AIBU re: lift giving: will she turn up on Friday or not?

[Whiskeychaser]

Second thread.

Thanks for all the support.

Dreading them coming out od school because I can see my dd getting it in the ear from them, and I'm really feeling for her.

Link to first thread to follow in a minute (when I figure it out).

Pom Poms, check.

Whisky and chaser for once she gets home - check.

Copious amounts of chocolate and ice cream, plus coke for OP's DD once she gets home - check.

I've got sav blanc if anyone wants it.

and that I'm letting her dd down by being awkward

Bad, bad Whiskey.
Only your 'friend' is allowed to let her dd down.
Or to bring her to tears by not being arsed to walk 14 minutes with her once a week.
How very DARE you go charging in, helping people out for 2 years then suddenly letting them down by ensuring you can still continue to offer a lift there & back, despite 'friend's fucking outrageous lack of gratitude.
It's not on!

@IJustCantDeal lock the CF's in

OP, you are 100% right, she is a complete CF, see this through.

I've followed both threads all the way through OP,like lots of other posters have said I can't believe how rude the Mum has been and honestly I think you and your DD would be best of giving both the CF Mother and her DD a wide birth from now on.

OP As a fellow people pleaser who is also trying to toughen up, I say well done!!

I think that some people think that giving a lift involves no effort or 'work'. They don't realize that driving, negotiating junctions, roundabouts, finding parking, etc, is just easy. I used to have a friend like this.

I'm very proud of you and am using you as inspiration!

There seems to be so many people like this about. Total lack of empathy.

and that I'm letting her dd down by being awkward

Bad, bad Whiskey.
Only your 'friend' is allowed to let her dd down.
Or to bring her to tears by not being arsed to walk 14 minutes with her once a week.
How very DARE you go charging in, helping people out for 2 years then suddenly letting them down by ensuring you can still continue to offer a lift there & back, despite 'friend's' fucking outrageous lack of gratitude.
It's not on!

Thinking of you OP. Read both threads. I’m someone who has been used by others for years. So I’m watching you in awe.

That should be 'isn't just easy'.

Oh dear... Friday night!!

Wow this thread is gripping..all the suspense...bloody marvelous!

@Flimflamfloogety that sounds great in theory but car damage or a false imprisonment report isn’t worth it although it would be hilarious

.

I almost hope CF does ask for a lift home

Sorry OP!!

I’m imagining a hostage type situation now

I dont actually believe this will be over. Shes such a CF, she will wait till next week when the dust settles slightly and send her DD roundfor a lift...!

And then a book and a movie about it.

Stay strong op!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3803244-AIBU-re-lift-giving-will-she-turn-up-on-Friday-or-not?msgid=93391193

Ignore my previous post. Posted on the wrong one - someone wanted the link to this post I’ve only had one wine, honest!

Curious to know how many people are currently in your car! Your explanation earlier of you starting to help your DD be assertive by letting her decide on today was great. Rather than you just deciding. I totally get what you’re trying to do and it’s brilliant.

OP I think when the dust settles on this one event, you’ll look back over the ‘friendship’ as a whole and realise that she’s gained an awful lot more out of the relationship than you have.

You’ve had a rude wake up call, but walking away with your head held high and knowing you deserve better is liberating. Cutting out toxic people is empowering. It may take time to get there, but you will.

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You could just give her a lift... but just to your house.... she'll have to walk then!!

What happened? Did they come over?