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Original poster

in refusing to delay my daughters birthday so daddy can be there?

130 replies

paddlinglikemad · 29/08/2007 21:58

it is my DD's 2nd birthday on Friday, my DH will be away with work stuff until Saturday evening ( depending on trains etc ) until about 6pm ...he asked me on Monday if we could have her birthday on the Saturday instead and I said I thought that was a bit strange, but we could save her main present and he could give it to her when he sees her....he is not happy ..am I in the wrong ? ( although too late now as I have little party friends coming over on Friday!!)

OP posts:
nightowl · 29/08/2007 23:33

im seriously confuddled..havent been on here much lately (and i'm dim at the best of times) tired too.

no sarcasm intended at all, just very curious!

unknownrebelbang · 29/08/2007 23:35

Do I need to add my YABU??

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 29/08/2007 23:37

Nightowl

Strikes me as MN as it used to be.

Ask a question, and get the truth.

No pink stuff, no hun, no nonsense.

twofishes · 29/08/2007 23:38

to sum up Nightowl..Paddlingmad DD birthday is Friday, DH has 'volunteered' to go away with work eventhough they were supposed to be going on planned holiday..paddling is a bit mad ( okay I would think..only human) DH wants to have DD's birthday when he gets back , paddling thinks thats not right ..so a difference in outlook has resulted in paddling hating her husband, only using him as a sperm donor and cash machine and using her kids as a weapon of war and is obvioulsy a very mixed woman with deep emotional problems etcetc as usual blown out of all proportion on MN...others might be interested in reading her previous posts...

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 29/08/2007 23:38

My last word on the subject.

The OP refers to my daughter, this IMO is quite chilling.

Tortington · 29/08/2007 23:39

no glitter

twofishes · 29/08/2007 23:39

maybe if we try really hard we could tip her over the edge..

nightowl · 29/08/2007 23:39

you mean about four years ago when i first joined bree?

it was an honest question...have never done the hun thing meself.

Skribble · 29/08/2007 23:40

Over the years we quite often give the kids two birthday days, Normally have a tea party at Granny's and birthday tea out or a party with freinds, never seems to be on their actual birthday as we both work iregular evenings so never know what day the tea party might be.

I think it heps to teach kids to be flexable about these kind of things, explain to 6 yr old you are waiting until daddy is home for the big party. Why not have a special birthday tea ont he actual day too and get 6 yrold to help decorate and perhaps give their present.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 29/08/2007 23:40

Custy

Forgot the glitter.

But yes you have a point.

Tortington · 29/08/2007 23:41

no sprinkles.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 29/08/2007 23:42

Oh arse and the sprinkles....

Pan · 29/08/2007 23:42

Wow. What IS the point of this thread?? OP is entertaining unpleasant thoughts about dh..working them out on a birthday party of a child..why start a thread at all?? She knows what she is doing.

Why do a thread about it? Hmm? Hmmmm??

Tortington · 29/08/2007 23:43

but i do have this......

a love heart sweet which reads

"i heart bree"

how strange.

slurrrrrrrrrrrrrp

oops · 29/08/2007 23:43

Message withdrawn

battlestar · 29/08/2007 23:43

lol

Tortington · 29/08/2007 23:44

Pan the Man. words of sweet wisdom as ever. glitter and sprinkles to you

oops · 29/08/2007 23:45

Message withdrawn

TotalChaos · 29/08/2007 23:45

what is it with you and glitter tonight Custy??

YABU. Yep you are annoyed over holiday etc, but birthdays are special, don't drag other arguments into it.

Tortington · 29/08/2007 23:46

well quite oops. I agree wholeheartedly. One would assume delight at the prospect of such a caring parent who wants to actually spend the time with his daughter.

Original poster
paddlinglikemad · 29/08/2007 23:46

you see i have the wrong idea I was actually recommended MN by a HV when I had PND as a way of talking problems through, people may be in the wrong but what started as a reasoned disagreement ended up with horrid stuff obviously I am too wet for MN need to find a soppy site soppymumsrus or something ...

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WendyWeber · 29/08/2007 23:46

Yes the OP is being unreasonable on this point, but she is pissed off about the holiday, venting in general, and doesn't really expect anyone to say YANBU I think - just enjoying the vent (as you do)

I think some of the venom is a bit OTT, frankly (even for a nest of vipers )

Tortington · 29/08/2007 23:47

TotalChaos i hope your not a namechanger i would give you glitter and sprinkles but i must withhold until i am sure i love you

Skribble · 29/08/2007 23:48

Don't be daft, you asked the question so you will get a variety of answers, just happens on this occassionmost disagree.

Tortington · 29/08/2007 23:49

paddling...much hugs and kisses with sprinkles of sugared icing.

it is with much love and kindness i say that one cannot ask if one is unreasonable if one doesn't actually want a reply.

i shall make you a doily