To say I HAVE to leave my three year old for 2 minutes

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Sat in hospital with my daughter, hopefully coming home tonight, we've been here since about 9:30 and we were at the doctors before being sent here by the gp.
As of yet I have had nothing to eat or drink, didn't have chance before rushing out at 8am for an emergency docs appointment. I have needed the loo for the last hour, tmi but I'm on my period, and I really need to go.
Nurses say I'm not allowed to leave my three year old on the ward alone to nip to the parent toilets (which are the other side of the nurses desk).
AIBU to just say I HAVE to go to the toilet and go?

@savingshoes

As part of training, nurses are provided with specialist training to hold their urine for over 12-14 hour shifts... some of the mature nurses have a catheter in situ to help reduce toilet breaks...

What the actual fuck?????? Where is your evidence for this???? Out of all the ridiculous things I have ever read on here, this has to take the bloody biscuit!

Trained to hold urine for up to 14 hrs, self catheterise????

You, my friends, are totally bonkers!

Sorry OP that your daughter is back in hospital xx xx

As part of training, nurses are provided with specialist training to hold their urine for over 12-14 hour shifts... some of the mature nurses have a catheter in situ to help reduce toilet breaks

Don't. This is probably one of Boris' big ideas for the NHS. Nurses who don't need loo breaks (they probably don't get them a lot of the time anyway).

@MakeMineALarge1

Presumably the sarcasm went way over your head

Clearly it did

My son had a direct to ward open attendance letter due to a temporary condition
When we were Ibiza teapot admitted via a&e it was unexpected I was in t shirt and shorts and hadn’t eaten for hours. The morning staff were horrified the night crew hadn’t been told - they had a parents kitchen on the ward you helped yourself to tea biscuits and fruit and out in a contribution if you could afford it. My son was limited diet and due to days of week the ward staff knew they would get it wrong for first rounds so sent the student to the shop for milk he could have. I nearly cried.

They are nurses, of course they cannot tell you not to leave her, they simply cannot do this, you need to be assertive and tell them so, also there may be children whose parents cannot always be present, what happens then

How strange of them for a few minutes
To go to the toilet. When my DS was in hospital another parent was going out all the time for cigarettes and meeting her friend on another ward whilst the staff kept an eye on her child. They even asked me if I was going to stay over night as they are able to look after the children over night

I have more than one child to care for and elderly relatives. How would this work for me.
When I was little I was admitted to hospital and my mum only saw me for 3 hours a day, i was an only child. How did it come to this?

It is really difficult being in hospital with a young child - with babies you can pull the sides of the cot up and once they are a bit older they understand being told to stay put - but the bit in-between is a nightmare. And it definitely varies depending on which staff are on shift! Really out of order to tell you that you can’t go to the toilet though. If you are there for a while, do you have a friend or family member who could come and sit with your daughter so you can have a break? That was a lifesaver for me.

Bizarrely we had the opposite problem not so long ago - we had to leave DD (7) on a ward in one hospital while we went to the other hospital in the same city to see a different consultant! Hated leaving her but to be fair the volunteers and staff on the ward ensured she was never alone - we were gone about 2.5 hours
Hope your dd is better soon

We're still here but the staff since she has been put in her own room have bern amazing. Also that lovely student nurse sent the ward sister to speak to me yesterday about the fact I wasn't allowed to go to the toilet and she was horrified and is going to look into why that happened.
Thank you for the well wishes

That student nurse is going to be a great nurse.

Student nurse needs a huge thank you - she clearly used her initiative and common sense. Maybe you could offer to write a note to her supervisor.

I asked the ward sister about passing on compliments and she's given me a compliment card from pals which I've filled in. It says that all staff who receive nominations get invited to an awards ceremony. Do you think a note to her supervisor as well would be a good idea? She isn't in today but she was so wonderful