To think this is a bit weird?

[poppymatilda]

So my mum sometimes comes to visit. For context: She's a bit difficult/eccentric and I find her visits a bit challenging but I go along with them because it's better than going to her house and I want DD to know her granny - anyway that's a whole other story and not the subject of this post.

One thing she often does when she visits is change into her nighty at tea time. She'll then have dinner with us and sit downstairs all evening in just her nighty, no underwear or anything. She put her legs up on the sofa the other day and flashed DH! She's in her late 60s and wears t-shirt material nighties from M&S. Is it me or is this a bit odd?

My DH and I don't stand on ceremony at home - I'll usually change into a hoody and leggings when I get home for the day but somehow that seems a bit different to me than a nighty. When I suggested she wear clothes in the evening she got all defensive and said I should make her feel at home in my house not dictate how she dresses which made me think IABU...

@TheFormidableMrsC

Yay!!

When I finally make it down to yours, lets make it a flobbing weekender:o:o

@MarthasGinYard HELICOCKTER.

Would it be acceptable if it was a youthful minge with a Brazilian?

Oh ffs, stop being so obtuse. 🙄

I guess she's taking the expression of "make yourself at home" too literally so is doing exactly what she does at home...

Is she aware that she accidentally exposed her vag to her SIL? If not, perhaps tell her. If that doesn't get her to cover up, nothing will. But it's your house, so tell her to turn up next time with a dressing gown, or don't bother at all. It's nice you want your DC/'s to see their DGM, but it looks like they could quite easily see way more of her than they would ever want to see!

Oh ffs, stop being so obtuse
Oh ffs - ageism 😱 slut shaming 😱 body shaming 😱

Oh ffs discuss and debate instead of going on the attack and insulting posters.

Good God, point out as well as scarring your dp for life and showing your poor dd where her mother came from she'll also be leaving snail trails allover the place.

Just no. My face ate itself cringing just thinking about it. [santa]

Give her some !leggings and a dressing gown saying "fgs woman, make yourself decent". If she objects tell her she'll have to "get used to you and your little ways" tinkly bloody laugh.

Sounds like she's getting a kick out of making you feel uncomfortable. Obviously an exhibitionist. And a flasher. And a pain in the arse. I'll bet my bottom dollar that she doesn't pull this shit at her home.

I can’t speak for the OP but personally it wouldn’t matter if it was old or young, Brazillianed or left wild. I don’t want to see anyone’s genitals whilst I’m watching the telly or eating my tea.
Imagine how people would react if it was a man letting it all hang out in front of relatives?

I'd agree, i don't care about age, i don't think anyone on here thinks it ok if it's a younger person either, personally I don't want to see anyone genitalia over my dinner table or whilst watching the tv at home.

There is always a small minority on these threads who try to argue it's ok. My neighbour struts about in front of their window naked, just don't look, my husband flashes his cock in his dressing gown, let the man be, my mother flashes her genitalia at my husband, all good here.

I also come to the same conclusion as the pp, the small minority of people who think it's ok must be the ones who do it themselves.

Oh - what UYScuti says - this could be early-onset dementia. Has she always been like this?

No one should flash their genitals at anyone and i wouldn't be impressed with it. It sounds like she wants a reaction, does she normally like that?

Nothing wrong with braless imo but then I'm constantly braless due to extremely painful breasts. Be it out and about or at work!

I can’t go brakes, even too sleep as it makes my boobs more painful. Debenhams do a fab range of sleep wear with built in boob support which is both comfy and covered up. My boss has a habit of popping round in the evening so I like to be suitably dressed!

Oh my, it’s too early! I meant braless! And to not too

Or the woman who can’t stand the sight of her own mothers vulva - WHERE SHE CAME FROM That was the last time I would want to see it as well.

My mother used to do this. Meant you couldn't ever invite anyone over, ever, because even if she was simply sitting in the garden she'd have to pull her skirt up so you could see her knickers. She'd say it was to tan her legs but really it was a power play, and not something she'd do if there were no visitors. And she was in her nightie at 6pm as well. She'd also say it was her way and totally natural but it was bloody selfish for everyone else.

My concern would also be that it is unhygienic. I wouldn't want my child to sit and roll on a sofa where someone sat with their bare bits. If for no other reason (and I do think that flashing is completely unacceptable), I'd ask them to dress properly for that reason.

Make a placard stating ‘GUESTS NEED GUSSETS!’

Yanbu.No way would I want to be clocking my MIL flange at any point.Your poor dh

Ughh that’s grim. She should at least wear underwear and a dressing gown.

I'm agreeing with those saying this is a power play. I've seen this behaviour to a similar worse degree before & that was definitely power play & resulted in the couple splitting up & the DM moving in.

In this case the DM was mid 70s, unhappy in her own relationship & saw her DDs DP as in the way to her moving in. DD wouldn't stand up to her over it, which led to arguments & bad feeling with her DP & them splitting up as he felt totally undervalued & saw what the DM was up to. She started out like this & escalated to wandering around in a shocking pink Lacey g string & bending over deliberately in front of the DP if the DP complained directly to her, she belittle him with, "oh aren't we tge arrogant stuffy one, I'm gay, so why on earth would you think I was putting in a show fir you, get over yourself & then carried on. She wo & moved in with her DD for a while after he had left.

Mind you, we've also had my 95 yr GMIL flashing her stocking, suspenders & g string to a room full of DPs mates & family. When he whispered to her to cover up, he got a loud "don't be so uptight, they're clean" that was a one off & funny. If it had been regular
She'd never have got through the door again.

You need to put your foot down firmly. Your house, your rules & make her wear pyjamas

Powerplay?
That's not the expression I'd use😳 this is like your mum flirting with your boyfriend when you were17 amplified to an unimaginably grotesque level
Then again disinhibition can be an early sign of cognitive impairment