AIBU to not allow dc to travel alone with DH to his country?

[BellaBicycle]

Our marriage is over, we are planning our separation and divorce. DH is from an EU country and wants to take all 3 dc there during half term to see his elderly family. DC have citizenships of that country. Given how things are I have said no, I am uncomfortable with it, but his family can travel here to see them, he says they are too old and infirm. He had wanted to take them for a while. I just feel I can’t risk it, don’t trust him, and especially as he got them the citizenships last year. He told me I am crazy and there’s actually something wrong with me mentally for refusing, and I shouldn’t be unreasonable when he has sick parents.
AIBU?

Have you started divorce proceedings?

I think you need to seek legal advice but try to gather your thoughts beforehand to help paint a true picture because some of things you have mentioned later on in the thread are really concerning. He wants to take DC to visit his ageing relatives - not unreasonable. You've found a school prospectus for his home country, he's gained citizenship for the DC, he has limited ties to the uk and his work isnt here - you would be insane to let him to take the DC abroad and not see a family solicitor

Trust your gut Op - say no and don't let them go unless a court orders you to.

Absolutely NOT.

He is an abuser.

Do not trust a word he says.

Well done for leaving your marriage.

Get the passports out of the house into a safe place.

If he has the passports go to the police and tell them your fears of him taking the children.

Give them your children's passport numbers so that they can be flagged.

He is not to be trusted. He is an abuser.

The passports are gone - got them out a while ago.

Haven’t petitioned the divorce yet, wondering if I should after reading everything here?

I’ve spoken to a solicitor who has told me there is no such thing as a residency orders anymore, these have been replaced by a child arrangement order, and all arrangements to do with DC can be included in one of these, which DH can obviously challenge. Solicitor said it would be unlikely for a judge to agree to school HDC travelling by plane two hours every fortnight, but may be agreed for some of the school holidays.

Solicitor has told me that the petition should go in at the same time as a child arrangement order.

@BellaBicycle how are you doing?

During my divorce my ex disappeared with my son for 6 months. Only came back because he was worried about going to prison. This was to Ireland pre Brexit. After that he lost joint custody and didn't see him again until he was an adult. Don't trust him. This was meant to be a two week holiday.