didn’t actually I’m going to look like a right prick aren’t I?’ It’s bizarre and a complete non problem.

My stb exmil is the liar in my life, constant nonsense lies for no reason. First time she did it she was in my car (this is something like 31 years ago now) she'd asked me to stop because she wanted to say hello to someone she knew. Person told her that x had been taken ill and gone to hospital. Drive on to the shop and another person she knew was there. She immediately started saying about X being ill but amazingly between stop 1 and 2 he'd had a heart attack and was clinging to life! I was there, heard both conversations and she'd sensationalised the story to such a ridiculous extent with no shame in my presence (I'd probably only known her a few weeks at this time). It was just so blatant I just stood there with my mouth open. My stbexh (then boyfriend) didn't blink an eye and just went yeah she just lies constantly. Didn't realise just how bad it would be but you literally cannot believe a word she says. If she said the sky was blue I'd have a look to check now! My DD's particularly my eldest just says stop lying grandma when she hears her but she simply doesn't care that everybody knows she's a liar. In a way it's Karma because she's now alienated everyone and has no friends.

I just looked at her and said ‘did I, I can’t remember that’

Bloody good start Ballsto.

In no time, we will have you working on:
"You must be confusing me with someone else again Sandra, that didn't happen"

& graduating to

"Sandra, you are doing this a lot now - telling me things that JUST DID NOT HAPPEN. Is there something happening with your memory that we need to be concerned about?"

You just need to put her in her place. When she said about the message you should of said “No I didn’t. Do you have prove of this?” Just put her on the spot.

I sometimes used to make things up, just for fun, or to make a point. One day a woman I had known all my life (I was in my 20s by then), burst out laughing when she heard me and said "she has such a straight face that you can't tell whether it's true or not!". It hadn't actually occurred to me that anyone would believe me when I did it, so after that I would make the story completely unbelievable. We all had loads of fun.

I remember telling a couple of guys that my friend and I lived in a tree on the common as that was where our spaceship had landed. We all kept that one up for the entire evening. They kept buying us different drinks so that we, as aliens, got a proper taste of what was on offer.