Birthday girl's mum sending me rude messages! AIBU?

[ReasonNorTreason]

DS was invited to a party with a theme of 'ballerinas or pirates'.

I sent DS as a ballet dancer (as he does dancing), in his usual leotard, shorts, tights and ballet slippers. It's a very friendly community and no 'sissy' comments or opinions as far as I know. DS got nothing but compliments from other parents, children were just excited to see him and no child commented on his outfit.

Anyway, just received a message 10 minutes ago saying the following

"So! You really had to put Joseph in something else didn't you! Why couldn't you stick to the theme? I think it's just unfair, if I'm honest. Not impressed. You aren't fucking sane".

AIBU to 1. Have dressed DS the way I did, and 2., think she must be drinking right now?

I'll be honest and say I'm annoyed at her text but really quite nervous to see her again at the nursery. What baffles me the most is we arrived with a friend who's DD wore a princess outfit and friend explained the situation that she just put on what she could grab - The woman who's text me just laughed and said not to worry at all! I assume she didn't say anything to me right then as DS still had his coat on when he arrived

Fuck my daughter had a pirate themed party I must have fucked with the universe.

If you really wanted to wind her up you could just reply with 'lol' and ignore anything else she says.

I think every hour on the hour you should send her a link to a YouTube video of a Male ballerina. For the next week.

She sounds absolutely deranged!

@ReasonNorTreason I see you've replied but, I would forward the message from her to all the other moms and then send a message after saying, oops, sorry, this was meant for Reason.

Aka ballerinos

She's a sexist idiot!! I'd leave it.

I would screenshot her text and expose her on social media, she’s American after all so no need to be subtle or the bigger person

"HI, ENJOYING YOUR SAT NIGHT?? He just wore his dancing outfit, the one he wear for classes. See you at nursery, hope the head isn't too sore in the morning.'

that's what I would say... would make me less anxious about seeing her...

I take it he upstaged the birthday boy then.

You need to respond.

Don't let her get away with that last text of hers.

Remark that you hope her daughter managed to enjoy her party despite her mother's attitude problem. Finish with 'You have a blessed day now'.

I can't believe she texted you having a go at you then has the cheek to say you're rude

cbeebiessavedmylife Sat 18-Jan-20 21:50:41
How is ballet dancer only for girls?

I take it you have never spent any time in a red state?

beware the cray-cray they can be dangerous!

Wtf is the mum sending you that text for?? Your son was in theme as he was dressed in his ballet things that text says so much more about her than anybody else at the party who as you say had no issue at all

Madness! But I can understand I once got the same because my daughter went to a pirates and princesses party as a pirate!

'she texted you having a go at you then has the cheek to say you're rude'
she is the alpha, anything less that total agreement with her every whim goes into the 'rude' category
these types dont do nuance, it takes too much cognitive processing power:)

Why are you giving her power that means you are nervous to see her ?

That sounds insane! You can tell her to watch 'Billy Elliot', or an old ballet with Rudolf Nureyev, before she makes any more stupid comments. Moreover, even if you'd sent him in the wrong costume, it wouldn't justify her ranting and swearing at you like that. Has she acted like that before over anything.

She sounds like a total nutter. I'd avoid her like the plague.

If any response is required I would say 'X enjoys ballet lessons. Do you have a problem with that???'

She sounds a total fuckwit.

Oh my, ballet dancer, dinosaur, or going as Priscilla Queen of the desert. Who cares!! They are 3 for gods sake. OP you have been very restrained as long as the kids had fun but I’d def swerve the Mum and hope that you don’t have to have much to do with her.

I think a lol with that swan lake picture would be hilarious!

You're right though probably best to go with dignified silence. There's no reasoning with stupid.

Mess with her head - tell her you’ll pray for her.

Alright! Own up! Which one of you feckers has left the door open to the time vortex?

I'm sorry - it might have been me. I was feeding the Garden Gnomes and I tripped over a tiny fishing rod* and knocked myself out on a plastic flamingo. The 1950's was wide open for about an hour. I know there was some crossover because there was a coalman's horse grazing on my hydrangea when I came round. I shoo-ed it back through and closed the wormhole. I expect she got through then.

*I was not tipsy. All I'd had was a case of babycham.

@lottiegarbanzo
YYY to that Olivia book.

www.publishersweekly.com/pw/by-topic/authors/interviews/article/53761-q-a-with-ian-falconer.html

We got the Olivia books one by one as they came out, in my home. Loved them all.