Marriage

[MommaJP]

I have my works do coming up it's about 2 hours from where I live, it's all expenses paid I asked hubby if he wanted to come as my +1 he said no I spent weeks trying to convince him he still said no.
So I said I would take a friend instead, everything is sorted and organised.
He's now said that if I do go he will end our marriage.
I feel so confused, I don't want to end our marriage I love him but I also don't want to let him control me but I also don't want to let my work and my friend coming & friends relying on lifts etc down.
Feel like my hearts breaking and my heads gonna explode

Good luck @MommaJP, you're absolutely doing the right thing. Keep strong, you've got this x

Good luck MommaJP. (Hope you don’t think I’m criticising you about the dog, I’m not. Just broken hearted for you and your dog).

Best of luck OP, stay strong.

I didn't think you were I understand your all trying to help. I'm sat in court waiting for injunction I feel so emotional but it's the fight thing by my Little one.

Hope all goes well and that you get your dog back soon.

Best of luck

Has now got my child. Court can't do anything till Monday!!!!

Just to add: it sounds like, through no fault of your own, you have a very poor internal model for what "love" is. What he is showing you isn't love, its abuse.

You absolutely need to get out: this is a terrible marriage. It won't be easy and I don't want to minimise but you do need to do it for yourself and your DC.

I second speaking to Women's Aid. Good luck, there's a better life out there for you.

Sorry hadn't seen your update. Sorry you've had to go through this but it sounds as if things are moving in the right direction.

Oh no, what’s happened?

Do you mean he has taken your child?

He has DC. I've spoken too him he's ok it should all be resolved Monday in court again very emotional just miss my DC and everything but trying to focus on this being short term xx

How did yesterday go @MommaJP ?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-51360772

I posted this on another thread, it's worth reading. I hope everything works out for you. You were right to leave, these men start with the coercive control and then escalate it to violence.