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AIBU to be really fucked with inability to sleep at night

296 replies

Reallycantbefuckedtothink · 20/01/2020 05:26

Just that really, I have always suffered with insomnia but since after Christmas, it has gone up a whole new level.

I managed to fall asleep at around 11pm woke up at 11.15 wide a fucking awake and haven't been able to sleep since.

Its really fucking me up, time spent with DS and DP and to be able to do anything at all because I get so tired during the day.

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Retroflex · 21/01/2020 01:48

Yeah I'm always looking for new things to try... Unfortunately I can't mix night nurse with my antipsychotic medication, and it's the same for quite a lot of other meds, so pillow sprays sound good, thanks

Zandra123 · 21/01/2020 01:50

Hi, I've found my people, another fed up of inability to get some sleep, going to try some of the suggestions 😴

Rachelfromfriends1 · 21/01/2020 01:53

Are any of you side sleepers? I find a super firm pillow helps for neck/head support. It made such a difference that I actually used a memory foam travel pillow for weeks until I bought a proper one.

LawsonsSnow · 21/01/2020 01:54

Mine is hormonal. I have been tracking it on my calendar for 2 years Hmm.

A week before my periid I suffer for 3 nights, then a few days after my period.

Just got to fake it at work tomorrow again Sad

AutumnRose1 · 21/01/2020 01:59

I was meant to be asleep ages ago

It has such an effect on cognitive function

Only thing that helps me is zolpidem which is now impossible to get. Is anyone actually getting that from their doctor? Is it worth me trying a private doctor?

AutumnRose1 · 21/01/2020 02:00

Oh I’ve just realised

I’ve had this around 20 years now 😱😱

Reallycantbefuckedtothink · 21/01/2020 02:04

@Rachelfromfriends1

waves Me, I have a lovely pillow, it is making no difference now, I am hoping its just because of January, but I was getting roughly 4 hours sleep before Christmas.

I know what is keeping me up this week, but not sure about previous weeks

Unmumsnet hugs for everyone going through this as well

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eminencegrise · 21/01/2020 02:07

I get zop/clone-dem from Asia, hence I'm waiting for it from family and still up. Wouldn't think to even bother a GP, utterly worthless. It's the only thing that has truly worked consistently for me, and never having to go above a certain dose. But nigh on impossible to get here now. I could score heroin more easily. I can take 'sedating antihistamines' in huge doses and still not get off to sleep so I no longer bother with them, either.

FordPrefect42 · 21/01/2020 02:13

lmao @ the poster who interjected with the passage from the Qu’ran 😂

I have ADHD and struggle with sleep too. It’s definitely not anxiety-related, I just wish I could basically get my brain to shut up. It’s really bothersome at times. 😞

FordPrefect42 · 21/01/2020 02:14

I prefer firm pillows in hotels actually! So that would be worth giving a go.

Witsendagain · 21/01/2020 02:16

Hello my tribe! I can't even take anything to try and deepen my sleep as I Co-sleep! I used to sleep so well pre-pregnancy! 😭

eminencegrise · 21/01/2020 02:19

Is anyone actually getting that from their doctor? Is it worth me trying a private doctor?

I'd see a private doctor, tbh, if I had no other recourse. Money always talks.

AutumnRose1 · 21/01/2020 02:40

I have this vision of booking a £70 appointment or whatever it is, and being told “no”.

I’ve never seen a private doctor. But now GPs won’t ever give it will they?
I’m expecting a full ban next! The last time I got it was after I was awake for 72 hours and was very ill.

The worst thing is the insomnia headache. Cured by nothing except sleep.

eminencegrise · 21/01/2020 02:47

God, yes, that is a worry! I'm totally expecting a full ban, and hoping to move back to Asia next Summer. I've really had done with the nonsense round prescribing here where it's easier, and cheaper, to score street drugs. I'm rationing out my supply, hence, why I am up, but honestly, I'd try private, tbh. It really blows my mind, they will prescribe mirtazapine, which is far worse in side effects, but not Lunesta or even amitryp. I've just totally lost faith in most of them, although I've never gone private here it might be a different ball game and certainly worth trying for 70 quid.

eminencegrise · 21/01/2020 02:52

I don't think an NHS GP will give it, no, and certainly not longer than a few days. Apparently it's like the worst thing in the whole world for you and you will surely die of taking it over and above coming near it and it is far better for you to sing Kumbaya with your imaginary therapist because We Know What Is Best for You, Dearie.

