To expect DH to cover builders bum

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My husband embarrasses me because he refuses to pull up his trousers to hide his builders bum. Approximately 5-7inches of solid crack multiple times a day.

It's been like this since day on of relationship. I ask and he pretends to or pulls his shirt over instead. He has no shame, he doesn't go red or anything. When we have guests they've had to look away in embarrassment also. My family and his have called him out on it. Our kids too.

He says weight and low balls is why he can't pull up his trousers more. Other times he says he has done it or has he hands full or CBA.

Naked he has no bum. No they probably just slide down.

It's really giving me the Ick.

Aibu to expect him to cover it?

I’m sorry. But you shave to his request?

Fuck that! My husband takes me as I am. He married me for me. Imperfections and all! He’s never ever asked me to change or shave to his requests!

Controlling.

My ex used to do this. I'm so happy we're not together any more.

I agree with folk who say you should stop making the effort with personal grooming unless he shows his appreciation by putting his hairy arse away.

@73Sunglasslover google 'trousers for tall skinny men'. There's bloody loads. And definitely better than his arse hanging out

It's awful his arse hanging out. Hideous. But we've tried loads of trousers and they make no difference. Woven elasticated belt not been tried yet so that I will be doing.

Buy him a kilt!!! roblem solved- unless those big saggy balls show beneath the hem of the kilt

I wouldn't expect him to change tbh but I certainly wouldn't be making an effort for him either. I dont actually think you can complain about something that he has aways done. If you really dont like it then you shouldn't have married him and had kids with him when it was clear that despite him knowing you didn't like it he carried on .
And in all honesty if a male came on here and said his wife had a crop top or low trousers that exposed a large stomach complete with stretch marks he would be told in no uncertain terms that if she wanted to dress like that its her choice. If he wants to wear very thin leggings that leave nothing to the imagination or walk around with the worlds largest camel toe her choice.
He is going to dress how he wants and so should you.

No man will change. We shouldn’t expect people to change

Even when their behaviour is childish and/or offensive?