AIBU re: lift giving: will she turn up on Friday or not?

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Second thread.

Thanks for all the support.

Dreading them coming out od school because I can see my dd getting it in the ear from them, and I'm really feeling for her.

Link to first thread to follow in a minute (when I figure it out).

THE OP DIDN’T KNOW THE DAUGHTER HAD BEEN IGNORING HER OWN ALL DAY UNTIL AFTER SHE SENT THE TEXT.

Sorry to shout but can you all stop having a go at the op now? Thank you.

It’s no good, I’m too tired to wait for an update. I’ll be back after my nap. 😴

Are we waiting for 6pm?

THE OP DIDN’T KNOW THE DAUGHTER HAD BEEN IGNORING HER OWN ALL DAY UNTIL AFTER SHE SENT THE TEXT.

Read the thread. It wasn’t an isolated incident. The OP feels sorry for the other girl. I feel sorry for the OP’s daughter.

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I'm on the edge of my seat

This is like the part of a gig where the music is on inbetween the support act and the main band

I have to say that I think I would involuntarily blurt out, if the CF's DD did turn up, 'you have got to be bloody kidding me. . .'

This is like the part of a gig where the music is on inbetween the support act and the main band

The op isn't going to come back for a couple of hours to leave everyone hanging on the edge of their seats.

I hope they don't turn up. Awful people. Like mother like daughter.

I’m getting excited now

People seem not to have read the post where OP said that she sent the latest text BEFORE her daughter came home and told her about the friend's behaviour at school

Yes but she'd explained those points a dozen times already. She didn't need to send the text. And her daughter has already had hassle from both the CF and CFdd.

Surely she'd be there by now if coming?

Assume OP in car...

I'm guessing we'll have to wait 25 minutes for OP to arrive at the place

Not here. Not heard from either of them so leaving now.
Will update later, either whilst I'm waiting in car for club to finish or when home afterwards.

Yes, she sent the text BEFORE her daughter came home from school. As soon as her daughter did come home from school though another text, or better again a phone call should have been made withdrawing all offers of help.

However, OP is keen to honour her commitment to two people who treat her and her family like shit.

I kind of want her to be there and follow you to the car at the end.

Im waiting for the comment that she's spoken to the school mums about how awful OP is making her take an expensive taxi or quit the group as you know she's a Karen self-entitled and is most important

OP - it might be worth talking to the club organisers so they get the heads up from you before Madam tells them her version. Which she will.

Phew. Now you can tell DD that she will never have to endure another car journey with her bully, nor will she have to hang out with her at the club. I bet DD will be quite relieved.

Wow just caught up on both threads.

Well done op for sticking to your guns.

Bootstraps, if she doesn't turn up today then it's obviously never going to be resolved unless I back down, which I'm not prepared to do

Well, I think you’re being a bit rigid and presumptuous and too into the frame with that approach,. You’re basically saying the only way you’ll accept the friendship continuing in any form is if she does what you want. The child could not turn up and still go to the class; if the mother chooses to make life more difficult for herself by taking public transport or a taxi, what’s it to you really? You’ll still have got your way in that you’re not driving to pick up the girl. She may have realised you had a point but was too proud to say so.

It'll be interesting to see if she gets there on her own steam tonight.

Based on the DDs behaviour to your DD today I would not be giving them a lift home and I would not be engaging with them at all.