Retroflex · 21/01/2020 02:55

Thankfully my GP is fantastic, and knows that despite my disability and medication I take because of it, sometimes after weeks of suffering from insomnia, I just can't take it anymore, and they prescribe either zopiclone or zolpidem, the choice is mine...

AutumnRose1 · 21/01/2020 02:56

I am not cool, wouldn’t know to score!

So are you asking relAtives from Asia to bring it in?

It also amazes me that they will give out the more damaging drugs. The opioid crisis is definitely linked to the fact that it’s now harder to get trans and sleeping pills. I don’t know why the authorities expected any different.

I wonder it’s worth emailing a private doctor. Pushdoctor says up front they won’t prescribe them. Maybe a private doc would be nice enough to say so, right off the bat?

AutumnRose1 · 21/01/2020 02:57

“ I don't think an NHS GP will give it, no, and certainly not longer than a few days. Apparently it's like the worst thing in the whole world for you and you will surely die of taking it over and above coming near it and it is far better for you to sing Kumbaya with your imaginary therapist because We Know What Is Best for You, Dearie.”

😂😂😂

Reallycantbefuckedtothink · 21/01/2020 03:05

@Mummaofmytribe

I am also bipolar and I can honestly say this might not be your life, I have really good months where I am not on MNs at 3am

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PityParty4one · 21/01/2020 03:05

Hello.
2 to 3 hours and that's my lot.
I would love to have a lie in.
Mine is mostly hormonal insomnia but it can happen randomly like tonight.

I have a full pack of zoplicon in the cupboard. Prescribed 2 years ago when I was suffering from depression. I was too scared to take it in case I became reliant.

Retroflex · 21/01/2020 03:10

@PityParty4one if you have the medication which would help you to beat insomnia and get some sleep, I don't know why you wouldn't try. I realise that the risk of addiction can be a scary thought, but your Dr would help you if that ever became a problem...

stuckinthemiddlewithtwats · 21/01/2020 03:22

I sympathise OP, I struggle badly with sleep too but have no idea why.

I go to bed at 1am, get up at 5am for work but will spend 90% of those 4hrs awake. I commute for 4hrs a day minimum yet don't even doze during that. I'm shattered yet cannot sleep. The more tired I get, the less I sleep.

I'm now pregnant and my sleep is even worse. Last night I managed to get to sleep just after 3am, woke at 3:16am and that was it until 5:30 when I got an hour sleep as I had a day off work so could 'lie in'. We had a really busy day, yet here I am still awake and so far had 4 10min dozes. It's beyond a joke now and I have no reason for the bad sleep - it's been years and years of the same yet I have no known illnesses, no diagnosed anxieties etc. I don't wake up with the fear and dread that some have mentioned in this thread.

And what pisses me off most is that however much I huff and puff about it, tossing and turning in bed, my DP is fast asleep for at least 8hrs a night then complains how tired he is.

Reallycantbefuckedtothink · 21/01/2020 03:38

@stuckinthemiddlewithtwats

I had exactly the same, so take comfort in this, my DS was a dream baby slept 4 hours, woke up fed changed slept for 4 hours and continue, you could set a watch by him.

He turned out to be an arsehole toddler, but I assume that was due to my smugness at having such a great baby.

Also DP survived by only barely

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Mummaofmytribe · 21/01/2020 04:03

reallycantbefuckedtothinkthankyou for that.
Your username is my next tattoo btw. Across my forehead perhaps:)
Solidarity, sleepless sisters all.

Idolovechocolategimmygimmy · 21/01/2020 04:04

I'm awake now have been since 2am going off my head here. My DD wakes me then I can't get back to sleep.