Annoyed with DH

[Rosebel]

Still suffering morning (all day) sickness although not every day. Had it bad today and still my husband invited his mother round for tea. I assumed that he would cook, knowing I felt shit which he did after I asked him.
When he gave his mum the pie he said sorry there's no veg because I hadn't cooked any. He then sat down with his tea and I said did he do anything for me and he said no
I didn't want to make a scene in front of his mum so am just sat here feeling hungry. I just feel like he has no concept of how I feel. But maybe I'm being a bit unreasonable and lazy. Maybe I should have cooked tea and made sure he did veg? Maybe I should have asked if he was doing me some tea?
I feel like he deliberately did a poor job to prove he's incapable and I should do everything but perhaps that's unfair. I don't know I just feel like he's pissing me off a lot at the moment but could just be that I'm being a bitch. Am I right to feel pissed off or does your partner need things spelling out for them? I'm less annoyed he didn't cook for me, I'm more annoyed he expected me to cook and entertain his mother who I'm barely talking to anyway.

[Modestandatinybitsexy]

What an absolute arse!

1. if you cook dinner you should cook for everyone and do a complete job
   
   
2. he should be taking better care of you and his family
   
   
3. his mums an arse, he's an arse. You're better off without them.

[LemonPrism]

Who doesn't cook their sick, pregnant wife tea when she's ill and your cooking anyway?

Who doesn't know to bung broccoli in a pan with pie?

He's being deliberately hurtful... you do realise that he was punishing you right? He wanted you to be upset and hungry.

And oh my god I can't believe he left the kids without a meal and your primary child had to feed herself and her sibling.., what the fuck

[Oly4]

He is a dick and you should tell him so. Things are going to get much harder once the baby is here. You need to tell him NOW to sort himself out, realise he will be cooking a lot more meals, doing a lot more housework and generally being a proper father and partner

[Wildorchidz]

Who doesn't cook their sick, pregnant wife tea when she's ill and your cooking anyway?

An abuser. Who physically abuses his wife and emotionally abuses his children.
That’s who.

[Oly4]

And yes he was trying to punish you for not cooking. Wtf. His actions are unforgivable. Don’t put up with this

[Idontkowmyname]

Very poor form on his part. I think you need to sit down and have a chat regarding expectations moving forward. If he doesn’t “step up” you may get to the point where you re-evaluate the relationship. The fact that he had a dig at you about the veg and never bothered to ask if you needed anything raises alarm bells for how things will unfold further in the pregnancy and also with him not stepping up with a new baby

[user1471449295]

He’s a fucking arsehole!! This is what he’ll be like when the baby is here.

[Evilspiritgin]

I would be devastated if my child let alone my grandchildren were being abused by a man like that, I’m all for kids being competent in the kitchen but my god she’s 11 and her arsehole of a father won’t cook her dinner and her mother is pregnant by him again

That poor kid will be on here in 10 yrs time either in a fucking similar relationship because she’s seen no different or if she’s escaped (maybe very difficult with younger siblings) on here asking why her mother let her father treat her like shit and did nothing about it

[BrendasUmbrella]

Maybe I should have cooked tea and made sure he did veg? Maybe I should have asked if he was doing me some tea?

I'm sitting here wondering how someone who needs this level of micro management is an impending father. Very specific instructions probably

He's a selfish knobhead. You're not throwing a sickie, you're ill because of the side effects of growing your and his child. Don't worry about whether he's cooking veg for visitors or not, don't give that any head space. You need to eat. If you need to, get a takeaway.

[2020nymph]

Oh darling, you and your children deserve so much better than this.

[Idontkowmyname]

Op I missed the part where he didn’t look after the other children. Not acceptable at all. Sorry you are not getting the support both you and your children deserve.

[Rosebel]

I do feel awful that she cooked for herself and her sister. I said she should have woken me I'd have got them a take away but I also told her she'd been very responsible and grown up. When I confronted my husband though he said that she'd said she didn't mind cooking. I can't get him to see that's not the point.
I felt things had changed for the better and I almost hoped I was being unreasonable. I really hope this was a one off. I feel so confused.

[Wildorchidz]

It’s up to you whether you stay or go. Your children don’t have that luxury yet.
Why did you go back to him? Has he explained to your daughter why he hit you?

[ineedaholidaynow]

I haven't read any of your previous threads but I get the impression this is just the continuation of horrendous behaviour but maybe just in a different form.

[Mollychristmas]

How sad that your children have to live with him as a role model, and how sad another child is being brought into this awful relationship.

I wonder why you don’t want better for you and your DC? You deserve better and so do your DC.

Even if you ended up going alone just you and DC at least they would have one decent role model in their lives showing them that women are worth more than that and teaching them about self respect.

[HillAreas]

I’ve been suffering from bad all day morning sickness. I was out of action for about a month and thankfully I’m finally moving past it now.
My DH has not only been doing any and all cooking, fetching of water and snacks when I’ve been in bed unable to move etc, he’s been doing absolutely 100% of the cleaning, washing, shopping, working full time from home and taking the brunt of looking after our baby DS.
Your DH is a useless twat and you should shame him by telling him what a real man/partner/husband does when his wife is suffering to make his baby.

[OlaEliza]

If your pregnancy wasn't planned, what kind of contraceptive failure did you have? Do you think he could have stuck needles through the condoms to trap you?

[Randomname85]

I just read your previous thread - you seemed so strong, such a shame you went back to this abusive man 😞 your 11 year old daughter knows she can’t even rely on her father and she may end up with a man like this. Sorry if these words feel harsh, but he is very bad news and will never change.

[BarbedBloom]

He is abusive. He hasn't changed, he has just changed tactic for now. He will get worse once the baby arrives. Your children deserve better than this. You left him once, do it again.

[Horehound]

Ffs it's not a one off.
Open your eyes

[Likefootball]

He should wait on you hand and foot ! You are having his child.
If he messes up dinner he has only himself to blame, afterall he knows why you can't prepare the meals.

[Pumpkintopf]

Jeez, didn't realise there was a massive horrendous back story here. Op your kids are worth more than this.

[katy1213]

And his mother just sat there and watched this? I'd have been congratulating her on the splendid job she raising her selfish/lazy son.

[pallisers]

but he is lazy.

I'll say. He let his pregnant wife go hungry. He didn't bother to feed his children. He let his 11 year old feed his child. And his mother thought this was perfectly fine!

[GabsAlot]

Oh dear hitting u n front of your children and you went back?

Hes trying to control you -now punihsing you prob